To be livid with my SIL

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SIL very kindly looked after dc whilst I went to work for a day. We do not let them have fizzy drinks. They are 5 and 3. SIL gave them fanta and said don't tell Mummy I am livid.
She knows we don't give it to thme

I'd be cross too.

FAMILIES!!!!!!!!!!!

chill out

chill out

The "don't tell mummy" bit would make me angrier that the juice. My SIL does this too.

it isnt really the end of the world - take a chill pill - and some fanta

unless one of your kids is allergic to them then YABU. It's not exactly the crime of the century and she was looking after them as a favour to you.

That is what happens when we use our families for free childcare.

Dont let her look after your kids again if you cant bear that your kids get the odd treat that you wont allow.

YABU

Nah, I'm with you there. Chocolate, crips, junk food, I have comfort with them all. But fizzy juice is the piss of the devil as far as I'm concerened.

I would be a bit annoyed, but if she doesn't look after them regularly I might not say anything. She was doing you a favour, and Aunties are allowed to be a bit naughty if they're not doing regular childcare, imo.

My SIL looked after DS while I was in hospital overnight and took him to the zoo, he ate loads of crap and missed his nap, but I was so grateful to her for doing it that I didn't care! (He now thinks Auntie is the best person ever....)

Or only if she was going to look after them again, I might say 'please don't give them any fizzy drinks, we don't let them have them'.

After all, one fizzy drink isn't going to harm them too much, and it's not worth falling out over.

And as I said.....asking kids "not to tell mummy" is shit.

the 'don't tell mummy' bit it awful. Really awful.

She begged to look after them. I have overlooked the crap for lunch the telly afternoon etc but the doing things behind my back is a step to far

How kind of her to look after your children.

She probably doens't really quite how anti you are.

Sweets fine.
The devils piss no.

I really think if your children eat a healthy, balanced diet most of the time, the odd treat like this is not worth getting livid over

I think it is an aunt's perogative to spoil/treat nieces and nephews

as for doing it behind your back - well tis a bit silly but not worth fuming over espeically as your children told you all about it!

I don't see fizzy juice as a treat.

Chocolate, sweet, crisps, McDonalds, ice cream yeah.

YABU

Don't like my kids drinking it, but a dietician friend of mine told me that fresh fruit juice has the same amount of sugar (and is just as bad for the teeth because of the fruit acids)which makes you think.

is fizzy pop not a treat then ....

are there classifications?

YABU

You could just let her know though that children of that age simply can't keep a secret

That should do the trick.

Children just seem to accept that there are different rules at other peoples houses.