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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want to destroy the stupid people in the parking lot

105 replies

lilysmummy2007 · 26/08/2008 15:42

there was a funfair at brockwell park over the weekend and yesterday was the last day, the only place to park is at the lido and it was full, but 3 families or rather 1 huge family with 3 cars were packing up to leave, so we sat in the car waiting, along with another car who thought the same, after taking 15 minutes to close their pram and put thier baby in one of the cars, with them looking at us and knowing we were waiting to park, they all then started a long family reunion at the car park, just blabbering for more than 30 mins, DP was very pissed off so we asked politely if they were leaving as we wanted to park as well, the one of the ladies barked in a coarse jamaican accent 'well you will just have to wait till we are ready to go' how rude!! i dont know where these people come from but i hate when the have no manners and are just plain rude. All the stupid woman had to say was they werent leaving yet or something and we would have just tried to find somewhere else, we just left as we had alreay wasted almost 40 mins waiting patiently. AIBU to be aggravated about this?

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WickedBitchoftheEast · 29/08/2008 11:31

You did state clearly in your OP that your 'DP was very pissed off' and as you had sat there '40 mins' quite possibly giving them exasperated looks, maybe she had psyched herself up ready for when you approached them?

The point the others are making is that an accent has no bearing on the discourse, and your use of it here does imply (rightly or wrongly) that you saw her as inferior due to her 'coarse Jamaican accent', if she had used crisp well pronounced English would you have called her a snob ?

Either way she can't win.

Bumdiddley · 29/08/2008 11:40

I still think - despite all the protestions about 3 buggies, toys and hamper - you should have got a bus or walked.

Two buggies shared between the 3 of them, no toys and food under the buggies instead in a hamper?

People are sooo attached to their cars. If they actually left it at home occasionally they might find that it is possible to exist without it - and wouldn't post inflamatory threads....

captainmummy · 29/08/2008 19:51

Yep - they make double buggies now you know. So 1 double and 1 single and you could go by tube.

Veraduckworthshandbag · 29/08/2008 20:10

Dear dear lilysmummy, you have got the witch hunt going.

Firstly YANBU not in the least
Next why should you drag your children about on the tube/bus and so on when you have a car?
Some people are just so on the band wagon of kill the car it beggers belief.

Also you are no way racist, the woman black white or green is a rude bitch and I would have run her over with my lovely car if she had been so bloody rude to me.
But you have given the PC lot a feast, not every black person is nice some are down right evil, same as some white people.
Next time say that they were in a 4x4 in a parent and child space, but without the child, mumsnetters will fall over themselves to fight your corner,

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lilysmummy2007 · 30/08/2008 02:52

vera, thanks very very much at least someone put themselves in my shoe, and the car thing is true, why do i pay insurance and tax, and put petrol in the car to then use the tube or bus?? the car is meant to be used to get around, not sit in the drive, will definitely look into the running over bit next time secondly all those raving about a double buggy, THE TWINS ARE DISABLED, where do you get a double special needs buggy suitable for 5 year olds??? wicked witch, maybe she had been waiting to see if i owuld approach her and planned her response, ''and your use of it here does imply (rightly or wrongly) that you saw her as inferior due to her 'coarse Jamaican accent', if she had used crisp well pronounced English would you have called her a snob ?''
i did not see her as inferior as i was in no position to think that, she was well dressed, goodlookingi was in jeans and tshirt but after the conversation, the impression i got was she felt she was better thanme, and yes i would have called her a snobb if she was snobby!

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lilysmummy2007 · 30/08/2008 02:57

and polar bear what is a troll??? please search my name or messages and see that im a regular mum with no ulterior motives and whatever a troll is im not!!

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StealthPolarBear · 30/08/2008 09:16

well you obviously have the idea!
someone who posts inflammatory stuff to get a rise, and since your AIBU OP contains:

-Parking spaces
-Racism (yes it does)
and
-General judginess

you can see why I might have thought that!

nappyaddict · 30/08/2008 17:59

You can actually get double special needs buggies i saw one ebay the other week.

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lilysmummy2007 · 30/08/2008 19:22

and who has £599 to give my friend to buy one?

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KVC · 30/08/2008 19:27

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kittycats · 30/08/2008 20:01

lilysmummy2007 i dont think you were being racist at all and i really cant understand why people say you were.you cant say anything today without somebody taking offence.

babylove21 · 30/08/2008 21:12

I dont think you are being unreasonable. Hanging around in a car waiting, with kids, especially kids who are fast running out of patients, is definately no fun.
Ok so they don't have to give up a space for you, But i agree, the lady could have been polite about it.

It is possible that your tone may have been a little aggitated ( as you had waited so long) and perhaps the response was to that.

It's a bit like waiting for someone to load their car for 10 mins only to find they don't get in it but walk back towards the shops !! Thats annoying too.

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lilysmummy2007 · 31/08/2008 01:28

that is so true kittycats, everyone has become so PC it ridiculous.KVC thanks very much for that info, she is not very clued up about these things and im not really, will check it out though. babylove thanks for understanding my point and its true i was annoyed at waiting so long but i was very polite and not in the least rude to her. Polar bear OP was not racist!!OP was not meant to be taken from the angle that so many members seem to have automatically taken it, when you all automatically jumped on the race bandwagon who was being judgy then??

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nappyaddict · 31/08/2008 01:42

sometimes though no matter how polite you try to be your face gives it away without you realising. and if your dp was looking pissed off too she was probably just responding to that.

WickedBitchoftheEast · 31/08/2008 03:41

I am sure most of us on here do know where you are coming from, and i'm sure they could have moved and probably should have moved, but your remarks did you no favours in gaining any sympathy/understanding.

I KNOW you say you did not mean it that way, but that was how it came across, intentional or not.

VD ~ it is not a witch hunt, Firstly she asked for our opinion, Secondly 98% of us can't be wrong.

It may serve as a lesson to us all to take a bit more care when we word these threads.

Blu · 31/08/2008 11:18

Just as point of information for people who are not local - (and to keep stirring - after all it's nice to see VeraDuckworth pop up.... ) if you were to travel to Brockwell Park by tube you would go to Brixton tube. If you live in Brixton (as lily says she does) you would go from Brixton tube.....Brockwell Park might as well be called Brixton park.....(although it is on the Southern edge of Brixton, so a mile and a half perhaps from the Northern edge of Brixton).

nappyaddict · 31/08/2008 12:28

I'm not sure I understand ... do you mean the nearest tube to brockwell park is brixton tube? so lily wouldn't have neededto get the tube?

Blu · 31/08/2008 14:04

Yes!

Brockwell park is in Brixton.

Though to be fair it is a bit of a hike with children if you live on the other side of Brixton.

nappyaddict · 31/08/2008 15:44

She did say her lo was only 16 months so probably wouldn't manage that far. this is why i love carriers and buggy boards!!

wheresthehamster · 31/08/2008 15:59

How do 2 people push 3 pushchairs round a funfair? I wouldn't even have the energy to consider it

nappyaddict · 31/08/2008 16:06

they only had 2 pushchairs. the op's dd was walking around the fair.

Ripeberry · 31/08/2008 16:15

The OP is being unreasonable, i can't stand it when people think they can just sit there in their cars waiting for you to leave.
If there is no space just go around again or just don't park there and go home!
I would never dream of asking someone to hurry up, especially if they had a baby.
When i had DD1, people were always very rude and trying to bully me out of a parking space, so since then if anyone does that to me now, i'll tell them the same "Wait until I'M good and ready to leave!" "If you don't like it p*ss off".
A parking space is occupied until that person wants to leave, sitting in your car iddling and fuming WON'T make people move any faster!

ThinWhiteDuchess · 31/08/2008 16:48

Lilysmummy, YABU. You asked in your OP if YABU to "to want to destroy the stupid people in the parking lot". Um, yes you are. Totally. I hate people waiting for me to leave a parking space. It happened the other day (when there were loads of free spaces not too far away). I had just got back to car with DD in buggy, bags of shopping, etc., when some fool decided to wait for me to pack up and leave. By doing so he blocked the roadway so no-one could get round him. I was loath though to hurry up. It really, really annoyed me and actually made me go just that little bit slower on purpose.

Also, YABU to mention coarse accents, etc. These people were not being rude. But you were. Very. You asked if you were BU, so don't go getting upset when people say you were!

Blu · 31/08/2008 18:16

Lily - Zoom off down there now! The fair is still there and the car park is not full! (grey day s no lido users!)

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lilysmummy2007 · 31/08/2008 21:10

thanks blu, the twins have gone back already an it was really for them as lily is only 16 months and would only roll around on the wet grass as she did today on clapham common, which is closer to me than brockwell as i live in clapham streatham borders rather than central brixton, used to live on acre lane which would have been much easier, am considering buying a back pack carrier now as they are planning on moving closer so could have them more often, Thinnhiteduchess you dont know what you are on about so best dont comment if you havent read the whole thread, you seem to be like the woman mentioned in my OP, purposefully being slow to pack up and leave, you cant possibly say youve never waited on a parking spot to clear so shant even bother to reply,same goes to ripe berry

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