To BLW my dd in restaurants without comments or disaproving looks?

[hughjarssss]

I have always done a mixture of spoon feeding and BLW.
When me and dp go out with dd (10 months)to a restaurant, we make sure we order something she can eat as well.

Then we just put it on her highchair tray and let her get on with it.

So if we go to the local carvery, we give dd lots of different vegtables, yesterday we went to a Tapas restaurant and she tried a little bit of what we had (as long as it was suitable). She had fun and tried new and different flavours.

But other people seem to have a problem with feeding her like this, and along with the nasty looks I get, people also make snide comments like 'shouldn't she have a bowl', 'can't she eat from a spoon?'.

This makes me feel like a bad parent, so am I being unreasnable in feeding her like this?

"forthrisght and robust...is that another way to discribe very rude replies than?"

Er.... no, it's a way of saying "if you ask a question in AIBU, it is highly likely you won't be covered in universal praise, and if you are likely to be upset by this, perhaps a different section of the board might be more appropriate for you".

But I couldn't be arsed to type all that.

And none of the replies have been "very rude" towards the OP.

Some posters have made mock of BLW.

Not a crime against humanity, as far as I'm aware.

MN has very little wit or humour lately, and is very quick to display outrage and passive aggression.

It is a shame.

Hugh, in honesty, I'd let it go. Cod's comment was flippant - yes, it irritated you, but is it really worth getting that upset over?

Yes being called a liar and a troublemaker, is just robust then?

i dint SERIOUSLY think you were a liar
i just coulndt belive it

nwo if htis is how you react to an AIBU thread no wonder you are easy to take offence

if oyu say" i cant bleive tat"

IT ALSOMEANS MAYBE THE op HAS EXAGGERATED/IMAGINEd it etc

imagined = made up/lied

but why has everything to be mocked....why have people such fun taking the piss and making others feel rubbish...yes AIBU sadly often go down that line....but it is still silly that they do....but that is just my opinion of course....

because tis diverting of course

lol.

blw, as it happens, isn't just finger food so much as just finger food. no pissing around with purees. now obviously that in RL is not a firm cult ruling , but the thinking behind BLW is very much that the child self-feeds from day dot. in fact, self-feeding is a much better name that BLW but the latter has stuck unfortunately.

i did it with dd, which is to say that i was given an annabel karmel book and thought 'ffs who's got the time for all that if i've waited until 6 mos and can try her on finger food?' (which she wolfed), and we did get a lot of comments in restaurants when she was wee.

never bad ones, that i recall, but she did generate a lot of interest chewing on her pasta from my plate from staff more accustomed to heating up purees for mums of young babies.

i always operated on the basis that people enjoy seeing babies enjoying their food, whether it's puree wolfed off a spoon or steak out of a six-month-old fist (18 mos, christy, really? why would anyone be boasting about that? ), so i took it in good spirit.

if people are being mingy in public about anything to do with your being a parent, all you can really do is chuckle and ignore it, tbh. blw, slinging, bottle feeding, breast feeding, whatever. opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one. the skill is in learning whoss opinions you want to listen to, starting with your own. (or mine) [asshole]

It's just Cod being Cod.

Hope you had a nice holiday, Cod, you were missed!

BLW isn't smug it's for lazy arsed parents like me who just can't be bothered faffing with purees and fighting at meal times trying to get food down los throats.

Hugh - why not come over here?

and the point is????
Am having a serious blond day I suppose....

but cod, you must admit that you do seem to really like to be, erm, forthright and robust in your replies on many occasions

..."I have to disagree actually babies only throw their bowls a few times (if that). Its not compulsory, and you teach them NOT to.. simple".

teachersaysso - this is splendid news. If DC4 takes after his sibs, then you could you pop round and simply teach him not to throw his bowl? Are you also able to teach babies not to scream whilst waiting for his food? Do you whisper to the errant baby or do you take a "throwing bowls is unasettable" approach?

Yours sincerely, etc etc
Mrs-Ooooh-I'm-Not-Half-As-Successful-As-You

I was wondering when Aitch was going to make an appearance!

lol duchess....

what Aitch said, except with more swearing.

I was wondering how I was meant to teach 10 months old dd not to throw her bowl

indeed, duchess...

hugh, I thought teacher was talking about teaching 6 mo old babies. You are way behind on the bowl-education front.

i know, i was pmsl at the poor babies who aren't allowed to touch the bowl on the table. 'no no darling, that's a bowl, that's not for touching. touch the carrot, touch the spoon, touch the broccoli, but not the fascinating plastic thing with teh elephants on it. cos that's a BOWL.' (everyone else's bowls have babar on them too, don't they?)

"opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one"

Classic

I must remember that

I tried one of the mats which sticks to the highchair tray and suction bottom bowls. They both ended up on the floor.
Thing is, on the packet they came in it said 12 month+ so if my weeny not-quite-8mo can pull the mat off and chuck on the floor, surely it's got no chance with a 12mo? Or are 12mo's better behaved than that?

My children only ate finger food. I won't use the term BLW because there was no philosophy behind it barring my children being awkward re spoons. Nobody really batted an eyelid except in France where some people did goggle a bit.

Anyway. Don't feel like a bad parent. If anyone comments, go with righteous indignation instead (which I think is what you do feel really). Much healthier

"pissing around with purees"!
"pissing around"!
"with purees"!

I can't believe you are being scathing about the way I chose to feed my children!

You are all so judgy!

Oh yes, we have babar too