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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

Or would I have been unreasonable to have left a stroppy note on the windscreen of the car that parked 6 inches from mine, at a careless angle, in the multistorey today?

74 replies

Twinklemegan · 22/08/2008 18:46

How careless and inconsiderate can you get? They had shedloads of space to park properly. Thank God DS's car seat is on the other side but I had to climb in via the passenger seat. Blardy idiot. I wrote a stroppy note but chickened out of leaving it in the end.

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earthpixie · 25/08/2008 21:43

I've done it once before: "Nice parking you idiot" or similar.

It is often the owners of ultra swanky, oversized status wagons who park with scant regard for the pleb vehicles around them.

WaynettaSlob · 25/08/2008 21:45

Jesus H - bring out the lynch mob!!!

Was the other car within its white lines or not? If not, then yes you are justified to be peed off. If yes, then although it's annoying, it's just tough luck really isn't it??

(and not just aimed at you Twinkle - I am at some of the comments on here)

MsSparkle · 25/08/2008 21:46

That's why i agree with this

"And ninedragons... would your DH have let down the tyre of the car at the restaurant if it had been an old car with a baby seat in, as opposed to a X5? Probably not...."

I suspect that the fact it was an X5 was more the reason than anything else.

MsSparkle · 25/08/2008 23:11

Dp and i were just talking about this situation (yes we are sad buggers) and we both agreed letting tyres down on a first time incident was totally OTT.

Had it been the case of the X5 driver parked there everyday meaning nine had to walk into the road everyday then the letting tyres down reaction wouldn't be so OTT. But as this were a first time, probably one off then letting someones tyres down was just plain wrong and petty.

I can only wonder if this is how your dh reacts to every first time offence that pisses him off??

mistyamica · 25/08/2008 23:16

HAHA! It's funny this topic is being mentioned, as I carry post it notes in my car! A number of times I have left the following message on inconsiderate people who need to learn how to park...NEXT TIME LEAVE A CROW BAR SO I CAN GET MYSELF OUT!

I have to refrain myself from writing swear words as the little ones are around!!

handlemecarefully · 25/08/2008 23:36

I had some thick bint have a go at me at the Supermarket because my car wasn't positioned perfectly centrally within the white lines.

This was because I was parked in one of the last few remaining parking spaces, and since I had the 'trolley park' on the left, I had to compensate by parking slightly off centre to the right.

She still has sufficient clearance to get into her driver side, and she had no passengers or mobility issues.

She was however a sour old bat with nothing else to worry about. I saw her off (as I do most people who bother me) with a few choice cutting remarks .

That said I empathise with OP about inconsiderate driving and parking.

misi · 25/08/2008 23:45

something easy to do, hard to undo and non damaging to your car or thiers.

carry a jar of treacle or syrup in your car, when someone parks too close, write a note and stick it to their windscreen right in their line of sight with the syrup/treacle. its such a bugger to get off and if its right in thier view out of the window whilst driving, its illegal for them to drive

handlemecarefully · 25/08/2008 23:49

You see I think that's a bit warped - to go to those kind of lengths. How about muttering quietly to yourself about wankers and their parking and driving off without taking any such premeditated or other actions. I believe this is generally what sane people do ....

misi · 25/08/2008 23:53

its not something I do, I learnt that from when I worked at a large supermarket chain at 16. people kept parking their cars across our goods entrance so stopping deliveries. so the manager started to do this and the usual repeat offenders soon stopped. the only one that didn't stop was a mini driver, so 4 of the warehouse men lifted the car onto a wall

mistyamica · 25/08/2008 23:55

I think it is a bit OTT to actually damage someone else's car just for bad parking. I always leave a big enough space infront of me when I park on the streets and you always get some arsehole who parks right up your ass! And then when the one infront of you leaves someone else parks too damn close to the front! ohhh it gets me so mad!

However, I think leaving a note is ample. I've had yobs in the past damage my car and the stress it causes is not necessary.

I'm a firm believer in 'what comes around..goes around'.

IdrisTheDragon · 26/08/2008 00:05

After reading this thread I am hoping that I never park the car in a car park near lots of people here. There have been times when due to someone on one side parking close to the line, I have had to park close to the other line so that I can get out (and get DS and DD out). I realise this might be a problem for the car on the other side, but I will be inside the lines.

TheDuchessOfSmokedNotJellied · 26/08/2008 00:17

Usually I just shoot the driver and have done with it. That teaches them. (Well, not really, because they've carked it).

[flippant emoticon]

ninedragons · 26/08/2008 03:58

Oh FFS. There is absolutely no X5 envy going on; we have a better car than that.

The point of mentioning that was the size. If it had been a smaller car, we would have been able to take DD out of the pram and pass her over the bonnet. It also wouldn't gave meant stepping out into traffic from behind a car that was higher than us.

If it had been outside a hospital I would have thought oh, poor bugger, must have a shard of glass sticking out of him and has run into Casualty, but it was a restaurant and if you are too lazy to walk 100 metres from a legal parking spot or too cheap to pay for parking then you get what is coming to you.

If you lived in a city where people routinely not only park but drive on the footpaths, you would get the red mist too.

fedupandisolated · 26/08/2008 06:51

Okay - I have never left a note (not organized enough to carry pen and paper around). I get irritated beyond belief when people park so close with no thought to how I am going to get into a car. That said I wouldn't damage a car.

However, I did LMAO at ninedragons other half.

I don't agree that the driver wouldn't have noticed the moment he started driving. Parking like this was totally inconsiderate and real "feck you" to any pedestrians.

Okay so two wrongs don't make a right. I probably wouldn't do this myself and would probably stop DH if he wanted to do the same but I get some perverse pleasure thinking about the inconsiderate driver having to change the wheel. (evil grin emoticon)

KelaH · 26/08/2008 07:30

I had this once - DD was maybe 2 months old, went to Tesco (just the two of us), no spaces in parent and baby section, so parked miles away from the store in the hopes that no-one would park next to me, and also made sure I was as far to the right as I could be (car seat on the left). Came out to find a car parked at a stupid angle, with the rear bumper partly in my space, absolutely no way I could get DD in the car.

So, I called the store and asked them to put out a call over the tannoy. Few minutes later a woman comes out (thank god not some lairy bloke!), apologising and saying she hadn't noticed - how the f* do you not notice that you couldn't walk down the driver's side of your car!?!?!?!

MsSparkle · 26/08/2008 09:57

ninedragons, no one was saying you were jealous of the X5. I think those sort of cars just provoke anger in people.

Like i said, if you had to do that journey everyday and the X5 was parked there everyday i would see why you would be so pissed and would want to let down tyres. But as it was a one off passing of an inconciderate twant then your DH's reaction was totally OTT. If everyone went around letting the tyres down of every car that was parked inconsideratly then there would be alot of flat tyres around.

Then there's the what if factor. I mean you have no idea why that car was parked there. Yes, he could have been there because he is just an asshole who can't be bothered to walk but then again he may have had a very ligit reason for parking there, you have no idea if he did or not because you made an assumption. Supposing it was some kind of emergency? Probably not but why take the risk?

If something like this ever happened again i would hope your dh would do the most decent thing and go into the restaurant and face the driver, which is much more effective to cause a bit of embaressment, rather than do the cowardly letting the tyres down and running off and laughing about it trick. If your dh had gone in and made the driver look and feel bad for making you have to go into the road, the driver would probably think twice next time. As it stands though, your dh is just the twat who let his tyre down so probably won't think twice next time.

Ripeberry · 26/08/2008 10:38

But then, the X5 driver might have grown a brain cell whilst in the restaurant and worked out that his inconsiderate parking brought about his flat tyre.
Maybe he or she will think about NOT doing it again.

WaynettaSlob · 26/08/2008 12:02

As everyone is making assumptions about the X5 driver let me add my own.....

Picture the scenario: you have recently given birth and are at home with your screamimg 4 day old baby and a huge dose of the baby blues. your nipples are aching, and you haven't eaten since breakfast. The one thing that would make things slightly better is a takeaway from your favourite restaurant. so, you duly dispatch DH to pick it up, knowing that in 25 minutes or so you can be tucking into some nice food which you haven't had to prepare yourself. Except that 25 minutes turns into 60 minutes plus because some idiot has deflated the tyres on your DH's car. Doesn't sound so clever now does it?

and ninedragons - you may well believe you have a moral right to be judge and jury, but neither you, nor anyone else, have a legal right to wilfully damage someone else's car. You could have easily called the local police station and asked them to ticket that car if it bothered you that much.

cupsoftea · 26/08/2008 12:04

Post it on www.crap-parking.com/index.php next time!

Annya · 26/08/2008 14:39

I leave notes, it makes me feel better and quite often DOES have a positive effect. What I really want to do (but have never had the right stuff with me) is a bit of sort of graffiti - stick little legs on to those incredibly irritating Jesus fish you see on the backs of cars so they become Darwin fish-with-legs.

fledtoscotland · 26/08/2008 22:00

cupsoftea - i love that website! will def be using that if i come across any spectacular parking in the future!

cupsoftea · 27/08/2008 19:57

WickedBitchoftheEast · 28/08/2008 11:30

Hey KerryMum, that's one of mine also it's good for business as DH is a panel beater/sprayer

leave the note as well though.

pinkyp · 19/09/2008 23:42

I agree with Ms sparkle
"If something like this ever happened again i would hope your dh would do the most decent thing and go into the restaurant and face the driver, which is much more effective to cause a bit of embaressment, rather than do the cowardly letting the tyres down and running off and laughing about it trick."

i think ur dp should grow some bollocks

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