Or would I have been unreasonable to have left a stroppy note on the windscreen of the car that parked 6 inches from mine, at a careless angle, in the multistorey today?

[Twinklemegan]

How careless and inconsiderate can you get? They had shedloads of space to park properly. Thank God DS's car seat is on the other side but I had to climb in via the passenger seat. Blardy idiot. I wrote a stroppy note but chickened out of leaving it in the end.

YANBU as the same happened to me on Saturday. Unfortunately dd2 (5mths) baby carrier side I couldn't open the door enough to lift it in so had to leave her parked in her pram in the carrier behind the offending car, unattended, while I reversed out enough to open the door Just as my car was hanging out of the space 'miss daisy' herself appeared with westie in tow and clearly talking to her self/dog, quite barking At which point I felt sorry for her!

Lol at the opening car door hard idea. Not so long ago, the wind opened the car door very hard for me into a car parked too close. Guess what? There was a passenger in the car and it was a company car? There was nothing I could have done, yet guess who got stung for £300 on their insurance?! And there wasn't even a visible dent!

YANBU- this happened to me once when I was heavily pg with dd. I took ds (14mths) with me while I popped into M&S to get a loaf of bread and milk. I had to carry him cos he wasn't walking yet, then realised I didn't have a pound for the trolley so had to carry him and food round shop. There were big queues at the checkout and no one offered to let me go first/hold something for me. When i got back to the car a big white van had parked next to me and at an angle so I had to load ds in through the other side and then crawl over the passenger seat to get in to the driver's seat. I Was LIVID!

Also at my GP's surgery I was unloading the children out of the car (narrow parking spaces and we have a people carrier so wide). A man watched me while I unloaded my 3yo, 2yo and baby, I assumed he was waiting till I was done before getting into his car which was parked next to mine BUT NO! Once we were all out he said, 'And how am I supposed to get into my car?' I just shrugged and walked off but I wanted to say, 'Well we all managed to get out, I'm sure you can get in' or 'Oh I'm sorry, will I just put them all back in and reverse out so that you can get in to your car.'

On about my 3rd trip out with nb ds, two cars had parked so tightly next to my car I had to climb through the boot!

DH gets really narked. Some spatially unaware incompetent boy-racer parked their car diagonally across the space so dh had to to a 32 point manoeuvre to reverse the car out. He left a note saying, "Lady, you need driving lessons"

How about a little bit of live and let live folks. [shocked] at tyre letting down, or deliberate damaging of other peoples cars - just because they have done something inconsiderate/unacceptable/are just bad parkers surely doesn't give you the moral (let alone legal) right to go on a damage rampage.

LOL HEATED- that beats it all!

I hope you have a people carrier not a tine wee hatch back that you had to slide thru onto the back seats on your tummy! I can just imagine the bemused people walking past 'look at that crazy mother and why is she posting her NB through the boot'

Thanks Soph, I laugh now, but actually I could have cried. DS was just getting to that squally stage of being hungry and I was moving gingerly anyway thanks to post delivery stitches. In fact I think I did cry over dh when he got home .

Don't worry, there is absolutely no chance he could have driven off unaware.

Not only was the tyre as flat as a pancake, the restaurant was beside an Army building. Two PLA soldiers were on guard duty. We asked them if they had seen who parked the car but they hadn't, and then they agreed with DH when he said the driver was a selfish twat and laughed when DH told them what he was going to do. They though it was hilarious and were going to be there all night. When the driver returned, and would certainly have told him hey, two foreigners and a baby couldn't get past so the man let down your tyre. Maybe you should park properly next time.

We absolutely had the moral right. There are a lot of wheelchair-bound elderly people in our neighbourhood. We were able to get the pram off the kerb and onto the road, but a 90-year-old in a wheelchair would have been completely stuck.

ninedragons i absolutly agree with your annoyance that the car was parked like that making you have to go into the road with a pushchair. However, two wrongs don't make a right and so yes the X5 driver is a twat but unfortunatly because of what he did, your dp is a twat too for doing that.

Being a twat yourself doesn't correct the behaviour of anothers twattish behaviour, it just makes two twats instead of just one.

To add, don't you people realise that by opening your car door hard to dilbratly hit the car too close makes marks on your car too!

have you ever driven anywhere with a completely flat tyre? you'd notice pretty darn quick, it's a very nasty noise!

i think ninedragons' DP was perfectly reasonable and there was no chance to danger to the owner, only minor inconvenience.

If it were me i would have gone into the restuarant where they were obviously eating in and told him to move his car and caused abit of a scene. That would have been more effective.

I can't believe anyone would deliberately open a car door hard enough to cause damage to another car. Call me naive, but someone has done that to me (I thought accidentally... stupid me) and the damage cost £200 to put right. Needless to say, I was parked sensibly within the lines but I do have a BMW.

Two wrongs don't make a right and I call it totally selfish. I once accidentally caused slight damage to a car in a carpark with a supermarket trolley and left a note with all my details. Where has common courtesy gone?

my mil and brother have done this:-

1 mil left note saying 'next time leave a tin opener'

2 bro left one saying 'next time dont hit my f**king car, ps got ya car number plate look forward to the police at ya door'

i have witnessed someone hitting some one elses car in car park and got there number plate and wrote a note on the hit cars windscreen!!!

my mil and brother have done this:-

1 mil left note saying 'next time leave a tin opener'

2 bro left one saying 'next time dont hit my f**king car, ps got ya car number plate look forward to the police at ya door'

i have witnessed someone hitting some one elses car in car park and got there number plate and wrote a note on the hit cars windscreen!!!

my mil and brother have done this:-

1 mil left note saying 'next time leave a tin opener'

2 bro left one saying 'next time dont hit my f**king car, ps got ya car number plate look forward to the police at ya door'

i have witnessed someone hitting some one elses car in car park and got there number plate and wrote a note on the hit cars windscreen!!!

And ninedragons... would your DH have let down the tyre of the car at the restaurant if it had been an old car with a baby seat in, as opposed to a X5? Probably not....

helliebean, it seems people think it's perfectly ok to damage someones car, possibly costing them lots of money they probably don't have, just because they are parked too close.

I hate it too when someone parks too close and leaving a note is quite enough i think. I wouldn't dream of causing damage to someones car. I suppose the ones who do damage other cars all think they are perfect, never make mistakes and always park perfectly! I very much doubt it.

I have deliberately parked near but still within the lines in a small private car park. The twunt was parking permanently day and night using it as their personal parking space. S/he left that tin opener note on my car. I was pretty cross. I think one of the hearses at some point accidentally blocked it in.

you should have done this

I would leave a note or wait for them to come back and politely point out how difficult it is to get in my car.... but, deliberately damaging someones car goes beyond the plate, as far as I'm concerned.

And that goes for letting down tyres too... no, it wasn't right to park outside a restaurant like that. Maybe he/she was in a hurry.. perhaps someone had a crisis and needed a quick meal and some cheering up after some disaster.. who knows. But I personally couldn't live with myself if I did that. Just my opinion of course, before you all jump on me!

or buy some of these

Ha ha! In a small market town near here they will fine you £40! if you don't park within the marked bays.
I'll always remember the day when i parked my car and this guy was just standing by his car throwing his arms in the air and looking really peeved.
He said he only parked for 10 mins (you are only allowed 2hrs), but i pointed out to him that the fine was because he was over the line by 2 inches!
In that car park if i see someone parking silly i will tell them about the rules and most people seem to appreciate the warning.
They are little hitlers in that town!