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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be pi**ed off my MIL gave my DD a Dairylea Luchbox..

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daisydora · 14/08/2008 20:10

...DD not quite two, was aghast when she told me she'd had one for her lunch. They are full of crap aren't they???

I tried to e cool but think my face gave it away. I asked her not to do it again, she said she gave her other grandson them all the time and his mum (my SIL) doesn't mind. I said I didn't care about SIL, I'd prefer she didn't eat such crap.

How bad are they?? I know ones not going to hurt but don't want her to think that I want DD eating that kind of thing.

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Turniphead1 · 14/08/2008 23:00

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GivePeasAChance · 14/08/2008 23:09

My MIL recently gave DS2 chocolate for breakfast. It is a grandparent thing. Chill out - it really really really won't make any difference to their development, behaviour, self-esteem, health.

She is trying to be helpful and "keep 'em happy". It is really difficult to rationalise, but so long as she loves her and treats her well emotionally then a bit of Dairylea is only a sideline /v.slight irritance - definitely not worth falling out about IMO.

Ozziegirly · 15/08/2008 01:03

I love dairylea. It's my fave hangover food, along with scotch eggs and pepperami. Yummers!

psychomum5 · 15/08/2008 01:09

I am loving the way that your own, not quite 2yr old DD, was aghast when she told you what she had. when my DD's were this small, thay just told me what they had without any knowledge of junk or otherwise!!!

I hate the things personally, so you are quite right to not want them fed to your DD, but I am most impressed that she knows at less than two what is junk/healthy....

lilysmummy2007 · 15/08/2008 02:35

YANBU, shes your child you let MIL know what you dont want her to have or better yet pack stuff for her to take when she goes over.
i was livid when at 13months old, MIL was feeding DD ham OUT OF A TIN!! i love ham, so does DD, but that tinned stuff is full of crap and salt and preservatives, i had a word and she has not done it since, as i have also been packing stuff for her to take when she goes over without me which is hardly ever now.

prettybird · 15/08/2008 08:42

I think that there are mor eimportant things to be pissed off about.

It would not even have occurred to her that there might be a problem. You've made the point now, she knows not to do it future - now let it rest.

VictorianSqualor · 15/08/2008 08:57

YABU.

Your MiL didn't know how bad this food was and was just being a grandma, it's what grandmas do.

My MiL says 'Do you want a biscuit?' to my eldest two, of course they say yes and she doesn't give them what I would consider a biscuit, but a penguin, or two, sometimes three.

When she looks after them she gives them fuck knows what, normally, like bozza's children, they will be 'treated' with all the kiddy geared things MiL could find in the supermarket, and she buys them in specially for the children.

She's trying to be nice.

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daisydora · 15/08/2008 12:29

Think I should clarify, I was annoyed but did suggest she shouldn't have them due to salt content etc again. I was ok-ish with it till she pointed out that SIL gives them to her son all the time. I was more annoyed that she kind of disregarded my suggestion that she shouldn't eat them simply because her dauhter gives them to her son. I do think that I have a right to suggest this.

If it was my mum taht had given it to her I would have told her straight not to do it again. But was trying to walk on eggshells and be tacctful with MIL. Admitedly not my forte

psycho - it was me that was agahst I would be amazed if DD could do aghast although she does stroppy madam a treat at the mo

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branflake81 · 15/08/2008 14:02

You're going a bit over the top. It was one piece of junk food. Eating healthily doesn't mean eschewing everything remotely dodgy. Your child will not be damaged, ergo YABU.

Cappuccino · 15/08/2008 14:04

completely agree with hatwoman

psychomum5 · 15/08/2008 14:07

daisydora, ......I wondered if you were going to pop up in the G&T threads soon with your very advanced DD who can do aghast at less than 2!!!

AbbeyA · 15/08/2008 14:20

I am another one to agree with hatwoman.

Elffriend · 15/08/2008 14:26

My dad showed me how to make sugar butties when I was a kid.

DS is never going to stay with him unsupervised!

PuppyMonkey · 15/08/2008 14:27

Not the end of the world then

Send her with a packed lunch next time.

prettybird · 15/08/2008 15:50

Mmmmmmm - sugar bread - espeically brown sugar.

Everything in moderation! ..... but maybenot something to offer a 2 year old!

cheesesarnie · 15/08/2008 15:55

just once wont kill her(although i do hate them and my dc dont have them-but if someone gave them one i wouldnt be too upset).id send sandwhiches next time she goes just so you know what shes getting.

gingerninja · 15/08/2008 16:03

Sugar sandwiches was a helath food in our house. We had salt sandwiches (i kid you not) also big piles of salt on our plates for dippy eggs and soldiers. Oh yes and occassionally, dripping on toast. I have rock hard arteries!

I think Daisy if you say, 'well as a one off that's fine but I'd rather she didn't get it regularly' would be the most diplomatic response

hercules1 · 15/08/2008 16:06

You are bu. I wouldnt be surprised if she were unable to look after your dd again for a while.

edam · 15/08/2008 16:10

I let ds have one of those very occasionally - he sees them in the supermarket and longs for them. The manufacturers clearly know how to design packaging that appeals to children.

Don't think I'd give them to a nearly two year-old though.

gonaenodaethat · 15/08/2008 16:12

YANBU.
There's nothing wrong with politely asking your MIL not to give her any more.

They're not real food and your daughter shouldn't be gradually brainwashed into thinking that they are.

gonaenodaethat · 15/08/2008 16:15

The thing with these types of 'food' are the way they are designed for and marketed at children. No doubt by individuals who wouldn't let their own precious children near them.

YANBU - not at all

gingerninja · 15/08/2008 16:18

I'm starting to worry a bit about my almost two year old now. She generally has a very healthy diet but loves the odd bit of bacon. Should I stop it? It's obviously got more salt in it than an extra salted crisp. Those dairylea things look tame in comparison.

DaDaDa · 15/08/2008 16:22

I think Hatwoman's post is very wise, and I shall remind myself of it next time I want to murder my parents.

chelsygirl · 15/08/2008 16:23

I'd let my MIL feed my 2 whatever she wanted if only she'd babysit

twinsetandpearls · 15/08/2008 16:23

I agree edam for some reason dd always wants them when she sees them and I can't work out what the appeal is. FWIW I agree 100% with Hatwoman.

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