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to think mil shouldn't try to feed dd chips

75 replies

tab1 · 03/08/2008 20:13

mil bought bag of chips to our house (why can't she eat them at home) and dd was straight over pointing. mil said let her have some, they won't do her harm. I told her no cos they are bad for her, covered in salt and she already ate her dinner. She just kept going on saying let her have some. After literally 10 times I snapped NO and all went quiet. We are trying to get dd to eat dinner with us at the table and to me she is undermining the rules. AIBU

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LIZS · 03/08/2008 20:32

A few won't do any harm unless she's allergic to them. Presumably noone in your house ever has snacks away from the table either? have you previously asked her not to bring food into the house ?

ExterminAitch · 03/08/2008 20:32

oh she clearly gets on your tits, that's for sure. and it is rude to bring chips round to someone's house, they honk.

MrsTicklemouse · 03/08/2008 20:32

i think the problem is not so much the chips but the principle, YABslightlyU if shed already weaten and (as much as i'm pro organic everything natural) one chip wont of hurt, however YANBU as i would be annoyed if someone came to my house eating chips(unless they bought me some too ) and no should mean no, first time!

expatinscotland · 03/08/2008 20:32

it's rude to bring round food to someone's house if you've not brought enough for everyone.

CrushWithEyeliner · 03/08/2008 20:33

If she enjoyed the chips then I don't see the HUGE deal. We give DD unsalted chips and sauteed potatoes once every couple of weeks as a treat. She loves them. I am quite easy going as long as she eats her fruit and veg and milk.

Mercy · 03/08/2008 20:33

lol at lazarou!

Mercy · 03/08/2008 20:34

haha! Good point expat.

FrannyandZooey · 03/08/2008 20:35

there keeps being threads about chips
it's really hacking me off as I can't seem to find a really good chippy here atm

seeker · 03/08/2008 20:35

A few chips won't hurt. Neither will a bit of chocolate. Or some pizza. Or a couple of crips. Particularly after dinner. Stop turning food into a big deal!

chloemegjess · 03/08/2008 20:38

I do think a couple of chips are fine, BUT it is your child, and I think by standing your ground this time, you will get the message across and hopefully, you wont have so much of an issue in future, its your child, your decision.

I actually wont leave my MIL alone with my DD now as she will purposly do everything I dont do as soon as I leave (feed her junk, leave her to cry etc)

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 03/08/2008 20:39

never ever bring your dd to my house i will take her to greggs! lol

mil was BU giving her them after you had said that you didnt want her to have them but equally you were being over fussy and over protective. a few chips and a bit of chocolate every now and again wont hurt her so long as that is not all she is eating all day long.

btw my mil believes that chicken nuggets and chips are 'proper' food and the cheese salad sarnies i make my dds arent enough for them. i should feed them proper food.

Mercy · 03/08/2008 20:40

We have to drive to our decent chippy, so it's a bit of a treat for us tbh.

Oven chips or even home-made just aren't the same unfortunately.

The best chips I've ever tasted was/were in Huddersfield.

chloemegjess · 03/08/2008 20:44

In fact, my 7 month old had a munch on a few chips when we ate lunch in the ikea resurant. No salt though! But that was my decision to give her them as a treat

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tab1 · 03/08/2008 21:08

ok, IABU, if mil brings unsalted chips i will give in but i'll blame you lot if dd is eating kebab when she is 2.

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ExterminAitch · 03/08/2008 21:17

tbh i would say that it's a bit gross to bring chips, pizza etc to someone's house though, unless by prior arrangement.

lazaroulovesleggings · 03/08/2008 21:20

Kebabs must only be eaten when drunk. I think your safe on that front, unless mil sneaks something naughty into the house in a fruitshoot bottle.

HaventSleptForAYear · 03/08/2008 21:21

Oh FGS a few chips doesn't equal coke-swilling, kebab eating !

But good on you for accepting yabu !

Can you curtail the problem by having a word with MIL about bringing "unsuitable" foods into the house or is she trying to provoke you?

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fourlittlefeet · 03/08/2008 21:25

why is she coming round to your house with takeaways?

AnyFuleKno · 03/08/2008 21:29

It's not the chips that would bother me, it's the refusal by your mil to accept your initial 'no'. I think boundary setting is important and she needs to know that once you've said no the first time, she's not going to wear you down with repeated pandering.

Why on earth are relatives so desparate to feed dcs on junk anyway? My ILs and parents never stop asking - can dd have cake/crisps/ice cream/chips/sticky bun...since she was 4 months old!

fourlittlefeet · 03/08/2008 21:32

I would say this is less about the chips than an annoying MIL . why are they sooo annoying?

AuntyJ · 03/08/2008 21:34

mmmmm chips! IABU to send DH out to get a bag? I am currently in my pjs planning on going to bed but Ive come over all wobbly with the talk of chips.
Tab 1 - glad youve seen the light dont worry about kebabs yet DD has started to ask for DHs and shes nearly 4 got plenty of time to worry about that.

OurHamsterisevil · 03/08/2008 21:34

YANBU. As AnyFulekno says its not really about the chips. People are tking it too literally. It is more about her not taking your first 'no'. My MIL the other week was dipping her finger in her G&T and putting it in DS2 (10mths) mouth the other week (WTF). And also feeding him cake, ice cream etc. after I said he had eaten enough and wouldn't drink his milk. Do they do it just to annoy us???

fourlittlefeet · 03/08/2008 21:47

yes of course they do. their mils did it to them and they are getting their own back