In a few weeks time it is ds's 2nd birthday, which actually falls on a Thursday so we are planning on having a small BBQ with close family as a celebration on the Saturday.
Bil has known about these plans for some time, and when the subject came up a couple of weeks ago he mentioned that his finacee's Dad and siblings were supposed be coming to stay withn them that weekend, but probably weren't arriving until Sunday anyway. We said they were all more than welcome to come if they should arrive on Saturday.
So dh was chatting on the phone to him last night and he says "I won't be coming over for ds's BBQ weekend as fiancee's family are now coming up on Saturday to spend the week with us". They are about 6hrs away from Bil's house and Bil has apparently offered to buy a train ticket which will take him 2.5hrs south, in order to meet fiancee's family and drive the last leg of the journey for her Dad.
The Dad is fit and healthy and as far as I'm aware, perfectly capable of completing the journey without Bil's assistance. Now I know it's up to him how he wants to spend his time etc, but I was just so when dh told me this. Bil is, to put it politely 'thrifty', it's just so out of character for him to do something that will take him out of his way and put him out of pocket.
He told dh "I'm not bothered about coming to the BBQ anyway, I'll just pop over and see ds on another day". He thinks it all revolves around him and I just find it incredibly rude. He's obviously just licking fil to be's backside. .