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To be sick, sick, sick of the way women are portrayed in the media

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Janos · 22/07/2008 17:12

A comment on a thread I posted recently got me thinking about this.

Just looking at women's mags for example, who are some of the worst offenders. A woman's appearance is never ever 'good enough' and is constantly picked at. She's either too fat or too thin or her knees are too knobbly or fingernails are too pointy or some such shite.

The endless pushing of stupid bloody DIETS.

On TV, women who are bolshy or aggressive or not 'nice' and feminine'(for which read passive doormat) are always punished. OK, not always but my god it happens a lot.

Oh yeah, and films. Why don't we have a female version of Indiana Jones? Why is the man always the one who gets to have fantastic adventures?

And in newspapers. I'm thinking of the coverage of those two awful cases last year, Levi Bellfield and Mark Dixie - media full of reports commenting on how their behaviour could be traced back to their mothers. Yet again, women are to blame. Err, what about their fathers - aren't they equally responsible? And then reports on John Hogan...how his wife MUST have had some responsibility for what happened.

Men's magazines aren't much better. Women are sneered at and belittled if they aren't 'hot' (god that word bloody well pisses me off). If they ARE 'hot' they are patronised and objectified and treated like they don't have a brain.

Why must our behaviour and appearance be endlessly critcised and picked apart?

OK, rant over. I feel a bit better now

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GivePeasAChance · 23/07/2008 18:14

Daily Mail of course!!

Upwind · 23/07/2008 18:17

I only see the women's mags in my GPs waiting room. When I was younger I used read them avidly and buy clothes and makeup based on their reccomendations. I used to take their relationship advice very seriously too. These days I've got more important things to worry about, and I've got MN should I need advice.

I have noticed that friends (of both genders) who regularly buy magazines tend to be unhappy. I think Nuts, FHM etc give the men very unrealistic expectations. The womens mags feed into a miserable judgmentalism and a feeling that the reader can never measure up. The magazines that come with the Sunday papers also fall into that category.

allgonebellyup · 23/07/2008 18:23

i saw a mag last week, and from the front cover all the way to page 18, it was all diet diets diets, women celebs whove put on too much weight, ones who have lost too much, then about 10 pages featuring all the celeb's different bikini diets.

FFS

allgonebellyup · 23/07/2008 18:24

who've

Janos · 23/07/2008 19:44

I'm so chuffed to see this has provoked lots of dicussion because I was beginning to feel I was the only woman who got bothered about stuff like this.

Don't getthe impression that I spend all my time in a frothing rage - it's just that sometimes it really gets to me and is always in the beackground of life, IYSWIM.

I really don't subscribe to any of this nonsense myself. Uded to read loads of those trashy mags - Heat, Now etc and couldn't work out why I felt so pissed off afterwards. Answer - don't buy them/read them. Now I don't, I'm much calmer (honest guv) and save money. Bonus

Someone (a few people in fact) mentioned upthread about the importance of strong female role models. I really agree with this and hope to goodness I'm providing a good example to my son - ie women are just as capable as men, able to run a house, work etc.

My mum was much the same and taught us (by example) always to take care of ourselves, be responsible and not to rely on other people.

This is all just so important.

And you know what, I genuinely admire women are able to ignore all this shite. I really do.

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noonki · 23/07/2008 19:44

I also despise the fact that virtually every single 'she cried rape' trial gets a write up,

whilst actual rape barely gets a mention.

I am sure this contributes to the appalling lack conviction rate of rapists.

Janos · 23/07/2008 19:47

Yeah. Observer woman - dreadful. Does have the occaisional quality article though.

"The womens mags feed into a miserable judgmentalism and a feeling that the reader can never measure up. "

I think this is spot on, really. And I'd count mags like Eve, Marie Claire etc in with the 'lower brow' ones. All that aspiration BS leaves you feeling the same way.

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Janos · 23/07/2008 19:49

Oh yes noonki that's true.

Even mention it and someone will pile in going on about how dreadful it is for innocent men to be accused of rape. Of course it is but the focus is disproportionate

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