AIBU in expecting people to WAIT for the green man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jesuswhatnext]

sorry an going to swear as i'm so bloody angry!well, i know i'm not unreasonable in thinking that teaching toddlers to cross the road is basic fucking mothering!

i cant stand seeing women put the buggy over the kerb, then cross the bloody road when it looks clear instead of waiting for the green man - i could have killed a child this morning cos the stupid bint mother couldn't wait 2 fucking seconds. (and no, i'm not a petrol head, am a 45yo mother who would never get over killing a child)

what is the point of having pelican crossings if pedestrians take no notice of the instructions.

YANBU.

I always wait for the green man, even when without DS. I'm a bit obsessive about setting a good example though.

whispy tufty club link www.youtube.com/watch?v=pl4TdwyuMzA

Probably going to get the judgy judgies after me now but..... when i taught my ds to cross the road it was extra hard because of his deafness, everytime he stepped out into the road without looking i smacked his bottom and put him back on the pavement,the third time we went out he remembered and it worked! One lady said i was being cruel, i just said that id rather have him with a sore bum for 2 mins than flattened by a hgv or car. Lottie goes and hides now............

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I don't explain about the red man and the green man to toddlers. Toddlers don't go anywhere on their own. By the time they do go to cross a road on their own, they should be perfectly capable of understanding "Check that the man is green and that there are no cars coming before you cross the road, please", because frankly if you are letting them out alone before they can do that, you are risking their safety.

Before they understand not to follow someone across an unsafe crossing, they are with an adult, aren't they? And it's up the adult responsible for them to make sure they cross safely, not whichever poor late sof happens to be trying to cross the road at the same time!

Ds1 knows to cross with me, not with him, or her, or "that boy". If he leaps out because someone else decides to take a chance, I tell him off.

I always wait for the green man when I am with the kids, even as I look longingly at the empty road and the swarms of people crossing!

I don't get annoyed at other people crossing- it's not up to them to set an example to my kids. Besides, half my parenting seems to consist of " I don't care what XXX is doing, YOU are doing what I tell you!"

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ThatBigGermanPrison (are we not supposed to mention your usual name?), I've been teaching ds about the Green Cross Code since he was able to walk basically. In the hope that repetition will have drilled it into his brain by the time he's old enough to cross on his own.

He did have an excellent childminder who was brilliant at road crossing, because she had half a dozen to walk up to school together (with an assistant, she wasn't breaking any Ofsted rules). I used to get told off by ds for crossing diagonally rather than in a straight line because she had drummed this into them.