DP came home early from work today, so i thought i would do us some lunch, i really made an effort and did us greek pitta breads and home made tzatiziki or however you spell it. I chopped mint from our garden into minute little peices, it took ages. Got the whole lunch ready, and DP comes in with a bouncy castle he brought from Tesco for a tenner (bargain, it is really quite good for the money) BUT being a man, he didnt actually check that he might need more than a bloody bicycle pump to pump the bloody thing up. So, instead of a lovely lunch with us all sitting down in the garden eating all the scrummy stuff i made or brought. It was a rushed affair with DD whinging and crying the whole time because she wanted her bouncer NOW!! So, like good little servants, we get in the car and trapse off to argos, buy a pump and come back and DP blows the thing up. She jumps on it for ooooh, five minutes and starts whining that she wants xya and wants to do something else .
So, by this time i have properly had enough, so i come inside and come on mumsnet for a bit and lay on teh sofa because im knackered and have the mother of all headaches. DP then says, "oh, charming, im home from work and you slope off". Um, yeah right, because you are turning our daughter into a spoilt whinging brat, you can't see it and she is doing my head in.
I feel really guilty for feeling like this today but i am sooo glad she has gone to bed. DP has blatantly had a bellyful to because now he is irritable and snappy.
Please don't say to tell dp that he is making a rod for our backs, its like talking to a brick wall. His response is "i just have a more laid back parenting style than you" My thoughts are, no, you will do anything for a fucking easy life and you are letting her get away with murder. She wanted hula hoops for breakfast yesterday, before i could even say, "not for breakfast darling" he had bloody well gone and got them for her!! WTF???
She has been really difficult today so much so that i have posted in behaviour and development about it. I don't actually wnt to blame DP for this and he just loves his little girl so much - honestly, it is like he is infatuated with her iyswim. This usually makes me smile and go all gooey inside but the whole thing that him saying i am too strict (yeah right, im more laid back that most of the parents i know).
How can i make him understand that he is actually doing his DD a disservice by indulging her so much. I have tried to say, and yes, what about when she is five and refusing to go to school, when she is 13 and telling you to fuck off because you wont let her stay out late etc because she can just get away with it......."oh, she wont be like it because she will understand right from wrong" um, like HOW?????
God, i am steaming just now - and its difficult because it just makes my heart melt how much he loves her, but honestly, im going to crack