in buying a £200 pram without my husbands knowledge or consent?

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When you bear in mind the fact that he bought himself a £100 MP3 player last week without me knowing and is off now buying himself a new mobile phone!

Money isn't exactly free flowing but in my defense the buggy is on SALE and is on a 0% payment plan and will be paid off during the remainder of the pregnancy.

I do already have a double buggy as my other child will only be 2 when newbie arrives but I wont always need a double will I?

I think if money isn't fee flowing you can save the 200 for something more important. Get a cheap buggy off ebay and save the extra to take them on outings/clothes/toys which are far more important imho!
YABVU, frivolous and silly. As for your DH permission, not an issue, you shouldn't need it. To spend money on unnecessry things when money is tight is just stupid IMHO.

i thought it was only about buying more expensive things than the likes of a dvd?

I don't discuss things like clothes, DVD's or household things-however big expenditures would be a joint decision. I wouldn't discuss a pram because I can't see the point of paying a lot for something used for only a short time. I would get a second hand one as cheaply as possible.

LOL I went and bought a zafira without dh even seeing it!

I agree tori32-the money saved from buying a cheap pram can be used in ways that are of much more benefit to the DC. The pram only needs to be practical and comfortable-the baby couldn't care less about it being trendy!!

I think some posters are getting their knickers in a twist! The comments about talking to DHs/DPs before buying such items aren't so much about permission but rather:

1. Honesty within a relationship

1. Financial decisions that impact the family budget therefore discussion (not merely permission) is required.

With regard to the OP, my personal opinion is that I really can see why she feels peeved but the pair of em should seriously discuss their finances.

i did the same tori with a 207!lol

What are you talking about WUN? How on earth can asking for permission to buy a pram be about honesty? Unless the OP was planning to lie to her DH about how it arrived at her house ("The pram-fairy dropped it off")

The point about budgetary contraints makes sense (sort of) but (a) this isn't a major piece of expenditure and (b) presumably the OP has her own money to spend as she will.

I would be highly annoyed if my OH bought an expensive item of baby equipment that we didn't need-I would expect him to discuss it first. If we had lots of money it might be different.

Quattrocento - was typing onehanded so I perhaps didn't explain myself fully!

Was just agreeing with those that if money is tight that both parties should be open and honest about such expenditures... if things are difficult then £200 is a considerable expenditure. Her DH is just as culpable in purchasing money on what I'd consider to be luxury items, hence my point that expenditures that have an impact on the family budget should be discussed between both parties, it should go both ways.

In no way do I think a woman needs to ask permission to spend money nor vice versa!

Hopefully the MP3 player, new mobile phone and new pram won't have made too much of a dent in their pockets

My fault - too snippety - was on a "controlling DH" thread at the same time.

Hey no harm, no foul! Those threads get my psyched up too

oops my me

I don't get this "buying stuff and hiding it from DH" routine. Friend of mine does it all the time - what the fuck is the partnership based on?

I want summat - I buy it and tell DH and vice versa. We both might chuck wobblies on each other but at least we're honest with each other. I just couldn't go around hiding this stuff from my DH...God, you must be constantly on edge. Who needs it?