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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to take un-named, unlabeled uniform from the lost property box?

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Amoral · 10/07/2008 21:47

It's been sat in reception for a week, everyone has had a rummage and I figured anyone who was going to recognise them would have done.

Have I been unreasonable?

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hatrick · 10/07/2008 22:06

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TheFallenMadonna · 10/07/2008 22:06

Look, are they really going to throw them away? Because TBH that's worse than you taking it really. But by taking it before the end of term, you have pre-empted the last minute search for lost belongings that I many people embark on.

muggglewump · 10/07/2008 22:06

I can see the temptation, I was tempted by similar but didn't do it cos it's just not right.
I would ask what'll happen to it though, they may let you buy one or even give you one if they're just going to chuck it

WendyWeber · 10/07/2008 22:08

Would I be right in thinking that most of the moralistas are parents of under-11s only?

StressTeddy · 10/07/2008 22:08

But this is extra info. You didn't say in op that you were invited to look through

RubyRioja · 10/07/2008 22:08

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Amoral · 10/07/2008 22:08

I don't know why the PTA doesn't sell them, probably because nobody buys them? I really don't know. maybe they do charity shop them. They are the old logo though, the school has just changed the logo to a new one - so although the children are allowed to wear the old logo, they won't be selling it any more.

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StressTeddy · 10/07/2008 22:08

being invited to "give it a home" is different from taking it as you sadi earlier

Quattrocento · 10/07/2008 22:09

We did pick up the diamond ring as it was at one of those children's activity places in Scotland. We returned it to reception, who were pleased because the woman was frantic. They asked us to leave our name and address which we did. DD didn't even get a thank you card ....

Yes it is, be strong, hand back. Poor but honest, that's the spirit.

StressTeddy · 10/07/2008 22:10

See - at first \I thought you were wrong to do this but now you say there was a sign I think you may have done nothing wrong

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Amoral · 10/07/2008 22:10

No I suppose I didn't - I still feel that the invitation to rummage was ambiguous though - I didn't really know if it meant look for anything you personally have lost or look to see if you have a use for this.

And I didn't want to get into my financial circumstances because it shouldn't affect your morals - and obviously it has.

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lulumama · 10/07/2008 22:11

i am sorry you are skint. maybe the person who lost the jumper is skint too.

cat64 · 10/07/2008 22:12

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Carmenere · 10/07/2008 22:15

A sign saying to give the uniforms a home is licence to take one imo. That is different than what you initially expressed. Fair game and yes better than being skipped, which I think is a bit ridiculous and iiwy I would definitely speak to them about having a second hand uniform stall at the next school fair.

FabioTheTimeLordCatOfGallifrey · 10/07/2008 22:15

I thought you'd changed your name for a bit of fun trolling.
Bit of an obv name, I thought.
Why don't you ask the school what they do if no one claims the clothes?

WendyWeber · 10/07/2008 22:17

At our primary school the badged uniform items were sold by the PTA, so whoever they were worn by, the PTA had had the money. As long as everybody ended up with the same number of items they started with, WTF does it matter whose they were originally?

hatrick · 10/07/2008 22:18

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WendyWeber · 10/07/2008 22:19

OP said the box has been available all year, they only put it up with the sign in the last week.

Quattrocento · 10/07/2008 22:21

I am suspicious of this additional information

Why did you not mention that the clothes would be thrown away? Seems unusual behaviour for the school

Why did you not mention this sign inviting people to take clothes and give them a home before?

Because frankly I can't see the issue if the above two bits of additional information are correct.

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Amoral · 10/07/2008 22:22

I will give the situation in full, so you can all make a proper judgement (I really am not trolling, that jumper is on my sofa, in a bag, waiting to be taken back at your say so!)

For the past week, there has been a huge table of lost property under a canopy in the infant's playground, right outside reception. The sign reads something like "Please have a look to see if you have a home for anything here."

I am not sure if the sign meant to take what you could use in your home, or to take what belongs in your home, and this is not helped by the fact that the chair of the PTA does not have English as a first language.

I chose (in light of my financial situation, probably) to interpret the sign as meaning "Take what you can use" and took a couple of jumpers without labels in. I think I may have chosen wrongly.

The OP doesn't make this clear, for which I apologise.

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misdee · 10/07/2008 22:22

we havent had a asecond hand clothing sale this year. am a bit disappointed tbh, had a rummagwe through the lost property box as dd1 lost her jumper (she wore it before i got time to label it), and wanted to see if it was in there, but none were her size, and none had her initial on them (i always intial them even if i dont get time to sew in a label) will check again tomorrow.

am hoping they decide to do a last minute second hand sale, as dd1 has outgrown her last two cardigans.

misdee · 10/07/2008 22:23

with that sign, i would also interpert it the way you did.

pastapestofor6 · 10/07/2008 22:23

eldest ds [11] has lost so much uniform its unbelievable, but I have never done this, just always bought more [and more and more and more]
yabu

StressTeddy · 10/07/2008 22:23

Fed up with this thread now

If there was a sign to invite everyone to give these things a good home then you did nothing wrong imo

If there was no sign and you just decided to take it then you, you are wrong

AM off now
byee

LyraSilvertongue · 10/07/2008 22:24

Amoral, I think you should keep it. If it's only going to go in a bin then isn't it better that someone who needs it gets the use of it?

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