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MUMSNET JURY! Am I stuck up, or is my husband totally bonkers?

65 replies

QuintessentialShadows · 07/07/2008 18:21

Right.
My dh is flying from tiny airport in the north of norway tonight, arriving in Oslo midnight. He will sleep in the airport, fly to London to be in a meeting tomorrow at 10 am. So far so good. He is taking a train to Gatwick, where he will pick up a tent he has reserved in a camping store. He will fly to Oslo in the evening, sleep in the airport, and fly back to tiny airport in the north the next day.

This is where I think it goes mad:

As he has cycled to the airport and left his bike at the airport, when he returns he will straight away start cycling to join me.

Where am I? I am at a remote island with my cousin and her dd (their summer house), and there is a ferry connection once a day, where the ferry is located 60 km from the airport. He will go straight from the plane and cycle 60 km, 10 of these are under water, in an usecured and badly lit tunnel under a fjord.... The ferry is 44 km away from the end of the tunnel. 2 hours on the ferry through some pretty rough waters, and then he will cycle further 20 km....

Oh, and we are heading back to town the next day after he joins us, and as there is no room in the car, he will have to return by bike too..... (We are going in just one car to save on petrol and ferry fees)

I think he is mad to concoct this plan.
Or am I just stuck up and unadventurous?

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TheRedQueen · 07/07/2008 19:20

Judging by my husband, this all sounds perfectly normal. I've learned to just let him get on with it!

OverMyDeadBody · 07/07/2008 19:21

Swedes I though stuck in the mud rather than stuck up too.

MuffinMclay · 07/07/2008 19:23

I could quite imagine my dh doing something similar.

peanutbutterkid · 07/07/2008 19:32

If he's a keen fit cyclist andhas weather-appropriate gear, I don't see the problem.

And if there is a problem, it's his problem, not yours, at least, not like he expects you to do all that cycling, too.

lillypie · 07/07/2008 19:37

He is a fruitloop

JaneHH · 07/07/2008 19:44

Is there a national shortage of tents in Norway or something?

QuintessentialShadows · 07/07/2008 19:46

ok.
He is fit.
Last weekend he cycled 75 km to help my sister move some stuff out of her old house, he started 2 hours before us, we were driving. He once cycled Oxford to London, offroad, did a short cut through the grounds of a power plant, fell of the bike and truly got stuck in green fluorescent mud
He has lots of insance cycle stories.

He used to cycle 80 or so km round trip to work. He says he just really want to push himself and have a goal for a unusual trip...

We cant order the tent. Same tent is equivalent of £650 where we are.... Or I guess we could, we just cant afford to!

I guess "stuck up" as in spoilsport for trying to dissuade him from it!

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Slubberdegullion · 07/07/2008 19:48

The tent nerds amongst us (could only be me) would very much like to know what tent has provoked this passionate (and bonkers) shopping trip.

HolidaysQueen · 07/07/2008 19:49

I think he is mad, but it's very sweet that he has concocted that plan so he can see you one night sooner rather than just wait until you are back in town

onebatmother · 07/07/2008 19:56

madness - but very impressed

lol at Swedes detour to PC - she's right you know QS, 'stuck up' means snobbish.

QuintessentialShadows · 07/07/2008 19:56

SG, it is a pop up tent.
He said the name, it sounded like gerbil... Similar to this but four person. I dissagreed, I wanted to get something like
this

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onebatmother · 07/07/2008 19:58

is it because you is norwegian, tho? Because in that case it is surely nothing extraordinary? I'm sure you kill whales with your bare hands and then have lovely whale steak and eggs, campfire-seared, for your weekday breakfast?

LynetteScavo · 07/07/2008 20:02

Is he ex SAS or something?

BuwchBywiog · 07/07/2008 20:20

bonkers but brilliant!

JaneHH · 07/07/2008 20:27

This is what happens when you get tent nerds and cycle nerds together

(How are things going these days, QS? You sound a lot chirpier even if your husband IS bonkers )

MmeLindt · 07/07/2008 20:31

Bonkers but strangely sweet.

I know a guy who used to cycle from Frankfurt to Würzburg, have coffee with our friend, then go home with his wife who had driven there. The trip was over 100km. (that is about 60 miles, think)

ivykaty44 · 07/07/2008 20:34

only bonkers if he arrives without the milktray

lucyellensmum · 07/07/2008 20:41

completely barking!! or macho and trying to prove a point. Sounds like a fab place to live though

EffiePerine · 07/07/2008 20:45

Mad but rather nice

Slubberdegullion · 07/07/2008 20:59

oooh more pop up tents. They are very nice. Is this for your extended camping trip?

OrmIrian · 07/07/2008 21:03

I think that sounds OK. If he wants to.

QuintessentialShadows · 07/07/2008 21:24

Well, not sure it is going to plan!

He was late down after building a desk for my sister. Changed his mind about what suit to wear, and chose one that needed to be re-hemmed, as it had come lose. So I had to re-hem his suit trousers, and thereafter my aunt who was visiting dropped him off at the airport.

My bet is that he now has to come home from the airport, get rid of his luggage, and cycle from here instead. We will see.....

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QuintessentialShadows · 07/07/2008 21:26

And yes, thank you, i am much chirpier! And the removal goods arrived, pretty much in one piece (funnily I cant find my paying in book, so fantasize about some dishonest removal person putting money into my account... ) so the children have their toys!

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allytjd · 07/07/2008 22:08

He sounds like my brother in law who phoned up DH a few weeks ago and asked if he fancied cycling 150 miles from Edinburgh to Aberdeen OVERNIGHT (ie, in one go without stopping) on the longest day. DH had enough sense to decline but is one of the growing band of just turned 40 cycling nuts round here! Oh, well, he has got very fit looking on it and he gets up early to do it so can't really complain (don't want him to start shaving his legs like BIL tho!).

Twiglett · 07/07/2008 22:12

if it's a pop-up tent like a quechua and he's planning on carrying it on his back he's being a twat .. any wind resistance will seriously unbalance him and make it dangerous

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