..to be irritated by the mother who thinks my DS and her DD are "going out" together.

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FGS - they are 8. My DS1 is a dreamy, slightly eccentric little character but with typical 8 year old boy interests (Dr Who, Harry Potter, bikes, etc..) He is in year 3, it has always been a really lovely class with boys and girls all getting on and being quite matey.

Now I know 8 year olds fall in "love" with each other - but DS1 is not interested, he has girls that are mates. His loves are Harry potter, Doctor Who and James Bond cards.

One little girl in his class adores him, her mother keeps telling me "Oh I hear it's back on with our two, they are dating again." "L has given DS1 her number, she is desperate to go bowling." "Don't they make a lovely couple" etc.. She has older teenage daughters and it annoys me that she projects their teen lifestyle on to a couple of 8 year olds.

DH and I both agree, he'll (hopefully) have girlfriend stuff going on in the future, but for now he is 8 and I don't want him hassled about stuff way to old for him.

I don't think yabu at all, that's really bleurgh! They're children fgs!

yanbu at all. that's sad.

too right, kick her in the fanjo

That other mother clearly has 'issues'. She's utterly wrong to try to see the friendship in 'dating' terms. Heaven help all her daughters.

Yeah it's yuck. Next time she says something that makes you retch, I'd recommend coming out with a hideously patronising comment along the lines of "your daughter is only 8, let her finish her childhood".

It is really sad. DS1 doesn't seem that bothered I'll admit but he doesn't really talk about it much.

I kind of just smilingly went listened to her and DS1 and I would sort of raise our eyes at eahc other.

On Friday DS1 came home early with a bad sicky headache. when we went to pick other two up at home time a boy from DS1's class came running up and shouted "Ha, ha DS1, L has dumped you."

DS1 when bright red and his head sort of fell forward. I gave him a hug and asked if he was ok and was this the reason he had a headache? He said it wasn't and that L was just his friend, just like P and A and a list of other girly mates.

I am not overprotective but God, I just wanted to deck that kid, wrap up DS1 and take him home.

I have no idea what "went listened" means .

This has made me really sad and my typing is crappola.

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To DS1's credit he doesn't seem at all bothered. in fact he seems almost oblivious to it but this other mum thinks it's sweet and funny and drip, drip drip with the little comments.

I try and avoid her.

this sort of thing drives me nuts. dd1 is 2 and has a couple of boys who are friends and sometimes people make tedious comments. wtf?!
also hate hate hate people who say baby girls are 'flirting' or being 'coy'. grrr.

I agree with OP.
This kind of this pisses me off.

DS1 and I were shocked when he was 8 to find my friend and her 6 year old DD referring to him as her boyfriend.

The little girl even kept pinning him against the wall and trying to kiss him.
It was vile, and DS was totally unimpressed by the whole thing.

I put my foot down when the mother asked if they could go out on a date together - she would book a table at a restaurant for them, and we could sit at another table and watch them.
She had even bought her DD a new dress for the occasion.

It's such a shame to spoil childhood friendships by pretending they have adult intentions.

I think it's fine to say to the other mum, 'Your dd is really lovely and of course my ds likes her very much, and I know girls tend to grow up faster than boys" (a compliment might mollify her) "but he is just a little kid who loves Dr Who and he finds all this dating talk very embarrassing and it's getting him teased at school. There's plenty of time for boyfriend and girlfriend stuff when he's a teenager, eh?"

I think all these mothers sound completely mad and very unhealthy btw.

totally agree with your last two posts MsD!

It is really worth saying something I think and MsD has got it spot on - not offensive but just giving this silly woman a reality check.

Ms Demeanour I am going to write your post up my arm and learn it so I can say exactly that to the mum.

Yuk!! Apparently (so the other mums tell me) all the girls in DS1's (7) class want to marry him. It causes him no end of problems, because all of a sudden one friend (who happens to be a girl) won't be "allowed" to play with him because another friend said so. He's completely oblivious to the fact that they're all "in love" with him, he just thinks they're being horrible to him. At least the other mums just think it's vaguely amusing though, they're not actively encouraging it.

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Ds2 tells us the Georgia is his girlfirend. Georgia talks to her mum about DS2.
Me and Georgias mum chuckle about it because niether will talk to one another if we(the mums) are about.

Your situation does sound bloody annoying though.

anyone remember that post last year from a mother who was upset for her ds because someone else had given his "girlfriend" of two years a valentine? They were 6! .

I would be inclined to say to her "oh, ds tells me he's not interested in girls, he prefers dr who."

YANBU - all that stuff is horrible when you're not old enough for it. I remember a teacher I had at school when I was 7 (she was a real bully but thats another story)- first day of the school year she read out every child's name and asked whoever fancied them to put their hands up

Behaviour like from adults should be nipped in the bud I think.

Babyignoramus - Thats a bloody awful thing for a teacher to do!!!!!!!!!! What a nasty piece of work.

I agree that MsDemaenour's comment is perfect and hopefully if she has any sense will react the right way.