..to be irritated by the mother who thinks my DS and her DD are "going out" together.

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FGS - they are 8. My DS1 is a dreamy, slightly eccentric little character but with typical 8 year old boy interests (Dr Who, Harry Potter, bikes, etc..) He is in year 3, it has always been a really lovely class with boys and girls all getting on and being quite matey.

Now I know 8 year olds fall in "love" with each other - but DS1 is not interested, he has girls that are mates. His loves are Harry potter, Doctor Who and James Bond cards.

One little girl in his class adores him, her mother keeps telling me "Oh I hear it's back on with our two, they are dating again." "L has given DS1 her number, she is desperate to go bowling." "Don't they make a lovely couple" etc.. She has older teenage daughters and it annoys me that she projects their teen lifestyle on to a couple of 8 year olds.

DH and I both agree, he'll (hopefully) have girlfriend stuff going on in the future, but for now he is 8 and I don't want him hassled about stuff way to old for him.

Oh I can't bear it when people talk about the boyfriends and girlfriends of their young kids. It goes with adult clothes, bras for 7 year olds. Really hate it. Yuk. Why do they want their kids to be teenagers before they're even in double figures. It happens soon enough anyway.
msDemeanour- yes, that's exactly the tone to take.

I'm the mother of a 7yo dd who has had a number of 'boyfriends' despite my protestations that she's too young. So sadly, I've been the other side of this problem. I'm the mortified mother who had to speak to a boys mum because my dd declared undying love for her son and held his hand during school trips.

It was vaguely mortifying for me and her too no doubt. I did it out of embarrassment, because I didn't want her to think dd was a mad stalker girl. Unfortunately, I probably came across as a mad stalker mom instead.

I have spoken to dd SO many times about this. That she's too young to have boyfriends; that she might like some boys a lot, but she doesn't really love them, etc, etc. Finally it seems to be sinking in and she has decided that she doesn't have boyfriends any more...just boys who are friends.

Worryingly, there are lots of them and I do stress about my dd's childhood. Especially as she looks older than her years. So no, you're not being unreasonable at all. For any mum who knowingly gets involved with this, they're clearly deranged. But I feel a bit sorry for any mum caught up with this when they don't want to be, if that makes sense...

YANBU. I hate it when people do this.