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To be jealous of older generations who were able to buy houses because their bosses exaggerated their salaries?

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HonestTealPoster · Today 09:05

Yesterday I was at the spa and got talking to a man who was older than me (I’m 33 and I’d put him in his early 50s at most).

He told me that when he was in his 20s, he and his friend were able to buy properties in the area of South London where I grew up.

Despite not earning particularly much at the time, his boss wrote a letter stating that he earned £90,000 a year! He openly admitted that he wasn’t earning anywhere near that amount but the letter helped him secure a mortgage. He also received £5,000 from his grandmother towards the purchase.

I’d heard stories about people being able to do things like this years ago but I’d never actually met someone who’d benefited from it!

I was genuinely gobsmacked. Imagine being able to get on the property ladder like that.

AIBU to feel rather envious of how much easier some people had it when it came to buying their first home?

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HPFA · Today 15:19

Whatalunatic · Today 15:14

You miss the point - quite spectacularly - about lifestyles. No one is suggesting that cutting out Netflix is the answer. Considering where money is spent unnecessarily is the key. Even one coffee once a month is unnecessary spending. Buy what you need, not what you want. Cut your hair every 10 weeks instead of every 6. Buy clothes and jewellery in charity shops/car boots/Vinted/eBay. Turn the heating down. Walk to the local shop. You don't need Prime, Netflix and Disney - one of these would give you more viewing than anyone has time for. You don't need to uber relatively short distances in the daytime - walk. You don't need a takeaway at the weekend or a beauty box delivered to your door. A gym membership isn't needed - you can exercise at home or go running, cycling etc. And you certainly don't need lip fillers and top of the range make up. There is a ton of second hand furniture out there so why buy new a sofa on credit? And who needs both Spotify and Amazon music? And of course, we work hard and sometimes we want a bit of a splurge - nothing wrong with that - but does it need a brand new dress, an uber there and back, a beauty appointment and bottomless cocktails?

I am not suggesting the current housing and economic situations are not challenging and for many, impossible to overcome. But my observation is many young people could make better use of the money they have and who knows where that could lead? Pretending it's just about cancelling Netflix misses the very real difference in lifestyle between today's 20 something and those of us who were 20 in the 90s. Because there is a difference.

And plenty of us weren't handed anything, have worked hard, had big mortgages, paid for all our childcare, faced redundancy multiple times and seen multiple financial crisis over the years. It's not been a bed of roses.

Is it just remotely possible that many people do these things because they have no hope of getting a property no matter how many sacrifices they make?

Why not enjoy the small things in life when giving them up won't make a spot of difference anyway?

gibletsarerank · Today 15:19

@Whatalunaticwhy do you think you people aren’t doing these things?

SparklingGlitteryWine · Today 15:20

HPFA · Today 15:14

It isn't a belief.

It's just people not wanting to take any action that might lower the values of their own properties, action like...building houses.

So they come up with this utter nonsense.

As someone pointed out, "easier" doesn't mean "easy" so we still worked hard in the eighties and nineties to buy our homes.

But myself and partner needed no parental help to buy a home whereas my daughter absolutely won't be able to buy a property without our assistance.

I work hard and I'm homeless. Did everything in my power to avoid the situation and couldn't . My children and I are in shitty crowded temporary accommodation for the foreseeable future and it's a mercy we aren't on the streets. It's not because I don't work hard because I do. I have always worked.

SALaw · Today 15:20

I’m 47 and that wasn’t common at all. Seeing as it is fraud and that.

gibletsarerank · Today 15:20

@Additupits nonsense, just educate yourself.

ClawsandEffect · Today 15:20

Yes! I used to have a friend who did this. Was actually not working but a friend with a company knocked him up an employment contract which he used to get a mortgage.

I'm also VERY jealous of the previous generation who were able to retire early. Probably 10-15 years earlier than I'll be able to.

gibletsarerank · Today 15:21

@ClawsandEffectnext people will tell you pension schemes were better than today.

KeepPumping · Today 15:21

HPFA · Today 15:14

It isn't a belief.

It's just people not wanting to take any action that might lower the values of their own properties, action like...building houses.

So they come up with this utter nonsense.

As someone pointed out, "easier" doesn't mean "easy" so we still worked hard in the eighties and nineties to buy our homes.

But myself and partner needed no parental help to buy a home whereas my daughter absolutely won't be able to buy a property without our assistance.

There is an oversupply of unsold property, flats and new-build in particular, the developers want the government to launch another Help To Borrow scheme so they don"t have to cut prices but the bond market might not like this, and if the government challenge Leasehold they might piss off their mates with offshore companies that give them cushy well paid jobs when they leave politics. The property bubble is a scam from top to bottom, an average house/flat in Anytown UK should be about 60k.

KeepPumping · Today 15:22

ClawsandEffect · Today 15:20

Yes! I used to have a friend who did this. Was actually not working but a friend with a company knocked him up an employment contract which he used to get a mortgage.

I'm also VERY jealous of the previous generation who were able to retire early. Probably 10-15 years earlier than I'll be able to.

There used to be websites selling fake payslips.

SparklingGlitteryWine · Today 15:22

gibletsarerank · Today 15:12

@SparklingGlitteryWine I have no idea why this nonsense that previous generations never spent their money on frivolous things has come from. It’s crap, people are takeaways in the past, people holidayed, people had cars, people went to pubs. Christ even during the flipping was lipstick sales went up!

Exactly! I remember sky dishes outside houses, radio rentals, and as a child spending hours in a crowded the pub with a bag of crisps and a Coke. It's such tosh.

gibletsarerank · Today 15:24

@HPFAI find it so odd that it’s become
such a moral thing, “I have my house because I was more frugal, more sensible than you” I have dc so why would I I lie to them that it wasn’t easier.

Justusethebloodyphone · Today 15:25

I’m mid 50s, bought late 90s. I also worked in HR then. It was absolutely the norm to provide payslips. If you had bonuses your employer would write a supporting letter to outline the average and expected income and at my company we would write the most optimistic version, but it was based on truth.

Also in the 90s, £90,000 was a massive salary and it absolutely would not have been green lighted based on a boss’s letter.

Bonnylassie · Today 15:25

I'm very late 40's, bought my first house in my 20's, I definitely had to supply payslips (I also had a car and a mobile). The difference is that the house cost me 55k, that exact same house is worth over £140k now. I couldn't have afforded that price as a single person in their mid twenties.

HonestTealPoster · Today 15:26

KeepPumping · Today 15:13

Yes we broadly agree, I would just say look at sales volumes, especially new-builds and mortgage approvals to see how quickly it is unravelling.

Those are certainly useful indicators to watch, particularly new-build sales and mortgage approvals. I’d be interested in whether the trends point towards a sustained deterioration in the housing market or a period of adjustment to higher borrowing costs. I think there’s an important distinction between the two. But I agree that looking beyond headline house prices gives a much fuller picture of what’s actually happening in the market.

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gibletsarerank · Today 15:27

@SparklingGlitteryWineHow did we have 35,000 fish & chips in the 30s if people only ate in them once a year! 75000 pubs in the 60s that again were always empty.

Bigcat25 · Today 15:29

I doubt this was very common. Plus you wouldn't be able to afford the payments if you were too overlevereged.

byedriver · Today 15:29

I am late forties and bought my first house in late 90s. There was a fair bit of mortgage application bullshit about. It was ridiculously easy to type your own stuff up (payslips etc), send it in and have the mortgage accepted. I don't recall ever being asked for bank statements back then either, which is probably how people got away with it. Banks wanted to give you the money and as long as your bullshit was plausible, you'd get it.

HonestTealPoster · Today 15:30

KeepPumping · Today 15:14

Was the guy"s name Eric by any chance?

I didn’t actually get his name! Do you have someone particular in mind?

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Manxexile · Today 15:30

I haven't read the whole thread but i think this is bollocks and that the 50s something person is winding the OP up

Whenever I was involved in getting a mortgage in the 80s 90s and 2000s you had to provide payslips to prove what you were earning. No bank, building society or other lender would lend you money to buy a house without proof of earnings.

No way would a letter from your "boss" suffice

gibletsarerank · Today 15:33

Why do people think because they didn’t experience something it didn’t happen @manxexileyou are wrong

PetulaGordeno · Today 15:35

Manxexile · Today 15:30

I haven't read the whole thread but i think this is bollocks and that the 50s something person is winding the OP up

Whenever I was involved in getting a mortgage in the 80s 90s and 2000s you had to provide payslips to prove what you were earning. No bank, building society or other lender would lend you money to buy a house without proof of earnings.

No way would a letter from your "boss" suffice

I know someone who tried it and got laughed out of the building society. She had used Tippex in her pay slips and typed over the figures.
Just because we didn’t have Internet banking didn’t mean we didn’t have banking. I was grilled getting my mortgage and yes one game fella did ask if I planned on getting married and having kids. Now that you did get asked a lot in all sorts of situations.

Boomer55 · Today 15:36

HonestTealPoster · Today 09:05

Yesterday I was at the spa and got talking to a man who was older than me (I’m 33 and I’d put him in his early 50s at most).

He told me that when he was in his 20s, he and his friend were able to buy properties in the area of South London where I grew up.

Despite not earning particularly much at the time, his boss wrote a letter stating that he earned £90,000 a year! He openly admitted that he wasn’t earning anywhere near that amount but the letter helped him secure a mortgage. He also received £5,000 from his grandmother towards the purchase.

I’d heard stories about people being able to do things like this years ago but I’d never actually met someone who’d benefited from it!

I was genuinely gobsmacked. Imagine being able to get on the property ladder like that.

AIBU to feel rather envious of how much easier some people had it when it came to buying their first home?

They still had to pay the mortgage. 🙄

PetulaGordeno · Today 15:38

byedriver · Today 15:29

I am late forties and bought my first house in late 90s. There was a fair bit of mortgage application bullshit about. It was ridiculously easy to type your own stuff up (payslips etc), send it in and have the mortgage accepted. I don't recall ever being asked for bank statements back then either, which is probably how people got away with it. Banks wanted to give you the money and as long as your bullshit was plausible, you'd get it.

I saw a big change in about 1999 more around the amount of money flooding the market where you could get 200 per cent mortgages some went up to 100 years. It was mad.
I sold my first house just before that I made 10k on it. The person who bought it off me sold it a year later and made 50k on it. Then things did slump, and people were left with these mortgages they were struggling with.
My first mortgage was an endowment one, luckily I switched quite quickly with no shortfall.

SparklingGlitteryWine · Today 15:38

gibletsarerank · Today 15:27

@SparklingGlitteryWineHow did we have 35,000 fish & chips in the 30s if people only ate in them once a year! 75000 pubs in the 60s that again were always empty.

I look at photos of my grandma on the 60s and she definitely had false eyelashes, something else that gets thrown at today's generation like it's a new thing.

Vaxtable · Today 15:38

never heard of this and it’s certainly not what family and friends did.