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Simply don't know what to do.

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Cantgiveitaway · 31/10/2026 21:42

4 years ago we inherited a house. It has been on the market for the entirety of that time. It is on sale for approx 25% of market value. Reasons below:

The property is non-standard construction and therefore unmortgagable (we have explored this extensively).

It has a sitting lifetime tenancy on a peppercorn rent. Tenant is in their 70s and in good health.

We cannot sell it due to the above.

For those unaware, lifetime tenants cannot be evicted and the rent is very tightly controlled. We have increased it to the maximum allowed every year for the 4 years we've owned it. It still doesn't constitute £1000 a year.

We do not have any more money to put in to the property. We've done the legal required stuff. We've explored legal avenues for eviction ABD offered to give (gift) the property to the sitting tenant.

We basically need someone to come along with enough money to keep the property legally for 20+ years before they can do anything with it.

The most recent gas and electricity safety checks and the EPC have shown significant work needed in the next 12 months to keep it legal. We can't do it. Our only option is to sell our home that we, move in to a much smaller property in a different area (moving children's schools and away from family) and renting ourselves.

We have 0 savings because of the house and cannot afford basic things for our own home.

I just don't know what to do.

WWYD? We literally cannot give it away - we offered it to the LA and to a social landlord and a landlord with an extensive portfolio in the area and all said no.

In 20years, when the tenant dies or moves in to care the land might be worth something (and therefore sellable) but we can't wait that long. We had absolutely no idea the property existed until we inherited it and I've no idea why we did.

Any out of the box thinking here from the hive mind?

OP posts:
Happyjoe · Yesterday 19:53

MindBlip · Yesterday 19:51

Oh you're having a laugh now...

Not if it's starting to cost the OP money and in danger of having to sell their own home! That in itself is insanity. It's a weight around their neck and once explored all other options I'd just give it away.

Happyjoe · Yesterday 19:56

Emilesgran · Yesterday 19:52

You’re trolling the OP right? That’s quite mean.

Apologies, it wasn't meant to be, honestly. I will go re-read the OP's posts in case I missed something. It just hit me that the OP is in danger of having to sell their own home to keep paying bills on this property, which is awful.

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 19:56

Some of these responses have cracked me up though, which I've needed.

Honestly, rat infestations, arson, "cancel the cheque" re gifting, moving people in, turning it in to an hmo, splitting it in two. Brilliant.

OP posts:
MindBlip · Yesterday 19:59

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 19:56

Some of these responses have cracked me up though, which I've needed.

Honestly, rat infestations, arson, "cancel the cheque" re gifting, moving people in, turning it in to an hmo, splitting it in two. Brilliant.

You forgot "becoming unalive".

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 20:00

MindBlip · Yesterday 19:59

You forgot "becoming unalive".

Ah yes, unsure whether we should actually kill.ourselves or just fake our death, can't be that hard surely 😂

OP posts:
Newpicture · Yesterday 20:02

Cantgiveitaway · 31/10/2026 22:53

Honestly had no idea you could refuse an inheritance. It wasn't something discussed with us at time. More a "great uncle stand left you this, here you go". No conversations, no formal accepted. As though we'd been handed a vase.

I know it’s not helpful now, but I find it very hard to understand why you wouldn’t google it or ask AI to see if you could refuse the inheritance when you have inherited a liability. That’s what I did when I was about to inherit a liability of a property.

SylvanMoon · Yesterday 20:03

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 19:56

Some of these responses have cracked me up though, which I've needed.

Honestly, rat infestations, arson, "cancel the cheque" re gifting, moving people in, turning it in to an hmo, splitting it in two. Brilliant.

I'm surprised no one mentioned building a couple of additional floors to the place and/or extending it so that you could then move in there yourselves! Simples. 😊

Emilesgran · Yesterday 20:06

Happyjoe · Yesterday 19:53

Not if it's starting to cost the OP money and in danger of having to sell their own home! That in itself is insanity. It's a weight around their neck and once explored all other options I'd just give it away.

Except she said IN THE OP that they had “offered to give (gift) the property to the sitting tenant” - and repeated that several times since then for all the other posters who also failed to read the OP that the tenant has refused to take the house. 🙄

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · Yesterday 20:07

Muchmore · Yesterday 18:10

Sorry, I meant a cash for keys situation - they agree to end the tenancy on the promise of a cut of the sale proceeds. You sell on with no sitting tennant, they receive payment in exchange for ending the tenancy. If they're already in their 70s then a lump sum might seem attractive?

Why would it? Unless it's enough to buy a house outright which it won't be - it would be a millstone and a hindrance.

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 20:08

Newpicture · Yesterday 20:02

I know it’s not helpful now, but I find it very hard to understand why you wouldn’t google it or ask AI to see if you could refuse the inheritance when you have inherited a liability. That’s what I did when I was about to inherit a liability of a property.

We didn't know it was a liability at the time.

I know it sounds ridiculous, but the property is hours away from us, FIL was unwell (terminally) and MiL was already really unwell so trying to get all that sorted along with figure out if an inherited property was a liability or not or even ask if we had to take it weren't top of the priority list. Plus AI wasn't like it is now. We had other stuff going on top of it (an extension to our own house by a building company that went bust part way through), it was a shit show of a time to be honest.

If we could go back in time we'd do things very differently.

OP posts:
OVienna · Yesterday 20:10

Happyjoe · Yesterday 19:56

Apologies, it wasn't meant to be, honestly. I will go re-read the OP's posts in case I missed something. It just hit me that the OP is in danger of having to sell their own home to keep paying bills on this property, which is awful.

Edited

OP has offered this, they want to be a tenant.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · Yesterday 20:10

Muchmore · Yesterday 18:54

Errr, because some people nearing the age of death might fancy 100k? Use your brain.

What for? To pay rent for a few years and then what when the money runs out? When they are paying a few £100 a YEAR to live in the house they want to live in and can stay until they die? A cash sum would be a liability to a person in this position

Emilesgran · Yesterday 20:12

Newpicture · Yesterday 20:02

I know it’s not helpful now, but I find it very hard to understand why you wouldn’t google it or ask AI to see if you could refuse the inheritance when you have inherited a liability. That’s what I did when I was about to inherit a liability of a property.

It nearly happened to us once though this was long before AI: my DH’s cousin died intestate and without children. Luckily my MiL warned us that if the solicitor contacted us as next of kin we were to refuse immediately because he only had debts which more than outweighed anything he owned. He did work off and on, but had serious mental health problems so was pretty much institutionalised for most of his life. I wouldn’t have known to refuse the inheritance because I didn’t even know such a thing existed.

OVienna · Yesterday 20:12

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 20:08

We didn't know it was a liability at the time.

I know it sounds ridiculous, but the property is hours away from us, FIL was unwell (terminally) and MiL was already really unwell so trying to get all that sorted along with figure out if an inherited property was a liability or not or even ask if we had to take it weren't top of the priority list. Plus AI wasn't like it is now. We had other stuff going on top of it (an extension to our own house by a building company that went bust part way through), it was a shit show of a time to be honest.

If we could go back in time we'd do things very differently.

These tenancies are not things that most people have any experience of. It is no surprise ut didnt occur to anyone.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · Yesterday 20:13

DuckonaBike · Yesterday 19:35

This might be a naive suggestion, but have you tried explaining the situation to the tenant and appealing to his better nature?

Essentially, he has benefited for years from virtually free accommodation, a privilege given to very few people. Now you are facing having to sell your own home, move your children from schools etc., just in order to subsidise him by continuing to maintain his home at your expense. If you put it like this, might he consider accepting the property as a gift, just to free you from the responsibility?

Obviously there are other legal avenues suggested here that you will want to pursue first, but it is worth trying?

I do wish you luck; it sounds very unfortunate.

Unfortunately when the alternative is being made homeless and being chucked into the unforgiving and unaffordable private rental system there is no 'better nature' and it's eveey person for themselves.

ACynicalDad · Yesterday 20:14

A couple of ideas that may be borderline unethical, but you sound desperate: Can you set up a company, sell it to the company for a pound, and then let the company go bankrupt when it faces the bills, so it's not your problem? If it's limited liability, you may only be responsible for £1 each.

Next, London Centric has reported that the American Candy shops on Oxford Street get foreign students returning home to sign the paperwork; nobody chases them. You could investigate the model.

Questionsandanswersx · Yesterday 20:15

Newpicture · Yesterday 20:02

I know it’s not helpful now, but I find it very hard to understand why you wouldn’t google it or ask AI to see if you could refuse the inheritance when you have inherited a liability. That’s what I did when I was about to inherit a liability of a property.

This is also my quandary. Even go feather and say a porn receiving that specialist SOLICITORS advice, I just don’t understand why any sensible person would immediately jump at forcing the financial situation, taking on the liability, it’s supposed to pacing and say and and ask why should I have to do that? What if I can’t afford this liability? And it is at that point the OP should have seen that she could reject the inheritance. I’m just wondering why any natural person jumps to accept accepting their liability it’s supposed to say no why must I accept this liability? Just because it’s an inheritance.

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 20:20

Questionsandanswersx · Yesterday 20:15

This is also my quandary. Even go feather and say a porn receiving that specialist SOLICITORS advice, I just don’t understand why any sensible person would immediately jump at forcing the financial situation, taking on the liability, it’s supposed to pacing and say and and ask why should I have to do that? What if I can’t afford this liability? And it is at that point the OP should have seen that she could reject the inheritance. I’m just wondering why any natural person jumps to accept accepting their liability it’s supposed to say no why must I accept this liability? Just because it’s an inheritance.

Please see previous post explaining this.

OP posts:
OVienna · Yesterday 20:21

Questionsandanswersx · Yesterday 20:15

This is also my quandary. Even go feather and say a porn receiving that specialist SOLICITORS advice, I just don’t understand why any sensible person would immediately jump at forcing the financial situation, taking on the liability, it’s supposed to pacing and say and and ask why should I have to do that? What if I can’t afford this liability? And it is at that point the OP should have seen that she could reject the inheritance. I’m just wondering why any natural person jumps to accept accepting their liability it’s supposed to say no why must I accept this liability? Just because it’s an inheritance.

She has explained what happened. There was an expensive court option.

DeanGaffneysPenisBeaker · Yesterday 20:23

Questionsandanswersx · Yesterday 20:15

This is also my quandary. Even go feather and say a porn receiving that specialist SOLICITORS advice, I just don’t understand why any sensible person would immediately jump at forcing the financial situation, taking on the liability, it’s supposed to pacing and say and and ask why should I have to do that? What if I can’t afford this liability? And it is at that point the OP should have seen that she could reject the inheritance. I’m just wondering why any natural person jumps to accept accepting their liability it’s supposed to say no why must I accept this liability? Just because it’s an inheritance.

What does ‘go feather and say a porn’ mean!?

saraclara · Yesterday 20:28

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 16:27

Most 70 year olds can use the internet to find this out when needed. The tenant isn't some senile old idiot. They might have some kind of SEN but they aren't stupid

Indeed. This 70 year old has just come through two years of complex legal stuff regarding my mum's estate, her huge care debt, and managing and selling her buy to let property with the tenants from hell in it.

If I could do all that, then the 70 year old in your property can protect her tenancy, which is very simple.

The poster you quoted is a prime example of the ageism on Mumsnet.

UnbeatenMum · Yesterday 20:30

Let's say you can't sell it but also can't afford the work. Could the tenant pay and then take it off their future rent? Or if you tell the council you can't pay apparently they could do the work themselves and then put a charge on the house which might mean you don't need to pay and the house could be made safe even if there are future ramifications for its value.

Spaghettihoopsontoastplease · Yesterday 20:30

IsItSnowing · Yesterday 10:39

In the south of England, developers will buy land with no possibility of planning permission with a view to pushing their luck in 50 years or more. Land is expensive and planning boundaries and laws change.
If this tenant is elderly, he can't live forever. Eventually the property will become viable for demolition and rebuilding. A deveoper can still make money on the smallest of plots with the right design.

Exactly, 20-25 years is not a long time really in terms of investments.

Questionsandanswersx · Yesterday 20:34

Cantgiveitaway · Yesterday 20:20

Please see previous post explaining this.

sorry have not see it. Please copy me in. I am very interested in what you have to say about this. Thank you.

NCTDN · Yesterday 20:35

Wow what a tricky situation. It’s an eye opener as I’ve never thought of any inheritance in a negative way.
i think the option of buying it with long term prospects sounds the most hopeful.