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To think that I should of at least been offered a seat on the bus yesterday.

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 10:59

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littleboyblue · 02/07/2008 11:01

Shocking. Unbelievable how rude everyone is these days.
I have a badge I got free with a mag this week, a london transport baby on board badge

RubySlippers · 02/07/2008 11:01

of course someone should have offered you a seat, so YANBU

poor you - sounds miserable ....

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 11:03

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pinkspottywellies · 02/07/2008 11:04

Ideally yes, someone would have offered you a seat. But you could have asked. I know people don't always feel confident enough to but just find someone friendly looking and say 'excuse me, I'm heavily pg and really struggling to carry my daughter and stay standing. Would you mind if I sit down?' Someone would have been giult-tripped into giving up thier seat. Sorry you had to go through it though

greenelizabeth · 02/07/2008 11:05

It doesn't surprise me. I used to get the tube, 8 months prg, hanging on to those swingy poles hoping I wouldn't lurch and fall over.

I remember once, a lady about ten years older than I was then, said to a bunch of men all sitting down "look at you all in your suits reading the telegraph and not a gentleman amnonst you!".

They all stood up at once. I had the pick of seats and I BEAMED at her! I could so tell she'd been in my shoes a while back.

I am so gobby and opinionated now, I feel like I've taken her baton now, and I would say something equally judgy to a bunch of lazy arses on the tube.

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 11:07

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Kimi · 02/07/2008 11:14

that is so so rude.

My sister was on the tube the other week, she was stood up and a young Indian bloke also stood up said to the seated people, you are all rude look at this poor pregnant woman having to stand, I thought the British were supposed to be polite... Sis was then offered 4 seats, she did not have the heart to tell the chap she was not pregnant just a little on the chubby side

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 11:26

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HermanMunster · 02/07/2008 11:52

i'd offer my seat to the elderly but would no longer offer my seat to a woman on the bus or train due to previous incidents that made me realise it's not worth the hassle of being polite just to get an ear full of abuse.

CrushWithEyeliner · 02/07/2008 11:54

LOL Kimi!

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 11:56

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UnquietDad · 02/07/2008 11:58

I had a moment's difficult "is she pregnant or just fat?" call on the bus the other day. You never know if you are going to cause offence. In the end I was spared the moral decision as another man nearer to her gave up his seat.

HermanMunster · 02/07/2008 12:01

i mean some women reacting badly. as though by you offering them a seat you are obviously a chauvenist who is suggesting they lack the capacity to stand for a journey.
i've been sworn at for offering my seat to women on busses and looked at like i was suggesting they give up the vote.
same thing with holding open doors for women. i still do it as i was brought up with manners, but the amount of women who give you filthy looks and comments about how they can "manage to open a door myself you know" is really astounding.

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 12:04

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CrushWithEyeliner · 02/07/2008 12:05

that is awful hm

HermanMunster · 02/07/2008 12:08

meh it happens.
you get gobshites in all walks of life. men and women.
some people just seem to be waiting to be offended or have something to complain about.

mustsleep · 02/07/2008 12:09

similar thing happened to me the other dayam 30 wks pregnant and goton full bus with dd who is twonoone offered us a seat and there was hardly any room to stand - poor dd lurching around all over

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 12:11

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Twiglett · 02/07/2008 12:11

but why didn't you ask someone?

Twiglett · 02/07/2008 12:12

people on public transport zone out .. they don't really look at other people .. so I believe if you ask politely you get, normally with apologies

and if you don't ask then you really can't blame anyone can you?

witchandchips · 02/07/2008 12:18

I learnt while pregnant with ds and when taking ds on tube that easiest thing is to ask. Ask early (assume that they all want to give you a seat but are too embarrassed to offer). Never been refused (well once but that because the bloke sitting in the priority seat was blind and i hadn;t realised !)

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KnickersOnMaHead · 02/07/2008 12:31

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Kimi · 02/07/2008 12:32

I was on the tube with a tired 4 year old a bag of shopping and and was 7 months pregnant, had been at work all day and was worn out.
Tube full and someone got off and I sat in their seat, woman in the next seat said "oi you cant sit there my husband was going to sit there" I told her I had done a 9 hour shift, DS1 was going to sleep in my arms, my back hurt my feet hurt and if her hubby wanted to fight me for it I was sure I would win she shut up,

hunkermunker · 02/07/2008 12:34

Jimmy Carr has a lot to answer for with his "I'd rather see a pregnant woman standing up than a fat girl crying and sitting down" [misquote]

Twiglett · 02/07/2008 12:35

knickers I'm sure you could have grunted or screamed your request at someone surely during the hour or so you were stuck

I just think next time you should ask .. that's all