To not change jobs even though it would be 1.5k more per month?

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Currently WFH full time and love it. Due to some health issues it’s the perfect balance for me.
We just manage financially.
DH has been commenting on how the same role but not WFH and an extra hour per day is approx 1.5k more. Where these jobs are though is quite a long drive .

To me it’s not worth it as would unbalance things for me health wise, with the house and also with ds as currently I can do all school runs etc. I’ve said to dh my time and health are more important to me than building up savings. AIBU?

Youve jumped to its not wrong without so many details.

How much is he working, earning and contributing. Why did he look it up before discussing it with her? Is he going to do 50% of the childcare?

Two things can be true at the same time.

I don't consider looking at options and mentioning them to a long term partner to be a wrong move on it's own. It's just one search, or maybe a random add you see somewhere.
I see the OP is "a bit irritated" by that, so I commented on this part specifically.

That said, he can easily be wrong about everything that follows - how he presents it, how the discussion about the options goes.
The question "would he cover 50% of childcare" is part of that discussion, and in general if he doesn't propose any change on his side, it is probably a bad proposal.

In my post I mentioned many points to consider, and any of them can be the reason why whatever he found isn't relevant at all - it seems, that the current job has significant non-monetary value, so a good discussion would be mostly about this aspects and about what the OP wants (now and in the future)

Whether it’s net or gross is key here. If gross, then you’re looking at net £750-800 or so. Less childcare of say £350-400/month. Less commuting costs and parking (low balling this at £100). So you’d be making maybe £300 extra a month.
If he thinks this is worth it he can find himself a new job!

A lot going on here. I wouldn’t regard a partner’s focus on building up savings as a bad thing, quite the opposite. But it sounds very like the politician’s syllogism:

1 something must be done
2 this is something
3 therefore we must do this

You need to put an evening aside for a household financial review - short, medium and long term. He perhaps needs to think about how realistic building up savings is right now in the childcare years, but also you need to look at everything- earnings, pensions etc. If he has found an opportunity for you that means a serious jump up in your future earning potential that doesn’t come around often, I don’t think you should dismiss it out of hand or be too irritated by it. And if your ds is out of nursery and into school, that might be a good time to start thinking that way.

Yeah I value my personal time too highly to be doing all that extra time for such a small amount extra, just isn’t worth it is it.

So you would work and hour a day extra? How long is the commute?

The only thing I'd say to him is to shift his arse and get a better job himself, rather than expecting me to solve all his financial problems. Cheeky fucker.

How much do you earn and how much does your husband earn? Is he working long hours while you take the easier option of working from home? If he did the same as you in terms of hours worked and salary, could you cover the family bills and maintain your current lifestyle? Why does he have to do it, but not you? Do you feel entitled to being a 'kept woman'? Does he have the option of having 'health issues' or does he just have to keep going no matter what?