Dp and music

[dilema124]

Ds19 was working until midnight last night.
This morning dp was hanging picture in living room.
Ds bedroom directly below living room.
I came upstairs and heard loud music playing from living room.
I went down and asked dp to turn it down as ds was sleeping.
Dp turned it down about 3 on remote which barely made a difference so i lifted remote and turned it down more.
This annoyed dp and he said whats the problem its the daytime (10.30am) , he (ds) was only working until midnight (he usually works until 2/3am) He then said he doesn’t pay any bills and why is he specialised ( I think he meant special treatment) and that he games all night ( he does game but our bedrooms are at opposite ends of house.
I said he was acting like a dick and went back upstairs.
We had a celebration today and to be honest it just turned the air blue for me and I got on with it but it has been playing on my mind.
Iv just spoken to dp and he doesn't think he did anything wrong and is reasoning it with he was going to be using the drill anyhow.
My reasoning is the music was intended to be loud and continuous while the drilling was going to be quick.
His comments and attitude have really bothered me.
dp is ds step dad.
ds doesn't pay bills right now as he has only recently returned to work after a months stint in hospital after a bad accident.

Who was being unreasonable?

Phew. So the neighbours don’t have to hear loud music and you two yelling at each other

Your partner should be understanding that your son was out of work because of an accident, but if your son is only sleeping late because he's recovering from late-night gaming, I can see why your partner thinks he should be 'allowed' to listen to music in his own home in the middle of the morning.

I can see why he might feel annoyed if you're expecting him to keep normal daytime noise down when your son chooses to stay up late for his own entertainment. Late-night gaming is okay, but you can't expect others in the house to be quiet during normal hours so you can catch up on sleep. He can put in some earplugs and make the best of it or he can go to sleep at a more normal hour and then game in the morning, instead.

There was no reason for the day to feel ruined. Maybe he could have been more considerate, but it sounds like you overreacted to some music.

@Offtodaywho said anything about yelling ?

His resentment will be towards you not your DS. I can’t imagine being so controlling about music playing at 10:30am.

Playing music at full volume with other people in the house is dickish, asleep or not.

Normal volume/ normal house noise is fine, just no need to crank up your shit tunes so everyone else can't think.

@arnoldsit was more the volume I had issue with

Sorry i managed to miss the part about how loud it actually was!