I have had plans to go out with friends to an afternoon 80's party and then to a concert in the evening. I have been looking forward to these two things for months.
I invited another very close friend of mine along. She is very good fun, I love her to bits and she could do with the cheering up that these two things would bring. As she lives near me I will be taking us both and we're staying overnight.
She was initially keen to go to both things, but now says she only wants to go to the concert at night. She's had bad health lately and feels both things will be too much for her.
I have been looking forward to going to the daytime party and meeting up with these friends for months.
As I originally told her my plans were to go to both things am I being rude by telling her that I'm still going and she can relax at the hotel? As much as I sympathise with her being previously ill, I've invited her to join my existing plans and don't see why I should compromise those plans.
It's not about the cost of the ticket I'd be losing out on, it's about treating my friend properly without compromising things I've been looking forward to for ages. I think she might assume I won't go to the day time thing either.
So before I have the discussion with her am I being rude by saying she can stay and relax at the hotel while I go out in the afternoon, then we go to to the concert together in the evening?