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10 year olds more likely to be on disability benefits than 50 year olds

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 18:07

AIBU to think this is absolutely baffling? And at some point we really have to investigate why so many young children are non verbal, have severe emotional regulation problems etc?

10 year olds more likely to be on disability benefits than 50 year olds
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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:17

Acommonreader · 16/10/2026 20:14

Wow I wonder why you didn’t read so many posts on social media about autistic kids 30 years ago?!

Not 30 years ago, 10-15 years ago. 2015 wasn’t the dark ages.

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Greenmouldycheese · 16/10/2026 20:18

Well yes. People seek diagnosis for these things alot more now because they get many many benefits in doing so.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:18

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 20:14

Can you point to a specific cluster of a specific disability that has spiked significantly in the past 3 years?

Anxiety in young people
non verbal autism

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:18

Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 20:13

Oh yes sorry missed a power of ten.

so the total number of children who might possibly be non verbal but most of whom won’t be is one in eleven.

those are the children who are receiving any kind of assistance from the school for any kind of speech and language problem. Some (probably most in practice) will be verbal.

I think you need to acknowledge 10 times the number you initially said is a big jump! And 1 in 11 is roughly what I’ve been saying!

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:19

TemperanceWest · 16/10/2026 20:11

So what do you think is the cause?

I have some ideas

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Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 16/10/2026 20:19

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 19:53

The renewal for DLA is just as strict as the initial claim. They need the same evidence at 12 as they did at 6. If you no longer have consultant or therapist input who can confirm the condition, you will likely not continue to be given benefits.

I don’t think they would lie about it. They have never needed to provide the same level of evidence since the initial claim.

ThreadGuardDog · 16/10/2026 20:19

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 20:11

Indeed. We are about to switch to ADP from CDP. It’s a worrying time because if she loses it, she loses her car. People will insist that these benefits should only go to the most profoundly disabled people, but in my daughter’s category of “too disabled but not disabled enough” it’s really difficult. She can walk aided sometimes, but sometimes she can’t and uses a wheelchair. She never qualified for 1:1 care at school, but her support needs are so sporadic, there needs to be someone assigned to be there for her when she needs it. She doesn’t need a WAV or adaptions on her car (except a hoist for her wheelchair), but the size of car she needs to carry her wheelchair means it would be impossible to buy a car and get insured for it aged 17. Even though we like in a town, there are no routes she can safely use in her wheelchair to get to a bus stop. She has no access to any suitable sports nearby so if she wants to remain active she needs a gym membership and the means to get there. Any sports she has done cost extra because she needs an instructor and someone to support her. We need adaptions in the house to help her to be able to be independent. We have to buy equipment for her, specialist utensils etc. She goes through shoes and clothes so quickly because they are not designed properly for disabled people. Even the amount of crockery we go through as she drops it a lot, all adds to the cost!

So much of the world is designed for either totally disabled or totally not disabled. Those in the middle really struggle with it.

I have no experience of CDP, only DLA/PIP but PIP does have rules around safety, reliability, reasonable time frames and pain/discomfort. Assessors also have to consider the knock on effects of one activity on another. For example if getting showered and dressed leaves you so tired you would have to rest before doing anything else.

I’ve successfully argued at appeal using the 50% rule - which basically says that to be considered capable of carrying out any activity you must be able to do it for at least 50% of the time. I’m assuming that there will be the same type of safeguards around CDP. Would that help if the type of support she needs is sporadic ?

TemperanceWest · 16/10/2026 20:20

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:19

I have some ideas

Which are?

MrsMurphyIWish · 16/10/2026 20:21

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:17

Not 30 years ago, 10-15 years ago. 2015 wasn’t the dark ages.

MrsMurphyIWish · Today 20:02
DS is 12. We don’t know why he is autistic - could be genetic but I don’t really know my birth family history but it could down to the fact as he was premature, a knot in the cord and a the cord wrapped around his neck. He would have died decades ago.

My post @AgeingMillennial. DS born 2014. Am assuming there are others like him due to medical intervention.

x2boys · 16/10/2026 20:23

planespotter71 · 16/10/2026 18:52

Glued to screens before they can walk and talk. Then they have to use the screens to ‘self regulate’

How offenesive my severly autistic non verbal teen has never been interested in screens
His rare chromosome disorder however is far more likely to be the reason for his complex disabillities

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:25

TemperanceWest · 16/10/2026 20:20

Which are?

I think environmental toxins

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PDAalltheway · 16/10/2026 20:26

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:07

Yes I think there will be an environmental cause for the severe non verbal autism we see now, which they will find one day . I follow a mum of a child like this online, she does a LOT of research into it and she’s convinced it’s environmental (has had full gene studies etc)

There is actually a very significant number of peer-reviewed research studies about the effects of nutrition (or lack of it) in autism. Off the top of my head, nutrients that have been shown to have benefit in reducing symptoms or improving quality of life include vitamin D, magnesium, vitamin B1, vitamin B6, vitamin B12, folate, betaine/TMG, choline, carnitine, creatine, zinc. I'm sure there are many others. My ASD DC lost about 50% of their diagnosed speech disorder overnight with B12 supplementation. They stopped needing speech therapy due to improvements from supplementing zinc.

But even though this stuff is known about, no-one seems to care enough to do anything about it.

I would bet that the need to have 2 working parents has had a negative effect on many children's nutrition compared with a time when one parent was more likely to be at home all or some of the time and was able to cook from scratch.

Thatsalineallright · 16/10/2026 20:26

MrsMurphyIWish · 16/10/2026 20:10

All of you debating these issues - you realise these are actually people you’re talking about? I’m a parent of a disabled child and I work. Life is tough. It’s awful at times.

I understand life is tough, especially for the parents of a disabled child. I'm not sure what about my post you find offensive?

It's not just mental health rates that are up. For example, cancer in people under 30 is up as well.

What could explain that other than some sort of environmental factors?

It's not as if I'm inventing anything. Research has clearly linked the factors I mentioned with mental health outcomes.

Kirbert2 · 16/10/2026 20:27

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 16/10/2026 20:19

I don’t think they would lie about it. They have never needed to provide the same level of evidence since the initial claim.

If their child has improved, it clearly states on letters they receive that they should report a change in circumstances so I wouldn't be so sure about the lying part as they will know they should be reporting that her needs have changed.

Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 20:29

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:18

I think you need to acknowledge 10 times the number you initially said is a big jump! And 1 in 11 is roughly what I’ve been saying!

Ok yes sorry missed a power of ten,

I do think you need to acknowledge in turn that there are detailed stats in this and you don’t need to rely on hearsay on social media.

the one in eleven is children getting pretty much any form of speech and language support in school though - I deliberately included all possible categories that might be non verbal.

in practice, at least half of those will be verbal and it’ll be issues like unclear pronunciation etc that speech and language are dealing with.

the data on non verbal autistic children isn’t detailed enough to look at the sorts of ages they tend to become verbal - I’ve certainly taught autistic children who became verbal at 7/8/9.

I wonder if local authority data might be more detailed. Hmm.

Thatsalineallright · 16/10/2026 20:29

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 20:12

Where did you get your PhD in neuro-disability?

I obviously don't have one. I do have a brain, however, and can read.

What exactly are you pushing back on? I'm happy to provide sources.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:30

Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 20:29

Ok yes sorry missed a power of ten,

I do think you need to acknowledge in turn that there are detailed stats in this and you don’t need to rely on hearsay on social media.

the one in eleven is children getting pretty much any form of speech and language support in school though - I deliberately included all possible categories that might be non verbal.

in practice, at least half of those will be verbal and it’ll be issues like unclear pronunciation etc that speech and language are dealing with.

the data on non verbal autistic children isn’t detailed enough to look at the sorts of ages they tend to become verbal - I’ve certainly taught autistic children who became verbal at 7/8/9.

I wonder if local authority data might be more detailed. Hmm.

Ok but even if slightly less than half are non verbal, that matches my 1 in 30 guess.

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Holeymoley28 · 16/10/2026 20:31

It’s many reasons.

More children are surviving conditions that wouldn’t be compatible with life previously. More prem babies are surviving.
More parents are starting to have children at older ages.
More medical interventions to create babies that would have never existed before.
within the U.K. itself as well cousin marriages have only recently started to decrease I believe which is a big thing for disabilities in children but for cultural reasons we are not meant to talk about that either.

Then you do have those that even if small get a legit diagnoses for one child and then suddenly every child they have has the exact same diagnosis when most smart people would of stopped having more children

The ones I’ve seen at school that are clearly Sen without even talking to the parents come in their McLaren major pushchairs, short shaved heads and holding an iPad. No idea why it seems to be the local uniform but it is.

Then there are the ones where I know the parent and the child mostly presents as NT with a few tweaks needed to be able to stay happily in school learning.

Getintheseayoufish · 16/10/2026 20:31

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:18

Anxiety in young people
non verbal autism

Lol anxiety in young people has not "spiked". There's been a huge campaign to encourage people to speak more about their mental health over recent years. Before that, we were all told to shut up. Stiff upper lip and all that.

Getintheseayoufish · 16/10/2026 20:31

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:25

I think environmental toxins

Such as?

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:32

Getintheseayoufish · 16/10/2026 20:31

Lol anxiety in young people has not "spiked". There's been a huge campaign to encourage people to speak more about their mental health over recent years. Before that, we were all told to shut up. Stiff upper lip and all that.

I disagree. It’s accepted now that poor mental health in young people has shot up.

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:34

The ones I’ve seen at school that are clearly Sen without even talking to the parents come in their McLaren major pushchairs, short shaved heads and holding an iPad. No idea why it seems to be the local uniform but it is.

Yes we have these as well! Do you mean the buggy with the big metal frame? Yes they’re also holding an iPad.

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Vegetablespringrolls · 16/10/2026 20:34

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:42

That must be hard what disabilities do they have?

Ds1 has autism and adhd
Ds2 has autism
Ds3 has autism and adhd
Ds4 has moderate learning disabilities, cleft lip/palate, a reoccurring cyst, a benign tumour in one ear.
Ds5 has autism.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:36

Vegetablespringrolls · 16/10/2026 20:34

Ds1 has autism and adhd
Ds2 has autism
Ds3 has autism and adhd
Ds4 has moderate learning disabilities, cleft lip/palate, a reoccurring cyst, a benign tumour in one ear.
Ds5 has autism.

I understand DC4 but why wouldn’t the others have survived?

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Holeymoley28 · 16/10/2026 20:36

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 20:34

The ones I’ve seen at school that are clearly Sen without even talking to the parents come in their McLaren major pushchairs, short shaved heads and holding an iPad. No idea why it seems to be the local uniform but it is.

Yes we have these as well! Do you mean the buggy with the big metal frame? Yes they’re also holding an iPad.

Yes that’s it. The children are all male. Always mum doing the grunt work never seen a dad pushing the pushchair.

I only really noticed as it’s like a uniform of them. Much like a group of trackie wearing lads would stand out.