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10 year olds more likely to be on disability benefits than 50 year olds

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 18:07

AIBU to think this is absolutely baffling? And at some point we really have to investigate why so many young children are non verbal, have severe emotional regulation problems etc?

10 year olds more likely to be on disability benefits than 50 year olds
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Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 19:29

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:22

No they don’t. They haven’t, for instance, recorded how many children in reception are unable to speak any functional language. Unless you can enlighten me?

Can do but will need to get my laptop as DfE data is through stat explore which spits out excel files which I can’t easily look at on my phone. Give me ten.

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 19:29

thefeelingofbeingalive · 16/10/2026 19:05

It’s crazy. Rules around diagnosis need to be tightened up - no more paying for a diagnosis. The only diagnosis that should be accepted is an NHS one. Also, no disability benefits for any child under 18.

Currently in my area, you cannot have a child on the pathway for diagnosis unless there are two or more co-morbidities, to a high level. Even with that, the current waiting list just to be seen is 2 years. The NHS themselves signpost people to two private clinics if they don’t meet NHS criteria.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:30

Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 19:29

Can do but will need to get my laptop as DfE data is through stat explore which spits out excel files which I can’t easily look at on my phone. Give me ten.

Ok thanks

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roaringdragon · 16/10/2026 19:33

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 18:58

I’ve heard teachers of younger kids say they think about 10% of them will need care as adults, and this fits with what I’ve seen at my kids school and nursery. In each class there’s been at least 1 non verbal child and one or two more with mid level autism

Needing care as an adult isn’t the same as needing 24/7 care as an adult.

roaringdragon · 16/10/2026 19:34

thefeelingofbeingalive · 16/10/2026 19:05

It’s crazy. Rules around diagnosis need to be tightened up - no more paying for a diagnosis. The only diagnosis that should be accepted is an NHS one. Also, no disability benefits for any child under 18.

Disability benefits aren’t based on diagnosis. A diagnosis isn’t required to claim. Equally a diagnosis doesn’t automatically make one eligible.

ThreadGuardDog · 16/10/2026 19:37

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:22

No they don’t. They haven’t, for instance, recorded how many children in reception are unable to speak any functional language. Unless you can enlighten me?

Various national surveys and government statistics show verifiable data on severe early language deficits - one in four children starting receptionlack basic language skills, which includes severe struggles like being unable to say or respond to their own name. One in five children fail benchmarks and finish reception without reaching expected targets for basic communication and language.

Around two children in every average class of thirty have developmental language disorders and experience a severe long term difficulty in speaking or understanding spoken language.

Data from Speech and Language UK says a record two million children in the UK now struggle with talking and understanding speech, much of that is a result of pandemic isolation and shifting home communication. In some highly deprived areas school leaders are reporting that up to 50% of new intakes arrive with severe speech delays.

Vegetablespringrolls · 16/10/2026 19:41

I have 5 disabled dc. 3 of them wouldn't have survived if they had been born 20 years earlier.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:42

Vegetablespringrolls · 16/10/2026 19:41

I have 5 disabled dc. 3 of them wouldn't have survived if they had been born 20 years earlier.

That must be hard what disabilities do they have?

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roaringdragon · 16/10/2026 19:43

You can’t directly compare the rate of claimants for DLA and PIP. The eligibility criteria are different. Some who are eligible for one won’t be eligible for the other. Also, DLA has 3 rates of the care component. Whereas, PIP’s daily living component doesn’t. It has 2. It doesn’t have a rate equivalent to low rate care.

IsaTheIguana · 16/10/2026 19:44

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 18:07

AIBU to think this is absolutely baffling? And at some point we really have to investigate why so many young children are non verbal, have severe emotional regulation problems etc?

This post has a eugenacist energy.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:47

IsaTheIguana · 16/10/2026 19:44

This post has a eugenacist energy.

So you don’t think they should’ve investigated thalidomide or anything?

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boopetboopt · 16/10/2026 19:47

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 18:20

I’m just amazed that more than 1 in 10 ten year olds are so disabled they qualify for benefits

Where is that from

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 19:48

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:47

So you don’t think they should’ve investigated thalidomide or anything?

Oh give over. That’s an entirely different scenario.

Fiftyandme · 16/10/2026 19:49

ThatRedFish · 16/10/2026 19:19

This is a real issue.
If screens are what a child uses to ‘self-regulate’… I’m pretty certain it’s actually screen time in their early years that is causing ADHD/ Autism-like symptoms. It’s a growing issue, and it’s a parenting issue. Early years are very important and formative.

You realise it’s genetic, yes?
Morher of two autistic kids, autistic herself, can think of at least 3 family members all on my mother’s side who aware so obviously in the spectrum.

Thats 5 generations….and I’m pretty sure for all by one of those generations (in fact just one of those 5) , iPads and smart phones didn’t exist

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:51

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 19:48

Oh give over. That’s an entirely different scenario.

Is it? Limb differences have always been around.

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:51

boopetboopt · 16/10/2026 19:47

Where is that from

See the graph at the top it was in the news today

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ThreadGuardDog · 16/10/2026 19:52

Anyahyacinth · 16/10/2026 19:28

This thread and countless others are to massage an acceptance of abandoning people with disabilities...of making them suspect and unbelievable.

Our society faces huge challenges...some people are desperate to jump to cruel solutions that divide us. Suggesting that people are faking or exaggerating

Yet the same people being attacked here die decades before the general population....strange that when they are living the high life on benefits 😔 and making up their disabilities.

It’s actually very concerning. We have multiple problems facing us as a nation but it seems the solution to all our ills is to reduce the circumstances of the most vulnerable in society. There’s also a very worrying lack of understanding as to why disability benefits are actually paid and what they’re meant to support.

BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 19:53

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 16/10/2026 19:07

You don’t have to be very disabled to qualify for benefits. My Family members daughter get it for possible ADHD. She’s bright and capable and in a mainstream secondary, all going well. When my family member applied for DLA, she was struggling as she was only about 6 and her parents were divorcing and she was in a new school who felt she had symptoms of ADHD. She’s doing much better now but she’s never been reassessed, my family member just says that nothing has changed when she is checked. High school has no concerns and there have never been a diagnosis. I don’t even think she’s ok the waiting list but I’m unsure. She’s 12 now.

so I think DLA is mostly given to those who desperately need it but also at times, to those who don’t need it quite so much and whose children don’t incur extra cost due to a possible disability. Many people will apply if they’re told they’re entitled to and are told to fill the initial form out as if every day is extreme when that may not be the case:

The renewal for DLA is just as strict as the initial claim. They need the same evidence at 12 as they did at 6. If you no longer have consultant or therapist input who can confirm the condition, you will likely not continue to be given benefits.

PDAalltheway · 16/10/2026 19:54

As others have said, disability benefits are needs related, not based on diagnosis. I have no idea how people manage to claim fraudulently as it takes a huge amount of evidence to get it. A very high proportion of children with eg autism will not be eligible for DLA. Basing benefits on diagnosis is mad when there is a 4 year waiting list for assessment in my area.

You can't really live on disability benefits. Middle rate DLA is about £100 a week and carers is just under that if I remember rightly.

To the person upthread talking about a child who presented "normally" during a playdate, this could well be masking. In some types of autism this is particularly common. Masking is pretending you don't have autism and comes at huge energetic and emotional cost. I have a child who would have been able to look "normal" during a playmate, but the friend's parents wouldn't have seen the 6+ hours' a day effort to try to get enough calories into him, the 2 hour daily toothbrushing battle or the meltdowns and self-harm that followed stressful events - probably including said playdate. Being able to put on a good front for a short while doesn't make you not autistic or not disabled.

Brokentoes85 · 16/10/2026 19:54

Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 18:19

Yes, more children with severe autism are being born,

nobody is quite sure why but some ideas have been floated.

an increase in severe autism cannot be put down to diagnostic categories moving as these children would have been diagnosed now or thirty years ago.

There's no such thing as severe autism and I would love to see the data on that claim pleeeasssssse

Fiftyandme · 16/10/2026 19:56

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:51

Is it? Limb differences have always been around.

The scale, severity, and pattern of ‘limb differences’ was very very very different to what would have normally been expected based on previous rates of ‘limb differences’ it was abundantly clear to anyone with half a brain that something had gone very wrong and there was a cause for this sudden cluster of birth defects.

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:56

PDAalltheway · 16/10/2026 19:54

As others have said, disability benefits are needs related, not based on diagnosis. I have no idea how people manage to claim fraudulently as it takes a huge amount of evidence to get it. A very high proportion of children with eg autism will not be eligible for DLA. Basing benefits on diagnosis is mad when there is a 4 year waiting list for assessment in my area.

You can't really live on disability benefits. Middle rate DLA is about £100 a week and carers is just under that if I remember rightly.

To the person upthread talking about a child who presented "normally" during a playdate, this could well be masking. In some types of autism this is particularly common. Masking is pretending you don't have autism and comes at huge energetic and emotional cost. I have a child who would have been able to look "normal" during a playmate, but the friend's parents wouldn't have seen the 6+ hours' a day effort to try to get enough calories into him, the 2 hour daily toothbrushing battle or the meltdowns and self-harm that followed stressful events - probably including said playdate. Being able to put on a good front for a short while doesn't make you not autistic or not disabled.

But if it’s that difficult why have 11% of 10 year olds been successful in applying? (Or their parents!)

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AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:57

Fiftyandme · 16/10/2026 19:56

The scale, severity, and pattern of ‘limb differences’ was very very very different to what would have normally been expected based on previous rates of ‘limb differences’ it was abundantly clear to anyone with half a brain that something had gone very wrong and there was a cause for this sudden cluster of birth defects.

Yes and I think that now with the number of children with non verbal autism. It’s always been around but I see so many now, all the posts about it on here are from the last 5/6 years

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BoredZelda · 16/10/2026 19:58

AgeingMillennial · 16/10/2026 19:51

Is it? Limb differences have always been around.

There was a massive cluster of cases, spiking over a very small period of time. It was clear there was a very specific problem.

Octavia64 · 16/10/2026 19:58

Ok so

dfe says how many children are in reception here:
https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/data-tables/permalink/489bec15-4dfe-480e-8cd1-08df25240285

spoiler it’s 572,913

i did some interrogation of the dfe data from stat explore. Their data on disabilities is strictly by age which is frankly quite annoying but I’ve got the table for five year olds which should give a reasonable idea and saved it as a permanent link

https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/data-tables/permalink/24a03ebd-4c97-42eb-4bd7-08df251b5373

so all children aged 5 who might need language support - I have included all children with ASD, profound learning difficulty and any kind of speech and language problem so this sweeps up lots that will be verbal.

link here:
https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/data-tables/permalink/24a03ebd-4c97-42eb-4bd7-08df251b5373

grand total for this is about 20,000 girls and 47,000 boys, so 67,000 in total.

67,000 out of 572,000 is 1.14 per cent. So about one in seventy children.

'Pupil characteristics - number of pupils by national curriculum year group and sex' from 'Schools, pupils and their characteristics', Permanent data table

Find, download and explore official Department for Education (DfE) statistics and data in England.

https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/data-tables/permalink/489bec15-4dfe-480e-8cd1-08df25240285

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