Eating nachos & watching Tv at 11 am

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Would you consider this a waste of life?

i work part time around the Dc, I also do majority around the house, food shop, bills, organisation of everything...

This morning, I dropped Dc at school, small food shop, walked Ddog, washing, picked up poo in the garden, washed up, tidied bedrooms. I was done by 10.30 and am now watching 90 day fiancee with nachos and will watch more shows Ive been looking forward to until 3, when i'll do school pick up, drop to piano lessons, dinner, washing up, homework help etc

Would you consider this a waste of life amd lazy?
Or justified and ok?

Plenty of people enjoy this type of lifestyle.

😂 Not full weekly shop, but some bits and I take Ddog in the woods by my house. I'm fast doing chores as I hate them

Maybe you put more work in at the weekends when the kids are off school ?

Anyway, if you feel guilty you can take up DIY or something.

I would be considering a new fiancee- but up to you.

The question I'd be looking at is your long term financial security, including pensions.

Is it ok to have a lazy day? Sure, it's your life. But while you devote yourself to unpaid domestic tasks and working PT, your OH is building his career and earnings, both now and for the future.

It's a pretty shit deal for you.

Why? I barely do any paid work per week

Doing something that you want to do is never a waste of time. We don’t always have to be on the go, out and about and achieving things.
Enjoy your day!

I think you are effectively working a split shift - back at work at three and working until children are in bed - so this is your down time.

The MN holy grail is equal free time so how many hours a week do you do this sort of thing and how much time does your partner get to do the same? Is he spending his non working hours doing stuff you could do instead of watching tv or not?

Are you happy and fulfilled? Is your partner?

That's no reason to leave almost everything to the other parent in the home you live in together.

Then maybe there's no reason to leave earning enough to support the family to the working parent, maybe both should be out working then both can take on the domestic 'admin' and house keeping together too.
To answer the OP's question, Yes, eating nachos at any time is a waste, awful things!

I think day time TV is a bit grim unless you're really ill?

Its fine, sometimes when my kids were small l would take a day off work, drop them at school and go back to bed to watch tv until l had to pick them up...

Presumably he's out working 8 hours a day. She does 3 in the morning, and then say 2 in the late afternoon until he gets home.
Whiakt I whole heartedly agree anything done after they're both hoem should he shared out, she's spending 4 hours a day watching telly. She's hardly over worked.

Op Al l that matters is if you're happy, ultimately. It is why I started an OU degree and why I volunteer. Can't work atm around kids, but I just found it boring once the kids were at school. At least OU and now volunteering gives me something for my CV too.

I think the fact that you're asking the question maybe speak to the fact that you know this is a waste of a life.

So he should work a full time job and do half of the house and kids stuff, whilst op doesn't work and just does half the house and kids stuff?

I do this at least once a week

What's grim about it? I'm watching TV right now, I've done some housework and been to the gym and have some time before I need to walk back to school. Once I get back I'll do a few more jobs, go for a run then do a few more jobs until I stop for the evening around 9pm.

What else should I be doing on my day off?

I'm not sure I'd call it a waste of life (each to their own), and it is certainly fine as a treat, but day on day if you have time for this, clearly there isn't enough to do around the house when kids are in school and DH at work. Why would you not want to work? Even if your financial arrangement with your DH is perfectly fair and supportive now, building in long-term dependence on anyone (but yourself) is not advisable, as even a cursory glance at the many many threads on MN will demonstrate.

How p/t are you? You say you do 'barely' any paid work?

That's worrying. It's one thing if you are working p/t because circumstances e.g. with DC mean working more is not possible.

But you sound like you have oodles of time. Why don't you work more? Personally, yes, I consider that a complete waste of time, unless very rarely. However it is of course your choice - but why would you choose to work p/t only to sit and eat nachos and watch daytime TV regularly, while your partner works long hours, doesn't contribute to domestic chores and so this disconnect grows.

What would happen if you split up? How is your pension looking? Have you continued to develop your career? And do you enjoy sitting eating nachos in the middle of the day while watching TV?

It's not day time tv, series/films on Netflix etc

I would love love love to do a masters, but can't afford it

Tell me you are jealous without telling me that you’re jealous 🤣

It's fine if you get everything you need done and are happy.

As someone who has worked full time with kids, done a masters (wtf was i thinking?) And is one the point of burn out at 58, I salute you. Long may you continue