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AIBU to think genital ‘jewellery’ on a man is a bit weird?

76 replies

Myli1 · 10/10/2026 10:02

BF has been dating a new guy for a few weeks. Everything seems to be going swimmingly well and they’re apparently getting on like a house on fire. She has not slept with him yet, but during a slightly tipsy conversation it somehow came up that he has a metal ring which fits around his scrotum and base of the penis, which he said was for ‘decoration’ but also helps to maintain an erection for longer. This did not entirely surprise or shock me as he seems a bit of a hippy type with a man-bun, lots of tattoos and those earrings that stretch your earlobes into big holes. I said I thought the ring seemed a bit weird though and potentially a red flag. BF said she feels quite turned on by the idea of something a bit different, and in any case if she didn’t like it he could easily take it off as it’s not actually a piercing.

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houseonthehill · 10/10/2026 11:52

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 10/10/2026 11:46

It's not a red flag at all but would definitely give me the ick, purely because I'd personally think either actually get a piercing or don't bother.

I can't think of an equivalent piercing - it's not really in the same category.

ToadRage · 10/10/2026 11:52

We gave used a cocktail ring on occasion but only for sexual purposes. It wasn't metal and also was not for decoration, but each to their own.

TheLastSilverSaint · 10/10/2026 11:53

Myli1 · 10/10/2026 10:41

Well perhaps ‘red flag’ is a bit too strong, maybe I’m a bit naïve but I just thought it seemed a bit odd.

I’m a bit naïve but I just thought it seemed a bit odd.

So what, though?

What’s wrong with being ‘a bit odd’? What’s your actual concern here?

I honestly cannot believe the level of prudery on Mumsnet sometimes.

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 11:53

I was expecting a thread about a pedant that looked like vulva!

Op, a cock ring is mainstream. Wonder if her fella would be happy with her sharing this with you!

TheLastSilverSaint · 10/10/2026 11:55

GCAcademic · 10/10/2026 11:11

BF is BU for dating someone with a man bun and those vile ear stretching things. 🤮

Edited

Heaven forbid different people might like different things, eh?

JFC

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 10/10/2026 11:57

houseonthehill · 10/10/2026 11:52

I can't think of an equivalent piercing - it's not really in the same category.

I think you misunderstand, I personally think if you want any kind of jewellery in the genital area then get a piercing. Wearing a poncy type of cockring? No thanks.

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 12:00

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 10/10/2026 11:57

I think you misunderstand, I personally think if you want any kind of jewellery in the genital area then get a piercing. Wearing a poncy type of cockring? No thanks.

Edited

Why is it poncy? Cock rings aren't jewellery anyway.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 10/10/2026 12:09

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 12:00

Why is it poncy? Cock rings aren't jewellery anyway.

She literally titled it jewellery 🤷

dustabsorber · 10/10/2026 12:10

Blarn · 10/10/2026 10:31

Cock rings aren't jewellery though are they, they are to make an erecting last longer.

Whats not to like

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 12:11

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 10/10/2026 12:09

She literally titled it jewellery 🤷

Edited

Yes I know. She was wrong.

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 12:12

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 11:53

I was expecting a thread about a pedant that looked like vulva!

Op, a cock ring is mainstream. Wonder if her fella would be happy with her sharing this with you!

Pendant even!!! Not sure what a vulva shaped pedant would look like!😄

topcat2014 · 10/10/2026 12:16

MurphysColeslaw · 10/10/2026 11:48

Dare I even ask what a Prince Albert is ?

The story is that Prince Albert (Q Victoria's husband) didn't like the line that his penis made in his britches, so had a ring inserted inwards via the urethra and out of the bottom of the head of the penis - to which a small chain was attached - hence the penis could be secured downwards out of sight.

That could of course be urban myth - but that's the reason for the name.

DesperateforSunshine · 10/10/2026 12:30

MurphysColeslaw · 10/10/2026 11:48

Dare I even ask what a Prince Albert is ?

Google will be your friend for this one

Withxtime · 10/10/2026 12:36

I have a diamond on my lady jane and my nipples.
So no i have no issues with piercings its down to others what they want.

OffTheMap · 10/10/2026 12:46

It’s not jewellery
It’s not a piercing
It’s not a red flag
You just haven’t come across this before.

RumPidgeon · 10/10/2026 12:49

I would have thought metal rings were dangerous there as I‘m pretty sure I read a story where the fire service had to cut one off with a diamond cutter as it restricted blood flow (possibly viagra involved).

Sorry to spoil it for the enthusiasts..

I wouldn’t be a fan of it but each to their own.

RachelGreep87 · 10/10/2026 12:59

You sound about 12.

Brokentoes85 · 10/10/2026 13:27

It's not jewellery and what's the unreasonable?

MsPrufrockk · 10/10/2026 13:44

Myli1 · 10/10/2026 11:17

Ok, ok, so I need to get out more! 😀
I’ve seen a few piercings before on men and women but never given them much thought tbh.

A cock ring isn't a piercing though 😂

Not that you're talking about piercings, but I personally love a guy with a PA. Feels GREAT in certain positions.

Italiangoddess200 · 10/10/2026 13:57

Gross

Makebelieveanotherlife · 10/10/2026 13:57

Justaquestionplease · 10/10/2026 10:30

It would definitely put me off but I wouldn't ever go for a man bun hippy type anyway

That in itself is a massive ick anyway 🤣

Pumpkinsaregrowingnicely · 10/10/2026 13:59

Urgh only popped on hoping for a pic !

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 14:26

Italiangoddess200 · 10/10/2026 13:57

Gross

What's gross?

Italiangoddess200 · 10/10/2026 14:39

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 14:26

What's gross?

Jewellery on genitals. Literally gross.

pinkyredrose · 10/10/2026 14:43

Italiangoddess200 · 10/10/2026 14:39

Jewellery on genitals. Literally gross.

Literally only your opinion.