To want to quit my job over this?

[icanfeelitallover]

I’m being as vague as possible.

I have taken on a role in a certain team. A colleague was (apparently) promised this role if they didn’t get a promotion. This role was promised to them long before I joined the company.

Said person hasn’t got the promotion and there’s now a lot of conflict about whether they’ll be taking the role or not. The person is making it clear to everyone in the office that they’re angry, they won’t work with me, won’t come in if I’m in the office etc.

I just want to leave. I love my job but not all this shit. I am fed up and feel like crying everyday because I’m being treated awfully for something I wasn’t involved in.

You need to speak to your line manager and bring it to their attention. Don't leave the job you love because of one unhinged person creating a hostile environment. Your manager is being paid a lot more money than you to deal with issues like that.

They’re aware. It’s above their head at the moment, it’s being handled by our managing partner.

This isn’t your fault

Sounds like both you and your colleague need to speak to management

In the meantime, document EVERYTHING

Don’t quit unless you have another job lined up

Behaviour like that shows exactly why they weren't right for promotion

And that attitude is why they didn't get the job. They are unsuitable. Don't leave.

dont leave. they can either sack you (which is not fair) so they may offer you a packgage to leave, or they will have to deal with this other person.

Just act professionally and document all the things the other person is doing. Each time log it with your manager so thier is a record

@icanfeelitallover absolutely don't leave.

It's not your fault and this person is making themselves look ridiculous.

Who promised them the role? It was a long time ago and the role has since been filled by you, so if they didn't get their promotion, then they surely just have to keep doing the job they're currently doing?

The other person is directing their disappointment and frustration in the wrong direction.

That in itself is a sign of immaturity and not a good look for them.

Stay put, it will calm down and get sorted.

This

I think you say "thats great but this is total untenable. I need a short term plan while the c suite wheels are in motion as the daily hostility has become unbearable.

Agree. They are behaving in a deeply unprofessional way.
Stay calm and professional @icanfeelitallover and hopefully management will sort it

Document every single hostile comment or action. You need to record the date, time, exact incident, and any potential evidence (teams chat - screenshot, someone overheard a comment or provided the information - log their name).
You might not need it but it will be really useful if they dismiss you unfairly. It sounds horrible but stick with it.

Don't leave.

Let management deal with that person and in the meantime make a note of any hostile comment and behaviour towards you so you have a record for HR if needed.

I would assume that person will just end up leaving anyway.

im just tired of it. Im working so hard to be faced by this

IMHO management are not likely to do anything because they are often scared of bullies too.

I would be looking for another job.

Sadly victims cards also get marked in these circumstances, with senior teams going with a 6 of 1 half a dozen of the other.

It's not right, but it happens

But it has nothing to do with you...

It's entirely her problem. She wants a job that isn't available and is having a tantrum about it.

If she wants to be angry and refuse to come in if you're there, then that's her problem and it's making her look like a complete dick!

Are you saying you are only temporarily doing the role, and it's a possibility that they will then take over the role? Or is the role 100% yours and not to be taken?

None of this is your fault or your problem. It's not very professional to promise a role to someone in the first place, but even less professional to them put someone else into the role while the outcome of this other person's promotion was unknown.
Either way you should continue to put pressure on your line manager to deal with the day to day attitude you're getting. It's not good enough to say it's being dealt with higher up.

I know it sounds silly but I’m leaving in tears most nights

You boss is absolutely responsible for ensuring that you aren’t working in a hostile environment.

If you are a member of a union contact your rep.

Document everything and arrange a meeting with your boss, it is their job to put a stop to this.

Dont leave a job ypu love because someone is throwing a tantrum.

I agree. Say you cannot do your job because of this person's behaviour. You probably don't want to but you could take out a grievance against them. Management won't want the bother of that.

Then you need to go and speak to your line manager today and tell them that the hostility of the other person is making the work place unpleasant for you and others.

What stupid company promises a job to someone anyway? There were completely stupid reasons surrounding the promise too. The whole set up is unprofessional. Was this person interviewed for your job and didn’t get it? Is that the real issue. Do you have a HR officer? If she won’t come in and work, the company need to deal with that. I really don’t see why you cannot see someone higher up and preferably someone with skills in managing people. There’s no such thing in any decent company of a promised job. Was your job advertised? Could she have applied. Not much of this makes sense.

I agree that you don't just put up and shut up. Ask for an urgent meeting with your line manager or HR. I would send an email so that I had a paper trail documenting everything that this person had done/is doing that was making my job difficult.

I would finish by stating that none of this was my responsibility or my fault, but that 'Sally's' unprofessional and unacceptable attitude was making my job utterly miserable and stressful. I'd probably state that unless there was an immediate resolution that I would be left with little choice to either raise a formal grievance about the way it was handled or speak to my GP about going off sick with stress. I'd emphasise that this was entirely down to this person's behaviour and the present failure to deal with it. I'd probably use the words 'being bullied out of my role'.

Try to be Switzerland in this, their behaviour should be enough to get themselves disciplined! A very old wise manager once said to me 'They'll scream and shout, call you all the names under the sun - But they are really angry with the job title, separate that out as they don't know the real you' it's a long winded way of saying don't take it personally, but for me its a mantra when dealing with difficult staff.