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Michael Douglas' Memoir - why?

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MwaHaHa99 · 08/10/2026 09:51

Cringe and why?!

OP posts:
StopGo · 08/10/2026 20:01

One of the original nepo babies is trying to pretend he is relevant

Greenmouldycheese · 08/10/2026 20:53

He was a leading man throughout the 90s where hollywood was at its peak in terms of entertainment and beauty. Im not suprised he lived it uo during that time, as they all did. I like MD. I also like that hes not trying to look like a saint. He lived a wild life and then met the love of his life and settled down. I hope his bio does well.

OhamIreally · 09/10/2026 13:27

I remember reading that Catherine Zeta Jones insisted on a prenup that said if he cheated on her he would have to pay her a million dollars. It was intended to give him pause for thought if the shag he was planning would be worth a million dollars.

maxslice · 10/10/2026 04:30

He believes he’s had an interesting life. He’s about 82 years old. He doesn’t always portray himself in a flattering light. Maybe he wants to tell the truth about some things. Maybe he wants to share the story of life with his family and friends. Maybe it was fun to write.
I won’t be reading it, but there’s no reason for him to NOT write it.

maxslice · 10/10/2026 04:31

user1464187087 · 08/10/2026 10:06

Would you be happy if your partner constantly cheated on you? I wouldn't.

It’s just a book. You don’t have to read it.

maxslice · 10/10/2026 04:33

boredsmored · 08/10/2026 14:40

Why not? I think people can write about their lives if they want & we don’t have to read it.

Exactly.

PollyBell · 10/10/2026 04:34

Why not?

maxslice · 10/10/2026 04:37

CostcoFanofThree · 08/10/2026 18:13

i would find his family history and early start interesting.

I think his father Kirk Douglas wrote a book about his own life, The Rag Man’s son. I Douglas’s father was a Jewish Russian immigrant from Russia.

TotaleclipseinFrance · 10/10/2026 07:00

I have to say that a lot of men are only as faithful as their options allow.
It's certainly not always an indicator of moral character.

Steve with his middle-of-the-road job etc hasn't got the options.

So what if Douglas put it about. Who cares? It's no reflection on his character. He was a film star in a promiscuous age.

He was a nepo baby but very talented in his own right.

And he's right about the throat cancer link.

As if any of the posters here would have turned him down back when he was a younger man. As if.

FancyKitten · 10/10/2026 07:05

Dollymylove · 08/10/2026 10:41

Money and fame i would imagine.
Hes 25 years older than her.
Must be in his 80s now

Isn’t Stallone’s book out, too?
He’s about the same age as MD.

Suppose you can tell your own story.
They would sit with a writer & talk?

CandidHedgehog · 10/10/2026 07:38

JacquesHarlow · 08/10/2026 10:18

Or his wife has been consulted (likely) and they want the money more.

You can't think his wife isn't aware he has a past?

They had to put off their engagement party because his divorce hadn’t gone through in time. She knows now and she knew then.

TheRealSmurfette · 10/10/2026 07:42

Ayarreet · 08/10/2026 10:00

I agree OP. Total cringe.
The publicity around it has brought to my attention that he blamed his throat cancer on giving oral sex, a revelation that led to Catherine Zeta Jones leaving him and needing therapy.
He's a creep.

Gross.
She’s still with him no?

Gertlushthatis · 10/10/2026 07:43

maxslice · 10/10/2026 04:37

I think his father Kirk Douglas wrote a book about his own life, The Rag Man’s son. I Douglas’s father was a Jewish Russian immigrant from Russia.

Yes his early life must have been interesting, knowing all those old school Hollywood stars

TheRealSmurfette · 10/10/2026 07:44

TotaleclipseinFrance · 10/10/2026 07:00

I have to say that a lot of men are only as faithful as their options allow.
It's certainly not always an indicator of moral character.

Steve with his middle-of-the-road job etc hasn't got the options.

So what if Douglas put it about. Who cares? It's no reflection on his character. He was a film star in a promiscuous age.

He was a nepo baby but very talented in his own right.

And he's right about the throat cancer link.

As if any of the posters here would have turned him down back when he was a younger man. As if.

Who knew Mike was a Mumsnetter?

TheRealSmurfette · 10/10/2026 07:47

TheThirteenthFairy · 08/10/2026 19:07

Basically, some geezer who's made some great films feels it's really important for us to know that decades ago, he had sex with some really fit women.

ROTFL

This.
But no idea about what your acronym means.

Boomer55 · 10/10/2026 07:52

MwaHaHa99 · 08/10/2026 10:16

Yes, he hasn't thought through the impact on his family and wife......misguided book.

Most celeb books contain cheating accounts. Along with sports books, royal books etc etc

Luckily, no one has to buy them. 👍

TotaleclipseinFrance · 10/10/2026 08:00

TheRealSmurfette · 10/10/2026 07:42

Gross.
She’s still with him no?

Of course.
He's worth a sack load of 'Not my Nigels', no?

Angrybird76 · 10/10/2026 08:13

Ninetwenty · 08/10/2026 10:32

Why the cynical he "blamed" his throat cancer on oral sex. Perhaps that's what his doctors told him. Maybe it's a public service to get that out there?

Celebrities, especially those of his standing, are different to the rest of us. They live different lives and have different marriages. They haven't had an easy few years (decades?) with his health, his DC and her MH. Probably they do need the money.

It was the way he did it. I remember seeing an interview on a talk show and he disnt do it in a 'this is way i have learnt and i want to pass my knowledge to you' way. It was a definite 'wayhey, how sexy and amazimg am i for having so much sex'. It felt disrespectful to his family.

Angrybird76 · 10/10/2026 08:13

Ninetwenty · 08/10/2026 10:32

Why the cynical he "blamed" his throat cancer on oral sex. Perhaps that's what his doctors told him. Maybe it's a public service to get that out there?

Celebrities, especially those of his standing, are different to the rest of us. They live different lives and have different marriages. They haven't had an easy few years (decades?) with his health, his DC and her MH. Probably they do need the money.

It was the way he did it. I remember seeing an interview on a talk show and he disnt do it in a 'this is way i have learnt and i want to pass my knowledge to you' way. It was a definite 'wayhey, how sexy and amazimg am i for having so much sex'. It felt disrespectful to his family.

MeowDoku · 10/10/2026 08:20

Ayarreet · 08/10/2026 10:00

I agree OP. Total cringe.
The publicity around it has brought to my attention that he blamed his throat cancer on giving oral sex, a revelation that led to Catherine Zeta Jones leaving him and needing therapy.
He's a creep.

They are still together? She hasn't left him

MeowDoku · 10/10/2026 08:21

TheRealSmurfette · 10/10/2026 07:47

This.
But no idea about what your acronym means.

Roll/ing on the floor laughing

Haven't seen it since the days of MSN messenger

disgracefullyyours · 10/10/2026 08:32

It’s for the usual reasons thousands of other celebrities write memoirs, I think - keeps their names in the public eye and a nice payday.

Really looking forward to reading the book, his upbringing alone must be interesting reading, also his relationship with his son Cameron.

maxslice · 11/10/2026 02:42

TheRealSmurfette · 10/10/2026 07:47

This.
But no idea about what your acronym means.

Rolling On the Floor Laughing

SpanThatWorld · 11/10/2026 07:51

MrsShawnHatosy · 08/10/2026 11:21

I think it would be fucking weird to assume that a man who has married more than once and has been open about having numerous girlfriends has only had oral sex with his current wife, so why on earth would he need to clarify? 'I got throat cancer from oral sex' clearly doesn't mean 'I am blaming my current partner for giving me HPV and cancer'.

We went to see Rhod Gilbert on his first tour following his recovery from head and neck cancer and he also mentioned the link with oral sex and did a funny routine around it. I don’t think anyone took from that that he was blaming his wife.

I've just read Mark Steel's very witty and very moving book about his experience of throat cancer and he also mentioned the link with oral sex.

It had honestly never crossed my mind that there was a link before I read the book and I agree that it in no way suggests "blaming" the nost recent partner.

I think it reflects the prevalence of HPV during the 1970s and 1980s when lots of people were having sex with more than one person.

Prior to then, sex was largely within marriage and often focused on male pleasure. Who else remembers the shock of the oral sex episode in The Women's Room?

As someone who grew up in that era, the focus of sexual health information was all around PIV sex or, following the AIDS panic, anything involving semen. I don't remember anything about the risk of cunnilingus except possibly a reference to dental dams in something linked to women's prisons i vaguely remember watching.

I guess the HPV vaccination program has presumably reduced the risk of genital warts leading to oral cancer in later life for younger people now. But I don't see anything wrong in those of us who are now later in life reflecting on the consequences of choices we made back then when we knew less.

luckylavender · 11/10/2026 08:54

Dollymylove · 08/10/2026 10:23

I remember this being reported a few years back. He blamed his throat cancer on oral sex. I cringed with horror when he announced it to all and sundry.
Poor Catherine Zeta.
How mortifying for her, and their children 😡

Poor Catherine Zeta! She knew exactly what she was getting herself in to. Safe your pity for women who need it.

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