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To think people should be banned from taking someone with them to medical appointments unless they need assistance (and then just one person)

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CurdinHenry · 05/10/2026 10:16

Sick of standing waiting for appointments while one girl sits on her arse with her five boon companions in the waiting room because people can't do anything by themselves.

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Vivi0 · 05/10/2026 23:53

pinck · 05/10/2026 23:46

Except you weren’t just talking about your ENT waiting room, were you? You were judging people in the hospital cafeteria and deciding they “enjoy the drama.” Sure, you knew the one person in your example. What about everyone else? You have no fucking idea why they’re there, yet you’re perfectly happy making nasty little judgments about complete strangers. And now you’re doubling down and rewriting your argument rather than admitting it was shitty. Embarrassing.

But I’m not re-writing my argument. I literally said:

But everytime I’ve had an appointment, which is for something that is minor in the grand scheme of hospital appointments - ENT, fracture clinic, x-ray, maternity services - it’s just waiting rooms full of extended family members.
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I think some people just enjoy the drama of being at the hospital, to be honest.

The comment about the cafeteria was an entirely separate issue.

I don’t think anything I’ve said is shitty in the slightest. I think lots of people really do enjoy the drama of it all.

pinck · 05/10/2026 23:59

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Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/10/2026 00:04

ToKittyornottoKitty · 05/10/2026 10:21

What’s wrong with the girl waiting for the appointment ‘sitting on her arse’ exactly?

It's the extra 5 arses that are the problem.

Ilmiocompleanno · 06/10/2026 00:09

MellowSubmarine · 05/10/2026 11:06

Yes I can definitely see situations where two people are useful.

When my grandad had dementia, my dad and siblings realised one of them should probably attend appointments because my grandad didn’t know what was happening, and my grandma had a tendency to give the Drs a rather positive rose tinted view of the situation with his health. Not maliciously, and my grandad would have been distressed to attend without her, but it needed someone else close to them to say “actually mum, I’m not sure that’s quite right. X symptom occurred when I was there yesterday” etc. to make sure the drs were getting accurate answers.

Yes, I can definitely relate to this scenario. People saying there's never a need for more than one person to accompany the patient just haven't thought things through. And the OP is advocating for an even more extreme policy of banning patients from being accompanied by even one person unless they "need assistance".

Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/10/2026 00:10

I have very regular hospital appointments and have noticed a trend recently for them to ask you not to bring more than one person with you so it must be recognised as a problem. They also point out that they cannot be responsible for your children during your appointment. That shouldn't need to be said.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/10/2026 00:14

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We have nowhere but the hospital to go for an x-ray so that's a daft thing to say.

Ilmiocompleanno · 06/10/2026 00:14

Mumof1andacat · 05/10/2026 12:20

At the hospital were i work, we only allow 1 parent with the patient in paediatric outpatients. Siblings can come but you need to call a head. It got to a point were it would be both parents, siblings and grandparents. There was no room, no seats, loads of push chairs, and kids running riot. It was dangerous. We struggled to hear people at the check in desk and on the phone.

I think that's an appalling policy! Perfectly reasonable for both parents to want to be present at their child's hospital appointment.

Vivi0 · 06/10/2026 00:17

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Lol. I’m not desperately trying to detach anything 😂

I think going for lunch in the hospital cafeteria with your mum and her friend when you have an appointment is weird. Most people are just in and out, and back to work or whatever. They don’t treat it as a day out.

I also said that some people enjoy the drama of accompanying others to the hospital. Attend A&E on any weekend and see for yourself.

And actually - I was referred for an x-ray by my GP and was given an appointment at the hospital. I had no choice in the matter. I’m not even sure where I would get an x-ray other than the hospital.

pinck · 06/10/2026 00:19

Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/10/2026 00:14

We have nowhere but the hospital to go for an x-ray so that's a daft thing to say.

Once again, I’m American but I’m pretty sure urgent care or something similar exists in the UK and they certainly have X-rays so that's a daft thing to say. 💀

pinck · 06/10/2026 00:34

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Ilmiocompleanno · 06/10/2026 00:35

Vivi0 · 05/10/2026 13:57

You can't have been in need of much medical attention yourself if you had so much time to assess and judge everyone else around you, maybe don't clog the A&E nex time? 😂

My 3 week old baby was incredibly poorly. It’s really not funny.

Chickenpox doesn’t require to be diagnosed by a doctor. It doesn’t even need medical attention. In fact, you shouldn’t be in A&E with chickenpox. It is highly contagious and poses a significant risk to babies, pregnant women and those with weakened immune systems. Because I was attending A&E with a newborn, I was informed there was someone who had come into the A&E with chickenpox. But they couldn’t tell her to leave until she had been triaged. Let me repeat, she was in A&E because she had chickenpox, not because she had any complications of having chickenpox. My son was too poorly for me to leave A&E, and the staff were not happy about it at all. A complete a waste of NHS resources.

Similarly, “sprains” don’t require an x-ray. Certainly not when the child is weight bearing with no issue, or using their hand/arm. It’s pretty obvious when a bone has been broken. Someone who takes their child to A&E for a “sprain” is simply wasting NHS resources and creating longer wait times for people who do need to be seen.

that's just neglect and would be lazy parenting if anyone did that in the real world.

In the real world, treating a sprain at home is actual NHS advice. And common sense.

The OP is absolutely spot on when she says that people can’t to anything by themselves, or for themselves.

It really isn't always obvious when a bone has been broken. Such a lot of nonsense being posted on this thread!

Vivi0 · 06/10/2026 00:36

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Respectfully, you have no idea. Our health care systems are not the same.

AlwayAnxious · 06/10/2026 00:39

I have chronic health conditions and attend TONS of appoitments at hospital and at the drs.

I think iv only ever seen people with 1 other person.

Afew times in A&E, its like a family outing but thats been maybe 2 or 3 times only

pinck · 06/10/2026 00:44

Vivi0 · 06/10/2026 00:36

Respectfully, you have no idea. Our health care systems are not the same.

And respectfully you don’t know me or how much time I’ve spent in the UK, so perhaps don’t assume that being American means I have absolutely no experience of your healthcare system.

pinck · 06/10/2026 01:01

Vivi0 · 06/10/2026 00:17

Lol. I’m not desperately trying to detach anything 😂

I think going for lunch in the hospital cafeteria with your mum and her friend when you have an appointment is weird. Most people are just in and out, and back to work or whatever. They don’t treat it as a day out.

I also said that some people enjoy the drama of accompanying others to the hospital. Attend A&E on any weekend and see for yourself.

And actually - I was referred for an x-ray by my GP and was given an appointment at the hospital. I had no choice in the matter. I’m not even sure where I would get an x-ray other than the hospital.

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I don’t know where you live but in London, for example, there are NHS community diagnostic centres and urgent/walk-in centres that provide X-rays outside acute hospitals, so the fact that you were referred to a hospital does not somehow establish that hospitals are the only place anyone can get an X-ray. It simply establishes that you were referred to a hospital. That’s it. It’s genuinely incredible that after repeatedly judging complete strangers based on circumstances you know nothing about, you’ve now managed to demonstrate exactly why that logic is so fucking stupid using yourself as the example. 💀

neilyoungismyhero · 06/10/2026 01:08

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 05/10/2026 10:50

TBH I’m often a bit 😱at the expressions some MNers don’t understand/have never heard of. Is it because they never read anything except Instagram/other SM?

Im 74, well educated and lived in the South and the Midlands and never heard that word before in that context.

WearyAuldWumman · 06/10/2026 01:16

ApricotTulip · 05/10/2026 10:21

OP is OK with people bringing one person if they need assistance

My late husband needed assistance with appointments. I didn't need assistance when I went to appointments on my own, but I could have done with support.

I'll add that sometimes when someone is given bad news, they cannot take in everything that is being said to them and it really helps if they have a companion for support.

maxslice · 06/10/2026 01:48

AtlasPine · 05/10/2026 10:18

What’s a boon companion?

Best mates.

maxslice · 06/10/2026 01:54

People have visiting parents may take a break to get coffee or a meal in the cafeteria. Nothing wrong with that.

Konstantine8364 · 06/10/2026 06:15

My mum took me to my shoulder MRI.. I'm in my 30s. Because my arm was in a sling and I couldn't drive. She's retired and was happy to take me. She sat in the quiet waiting room then dropped me home. Anyone who has an issue with this is quite frankly bonkers!

Simonjt · 06/10/2026 06:28

Vivi0 · 05/10/2026 12:33

The problem is that it doesn’t matter what rule is implemented, very little gets enforced here anymore.

This is so true.

I was in A&E at the start of the year with my 3 week old baby, and there was a woman in with her teenager daughter who had CHICKENPOX.

No one asked them to leave until they were triaged.

One consultant had to come out, explain that the waiting time was excessive and asked all those with minor injuries to go home and either come back in the morning, it attend their local Minor Injuries Unit.

The number of people who brought children into A&E because they had “sprained” their wrist or ankle, was incredible.

I took our four year old son to A&E when he had chicken pox, he’d fallen down some metal stairs and was complaining of wrist pain. We assumed bad sprain, it turned out to be a bad break that needed to be manipulated under a general and if that failed he would need surgery.

fidsk · 06/10/2026 06:54

My DM has hearing issues so DF comes to her appointments.

DF, going through the final stages of immunotherapy for bladder cancer goes alone.

Last year, on the same day that DF had his major surgery, I was at another hospital having moles biopsied. My DM needed to be free to collect DF.

I have no idea why hospital staff looked shocked that I turned up alone. I just got an uber to take me home

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 06/10/2026 06:54

One of the hospitals I go to for MRIs did have a notice up asking people to only have one person with them and for anyone else to go and wait in the carpark. At the time I thought it was odd as I usually go by myself, but then I looked around at people arriving and some seemed to come with their whole families! Strange place for a day trip.

Vivi0 · 06/10/2026 07:23

pinck · 06/10/2026 01:01

I don’t know where you live but in London, for example, there are NHS community diagnostic centres and urgent/walk-in centres that provide X-rays outside acute hospitals, so the fact that you were referred to a hospital does not somehow establish that hospitals are the only place anyone can get an X-ray. It simply establishes that you were referred to a hospital. That’s it. It’s genuinely incredible that after repeatedly judging complete strangers based on circumstances you know nothing about, you’ve now managed to demonstrate exactly why that logic is so fucking stupid using yourself as the example. 💀

It’s genuinely incredible that after repeatedly judging complete strangers based on circumstances you know nothing about, you’ve now managed to demonstrate exactly why that logic is so fucking stupid using yourself as the example

Despite reading this a couple of times now, I still can’t make sense of what you are trying to say. The skull emoji doesn’t help.

Anyway, yes, there are some people out there, complete strangers to me who I know nothing about, who enjoy the drama of going with others to the hospital. Deal with it 😂

TorroFerney · 06/10/2026 07:31

beAsensible1 · 05/10/2026 10:19

Maybe typo for bosom?

are people really bringing 5 extras to an appointment?

If you’ve ever had the misfortune to be passing through Blackburn royal early Friday evening it’s a night out for the great unwashed of east lancs.