NC as could be outing.
DP and I together 4 years, he has a 6yr old with his ex. His ex has had a few bf’s and unfortunately does ram them down SDD’s neck a bit, Father’s Day cards, moving in etc but on the whole SDD seems to accept them and then move on once they are out of the frame. (Please note I am acutely aware of the possible issues with this but this isn’t what the post is about).
Anyway, around April this year, latest BF was on the scene, same thing, at sports day, clubs, Father’s Day pressies etc this one even started to be at the door when DP did drop off seemed a bit overly involved but we just ignored it. At one point he apparently tried to give DP ‘advice’ on how he would parent a situation which DP seemed to think was ‘a sign of a decent bloke’ 🙄 I never met him.
Around the same time SDD got her own phone with her own WhatsApp etc and was texting this man in private chats as well as in a group chat with her mum and his family (as I say she involves them heavily in life early on!) From a safeguarding perspective I hated this and I would check her these messages on her phone DP would do the same all seemed to be.
fast forward, by September we hear that new step dad is gone, 6yr old DD recounts an argument where he shouted at mummy and left and she hasn’t see him since and isn’t allowed to text him anymore. He wasn’t at drop off last few weeks so we assume it is over.
DP and I obviously briefly discussed this but nothing more.
I came home earlier and DP has announced he has text this bloke asking why he has separated with ex??? I asked him why? He got defensive and said because he deserved to know as SDD was involved? He said he took the number a few weeks ago from SDD’s phone without her knowing???
SDD hasn’t mentioned this man since and has been absolutely fine with us.
the more Iv thought about it the more I think, why does he care?
would this make anyone else feel odd?