AIBU to be annoyed DH convinced me not to go for drinks because he was tired, then went by himself?

[HotCrossBunplease]

DS is at his friend’s house. Both DH and I are friendly with the parents and were invited to drinks when we picked DS up. I was up for doing that.

DH and I got home from work separately, chatted and he said he was knackered after a long week at work so we agreed that just one of us would go, collect DS and come home for dinner and TV. He went and I started making dinner. It’s a 15 mins drive.

20 minutes later I received a message “Just having drinks and pizza here, you could come over on a Lime Bike if you fancy but guess you’re not that fussed ? Xx”

I am so pissed off. Now I look like the miserable antisocial one!

AIBU?

Eh?

Not anymore from what i can tell.

Your husband is an idiot but clearly you told him so that's sorted. Your son sounds like a fine young man.

You should have jumped in an Uber and he could have paid for it.

I’d be a bit annoyed but you already knew he would have a hard time saying no so I’d have just gone with him in the first place.

I don't see there's any reason to make a big deal of things - he was tired, you agreed just to pick up then he went there are in the moment didn't want to say no or got a second wind, which does happen. I've certainly gone out when I felt too tired to do so but almost always got into it while I was there. As others have said, he dud invite you. I think it's ridiculous to suggest he somehow deliberately excluded you, unless that's a pattern.

He got there, was invited for a drink and some food and then realised actually yes, he could do that. It would have been more considerate to say 'Ah no, I promised @HotCrossBunplease I'd be straight back', yes, but it's not worth being very cross about imo.

What?

I think the lesson from this story is next time something similar occurs, say fine if you are too tired but I’m not so I’ll go without you. He can sort his own dinner.

All the people that say he is impressionable blah blah blah. They literally made plans as a couple that he shat all over.

He’s a prick OP. At the very least he could have messaged you and said he got roped in and that he would come for you!

Edited to add that he attempted to gaslight you with the ‘not being bothered’ comment. Properly shitty behaviour.

He knew she was cooking! They agreed on that. Who on this earth wouldn’t be annoyed after working all day and having started cooking (when try had an offer of pizza) if their partner said they were eating pizza that they agreed not to eat less than 30 minutes ago? I would be incandescent with rage. And the gaslighting! ‘I guess you’re not bothered.’ That’s the opposite of what she said!

Christ you’re more forgiving than I’d have been!
Next time - don’t tell him about the invite and you go alone!!

Ah I don’t use the app. I am assuming it doesn’t work on that.

Well what I said is true for me who uses the regular web version from my phone. And how it works is you literally just click on the option you want, and it will reassign your vote to the preferred option

Nice conclusion, sherlock