to send my daughters PE teacher a letter tomorrow

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DD has left her PE kit at school and doesn't know where it is, she's asked me to write a letter to her pe teacher to tell her she cant do PE tomorrow morning because of some make up illness, I have refused... BUT I am tempted to put in a letter .. "my daughter is a pain in the arse and keeps loosing her stuff, please punish her"
maybe this will make her more responsible for her stuff as in the last year at school she has lost....
1 expensive trainer
1 fleeces so we made her put money towards a new one and she bloodly lost that as well.. then she found the first one...
2 sweatshirts
recently 1 bag of clothes (trousers, top, jumper) that she'd lent her friend and the friend returned
and now her pe kit
It wouldn't be so bad if she was remorseful but she really doesn't give a shit...
so how would you handle this...
a) letter excusing her from PE
b) letter telling teacher to punish her
c) nothing... let her deal with it... lifes to short to worry....

by the way letters will be in a sealed envelope..

I certainly didn't mean it to be precious.

It is hardly the saem on here, this is pretty much anon and the child doesn't know it is being said.

Say it to the teacher and it is someone you know and the child will quite possibly know about it.

And the crap job I am doing of being a parent, you could hardly call me precious!

Have to say Greenelizabeth you're doing really wellmaking it to adulthood on account you were dying at school.

I think you have taken the right course of action. However if your dd loses things because of dyspraxia could you write a letter to school requesting that she is reminded at the end of PE to taek her stuff, in a way that will not embarrass her, and her coat and things from lesson to lesson. Perhaps have a red thread on her shirt button (hidden) that reminds her to take her stuff???

I would write a letter saying DD can not do PE today as she has lost her kit, she can spend the lesson looking for said kit...

I told DS1 that he was going to have packed lunch till the end of term after he lost his 4th lunch card

Is she ok in herself? I mean is she happy at school? I'm just wondering if there is a possibility she could be being bullied and that this could explain all the missing items?

Wow... didn't know this discusion (sp) was still going on...

I have spoken to my DD tonight after school, she still can't find the kit or the bag of clothes,(I have also rang the school about the lost pe kit and bag of clothes)
I have explained that I realise she can't help loosing thing, and that I need to know straight away so it will be easier to find them... she said she forgets to tell me! I also told her that it seems to me that she doesn't care, and I have to pay out to replace things, to which she replied OK (catherine Tate style)

She is happy at school, has lots of friends, and I'm sure I would have heard on the grapevine if anything was going on, ie bullying.

She did PE in a borrowed kit (not manky by all accounts) so she has till Friday now to find it.... I asked the school to ring me if it turns up and I'll come and get it...

Thanks for your thoughts and ideas...

If your not supposed to criticise your own children why is it that there are so many threads on here about people (including me) having a rant about how there children are behaving?

I always tell people if my DS is acting up that way they cant say I didnt warn them!!!