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To want to know why I feel so tired/ill all the time!!

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Bamboozle30001 · 12/09/2026 18:22

I'm 41, 5ft 7in 12 stone and I strength train for half an hour 4 days a week. I do under 20k steps due to being a cleaner 5 days a week. I eat very well and log my food on myfitnesspal.

Last week doctors thought my gallbladder was inflamed but, bloods, urine and a further physical exam all came back fine. Then why for the love of God am I am ALWAYS tired?Energy drinks or black coffee do nothing. I sleep for 8 hours.

I'd had a previous blood test a few weeks back as I suspected perimenopause but apart from high reading of b12...which I have no idea where that came from as I don't eat much in the way of the foods mentioned that are fortified, or take vitamin supplements either. I do have fibroids, but still I constantly feel tired and just generally unwell. Like the feeling that you're coming down with a cold, just run down all the bastard time.

Would it be worth getting a private doctor and see if there's any other tests or something because I am fed up of feeling like this.

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VividDeer · 19/09/2026 12:27

Based on your thread if decided to get an iron transfusion on monday. So i will be £900 poorer very soon. I've been suffering for years and this way I find out if its ferritin causing. Currently at 21.

Thecows · 19/09/2026 12:42

VividDeer · 19/09/2026 12:27

Based on your thread if decided to get an iron transfusion on monday. So i will be £900 poorer very soon. I've been suffering for years and this way I find out if its ferritin causing. Currently at 21.

Good luck, ferritin is so underrated and drives me mad how the NHS have the acceptable levels set so low. OP keep on with that iron supplementation, 210mg per day is standard dose yes with Vit C and away from caffeine. Good luck

StrengthAfter40 · 26/09/2026 12:44

I think this is really interesting because it seems so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that more exercise must always be better.
I’ve been wondering about this myself, particularly with strength training. There must be a point where doing more simply adds to the overall load rather than making you feel better.
I’m increasingly interested in the idea of adjusting what you do depending on how you actually feel that day, rather than deciding in advance that you have to train X number of times a week.
I’d be really interested to know whether anyone here has experimented with doing less on the days when they’re particularly exhausted, and whether it made any difference.

VanGoSunflowers · 26/09/2026 13:24

VividDeer · 19/09/2026 12:27

Based on your thread if decided to get an iron transfusion on monday. So i will be £900 poorer very soon. I've been suffering for years and this way I find out if its ferritin causing. Currently at 21.

How do you feel?

OneLilacHedgehog · 26/09/2026 15:47

Private iron transfusions are for people with too much money. Better eating a steak.

VividDeer · 26/09/2026 16:21

OneLilacHedgehog · 26/09/2026 15:47

Private iron transfusions are for people with too much money. Better eating a steak.

You are f*cking kidding right? Obnoxious t#at

VividDeer · 26/09/2026 16:25

VanGoSunflowers · 26/09/2026 13:24

How do you feel?

Hi. I've had slightly more energy in evenings possibly. A bit crampy in muscles. I did get quite a high dose though so I assume side effects highly likely.
I have bone infusions for my cancer treatment and react badly after those
It's early days as I only had it Monday.
So hopefully I'll soon start to see improvement

Maybe I'll have a steak tonight and be cured, perhaps it will cure my cancer too. (That's in reference to another poster, not yourself)

Q2C4 · 26/09/2026 16:33

OneLilacHedgehog · 26/09/2026 15:47

Private iron transfusions are for people with too much money. Better eating a steak.

You cannot eat your way out of significant iron depletion.

Iheartmysmart · 27/09/2026 08:31

OneLilacHedgehog · 26/09/2026 15:47

Private iron transfusions are for people with too much money. Better eating a steak.

Utter nonsense. The haematologist I saw when I had my iron infusion said it was nigh on impossible to raise iron levels to where they should be on diet alone. Even with iron supplements, it can take up to two years depending on the level of deficiency.

Perhaps you’re the GP that told me my ferritin level of 5 was just a slight deficiency and I should eat a bit of spinach 🙄

Delatron · 27/09/2026 08:48

StrengthAfter40 · 26/09/2026 12:44

I think this is really interesting because it seems so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that more exercise must always be better.
I’ve been wondering about this myself, particularly with strength training. There must be a point where doing more simply adds to the overall load rather than making you feel better.
I’m increasingly interested in the idea of adjusting what you do depending on how you actually feel that day, rather than deciding in advance that you have to train X number of times a week.
I’d be really interested to know whether anyone here has experimented with doing less on the days when they’re particularly exhausted, and whether it made any difference.

I have definitely dialled down the exercise. Especially intense exercise. I don’t run anymore and I strength train around 3 times a week.

I had long Covid so I very much need to listen to my body. It has been a good lesson to be honest. I did used to overdo it - I’d run no matter how I felt and I never listened to my body.

OneLilacHedgehog · 27/09/2026 12:45

Iheartmysmart · 27/09/2026 08:31

Utter nonsense. The haematologist I saw when I had my iron infusion said it was nigh on impossible to raise iron levels to where they should be on diet alone. Even with iron supplements, it can take up to two years depending on the level of deficiency.

Perhaps you’re the GP that told me my ferritin level of 5 was just a slight deficiency and I should eat a bit of spinach 🙄

If you medically need an iron infusion, you will get it on the NHS. It sounds like you paid a private consultant who was happy to take your money and tell you a load of nonsense.

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