To be worried about filthy childminders house?

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Signed up in the summer and all seemed fine. Today had a settling in session and was really shocked at the state of the house. Not just kids mess but tbh really dirty

I don’t really have a choice re childcare and she’s only there a couple of hours a day so part of me thinks leave it another part thinks I’m being really neglectful sending her there!

You were very cagey to begin with, you refused to give details, posters are not looking for her address to call in and have a look, you know what poster's mean when they ask how dirty. Its not outing to describe how dirty something is.

You have drip fed the information and people are getting annoyed with you, all you had to do was describe the level of dirt. What you are describing is a health hazard and a fire hazard, if you want to pay them to mind your precious child in a shithole then that's on you.

Oh and no need to tell me how difficult it is to get childcare

What do you mean, they don’t publish their name and address? You can look up childminders by their name.

Do the childminder a huge favour and don't send your child to her.

You can find some, but lots don't publish their names and addresses on the Ofsted website so you won't be able to use a name to find a report.

I would imagine that yes, a child minder does leave dirty plates out all day, and washes them in the evening.

Because during the day, a child minder would be too busy doing what they're supposed to be doing to wash dishes... you know... watching children?

I stand corrected! I just had a little look, and some of the childminders I know came up while others didn’t. Do they choose whether to be “searchable” or not?

Yes, they choose. You're still searchable but just by number, not name/address.

If you’ve got no choice but send her there then try and not dwell on this. The house may be a bit grubby but so is the school playground and toilets. Kids are very resilient, and coming into contact with some germs will build up her resistance. Loads of kids grow up in grubby homes and think about farmers kids running round with all the animals and poop. The main thing is that she is happy and safe there.

So you dont mean the floor was dirty. There was mud cacked in everywhere. Surfaces were covered in thick dust and everywhere looked grubby. You mean she hadnt yet washed the plates up in the kitchen?

Seriously unless the kids are in the kitchen, thats not a big issue. She just needs a bit of time to pop them in the dishwasher or to manually wash them.

You have no idea if she was about to sort it when a kid needed changing or was about to have an accident.

Keep an eye on it, but if no risk or impact on the children, then it's no real issue unless shes supposed to have help and hasnt arranged that...

Dirty plates in the sink is still dirty.

ubu as a few hours in that hours is too many. That’s disgusting for a childminder to have kids in a place like that. Totally unprofessional.

I don’t think a few plates are an issue but actual filth would be

Yes, this is what matters. Unhygienic, filthy surfaces etc. is a worry. Dirty plates on the counter or sink are not, unless they’re covered in mould/have clearly been sitting there for days.

But it is your business, if you’re sending your child there?

Honestly, there’s no way I would leave my toddler anywhere I had even the smallest doubt about. Especially as you can’t find the Ofsted report?

But you keep saying..
”it’s only 2 hours”
“only twice a week”
”DC won’t be eating there”
”I’ll have to muddle through”

Your mind is obviously made up, so bit of a pointless thread tbh.

Messy or grimey? I would call plates mess, maybe you caught her on a bad day! But if there’s like pure built up grime then no way I’d send my kid there.

Hang on a minute.

Would you have her make you some tea and toast on the plates/ cups etc and in the kitchen you saw?
If the answer is no then you should take your dd out now.

From what you described I am genuinely shocked you’ve left dd there. No job should come before her wellbeing.

I'd be worried too OP. I used to be a child minder when my eldest were small and it's part and parcel of the job to keep on top of your house being clean. I know you say there is no alternative but I'd start looking for one, if I were you.

As pp said it's hard do get upset about dirty plates id rather my child minder was looking at after child than fussing about getting plates into a dish washer . However it's hard to say.

I don’t understand what you mean. To be clear my point is that if the OP has OCD regarding cleanliness then it is very unlikely she will find a childminder that lives up to those expectations. If the house is just untidy - that’s ok to try and see if it was a one off but if grimy I would not put my child in there.

Food isn't rotting all day though is it food takes days to rot !

Many children playing will get lots of toys out.