AIBU to tell DH his once-weekly tooth brushing is off-putting?

[SweetAudry]

A few months ago DH told me he felt his teeth were worsening in both health and appearance (I had noticed this too but was too polite to tell him!) and he suggested he should maybe brush them more often.

I asked now often he currently brushed them (meaning how many times a day) and he said “probably once a week or so” 😱 I found this shocking at told him so! He said from now on he’ll do them at least once a day.

He did this for about a week and now he’s back to never doing them. I know he’s not brushed them at all this week as I moved his toothbrush and it’s still exactly where I left it. I find it really off putting.

I don’t like to embarrass people by pointing out personal things like this but once a week (if that!) is shocking isn’t it? WIBU to tell him even though he will probably be offended?

Tell him he’s a disgusting skank. Embarrass him as he should be embarrassed

How can you be intimate with someone with such foul hygiene?

It's also been linked with dementia and earlier cognitive decline

When did he last go to a dentist? Maybe you could suggest a check up. I'm sure a dentist would have plenty to say about the impact of his lack of care.

You need to make him a reward sticker chart!

So every meal he eats through the week lingers between his teeth?? Uuurrgghhhhhh. I’m guessing you don’t kiss much.

You didn't tell your DH his teeth looked off because you didn't want to seem impolite? What kind of relationship do you have with him?

Of course you can mention personal hygiene issues. If he didn't keep brushing them daily then tell him he's disgusting. If he's not brushing his teeth what else doesn't he do when it comes to personal hygiene?

This would actually be an ultimatum from me, brush daily or it’s the end. Not least that you will be the one having to listen to his moans and care for him when he has his teeth pulled out or abscesses etc, let alone the stinky breath and bacteria. I would have no qualms in saying that it is gross and unacceptable.

Jeez why U not saying anything!!!
My DH is obsessed with keeping his teeth clean and flossing but if he eats summit smelly I say ewwww your breath stinks and that's from someone who brushes his teeth 3 X a day lol 😁
How have u not smelt it or said anything ??
If your married it's normal to say these things to each other, he needs to be embarrassed 😳

Dear god my dog has better oral hygiene than your husband

Dental and oral health have implications for many more conditions, including heart health. Brushing is about far more than hanging on to teeth and is an essential part of basic hygiene. Get fun flavoured toothpastes and sonic toothbrushes, make it something g you do at the same time, integrate it into your routine as a habit, plus research why we brush!

Sounds like my now ex-husband. He ended up having to have teeth removed as they were rotten. His breath stank and he wondered why I never wanted to kiss him, or do anything else for that matter. It was gross.

I don't believe he doesn't know everyone else brushes twice a day- tell him brush twice a day or save up a lot of money to have them replaced-it's as simple as that.

Surely it's more embarrassing for him to allow him to walk around with chronically unbrushed teeth than to say something...

I struggle with the motivation to brush myself and occasionally skip an evening or morning but this is next level. After 24 hours or so of not brushing, soft plaque turns to hard tartar that can't be brushed off.

I would book him a hygienist appt as an early birthday present (and tell him he needs to start brushing regulsrly NOW)

Sounds gross he must have the breath of a 1000 camels! Get him to dentist ASAP for a special deep clean/root plaining treatment with the hygienist, his teeth must be held together with plaque

Did you not tell him that the advice has been for decades (and what most people do) is to brush teeth twice a day?

I would have found this a monumental turn off many years ago. Does he ever visit a dentist?

Does your DH have a sensory issue which makes it unpleasant to brush his teeth? Some people just avoid it without having questioned why before. They can find smaller or softer headed toothbrushes (like electric ones) more comfortable. I’d also suggest linking the brushing to another regular activity eg every morning wee has to be followed by brushing. Or even set a reminder on his phone. The prospect of never being kissed again, and dentures, should give him some motivation.

Jesus
his teeth must be disgusting
I use a water flosser several times a day normally after I’ve eaten something
and I brush them twice a day
go to my dentist every year for a check up and regular hygienist appointments

My DH is super careful about dental hygiene but I had to tell him he had bad breath recently. He thanked me as he would rather know and do something about it. He has a dentist appointment next week.

You mean he brushes his teeth while he's having a shower? I've heard of people doing that: I think it's disgusting.

Send him to the dentist or better still hygienist they will soon put him straight!

That’s not empathy ! It’s not her who needs the ideas.

😂😂

Why "disgusting" ?????

@Rightsraptorits better than not at all. It’s the habit that’s important.