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Anyone else's kids got extremely expensive hobbies?

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bjorni9 · 02/09/2026 00:19

What started as a casual club, has turned into a lifestyle. Mountain biking, 4x, bmx freestyle, bmx racing. It has saved my ND child's sanity, and drained my bank account. I buy and sell and work so much overtime just so we can continue. It is far better than any play therapy or council funded clubs we've ever received (especially for his mh and mood). Anyone else making big sacrifices for their kids' hobbies? If only football would've stuck!

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TomHanksIsMyHero · 02/09/2026 08:30

Twins that horse ride. It would honestly be cheaper, day to day, to have a pony of their own to share but I’m too worried about vet bills, etc.

They also attend a crazily expensive drama club.

They are seven.

Jemimapuddleduk · 02/09/2026 08:32

Water polo- several clubs membership fees, expensive costumes and kit, loads of petrol and hotel fees for away tournaments

Needacheckup · 02/09/2026 08:33

Most sports. Luckily not horses l with the vets bills/emotional outlay. We spend £££ on kit and events, but at least it sits in the garage between use and doesn’t need feeding/exercise/stabling.

dancinfeet · 02/09/2026 08:33

Bunny44 · 02/09/2026 07:42

How is this £30,000/year?!?

My impression is a lot of these clubs are fleecing parents, especially when there's a carrot of it being professional one day. Things like drama, gymnastics, football and dance should not be THAT expensive to run.

Sailing and horse riding I understand due to the actual equipment.

This is a short sighted approach to these activities. Throw in commercial premises- rent, buildings insurance, annual professional membership for teaching to the exam boards, public liability insurance, keeping 1st aid and safeguarding courses up to date, staff DBS’s, PRS music licensing and the cost of staffing (cleaner, more than one teacher if a bigger venue), kitting out and equipment as well as maintaining and replacing said equipment and you have to set your prices to cover all of these costs. Yes some but not all of these costs of these can be cut by operating out of a church hall or community centre, but let’s face it- when choosing a dance school for the first time people naturally gravitate to the studio with sprung floors, barres and mirrors and not the one running out of a church hall. The cost of running a dance studio, dedicated martial arts centre or gymnastics club has to be reflected in the prices, not to mention that it is a job not an expensive hobby for the teacher/ business owner who deserves to be paid a wage too.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 02/09/2026 08:39

Music - instrument lessons x 3; theory lessons x 2; orchestra, choir, brass band, big band, concert band, guitar ensemble; instruments (piano, 3 x guitars, drum kit, never ending amount of tiny & huge percussion instruments); travel to all the above; travel & accomodation for competitions and concerts - tickets to those concerts (this one really galls me); grade exams, uniforms, van for the timpani (at least we don’t own or house the timpani, and we already had the van, as DH & I are mtb’ers). Seeing your child perform at the Royal Albert Hall - priceless.

Absolutely wouldn’t change a thing. Both DC have got so much from music. DD(14) considering joining the Army to join the Royal Army Music Corps.

Bellaphant · 02/09/2026 08:44

Gymnastics!! For complicated reason my DD is in 2 clubs, so 2 sets of membership fees, etc, plus the classes (£60 a month for 2 hours in one, £45 for one hour in another). Plus insurance, etc. all in id say £150 a month, and she's only 5, so not even doing a thing that intense yet

ClairDeLaLune · 02/09/2026 08:48

LittleMissFooled · 02/09/2026 00:34

Musical theatre

DD used to do this. Then she got into football which was on at the same time and had to choose. Thankfully she chose football, saved me a fortune!

HorseAreBetterThanHumans · 02/09/2026 08:51

Horses. Similar to OP that it is worth every penny in that it has saved the teen's sanity but very expensive. Livery, lessons, farrier, vet. It is definitely a lifestyle and not a hobby - horses are considered in every decision. No holiday for years, work as much as possible to pay for things. Still, would make the same decisions all over again!

AllIneedAreMyFamilyandDogs · 02/09/2026 08:52

I've been told a horse costs about as much as running a second car, if you have it stabled elsewhere (by someone who owns horses).

SafeAndStranded · 02/09/2026 08:58

Dance has got expensive for us. Nine classes a week plus private lessons, two associate programmes, comp fees, costumes and now pointe shoes. She loves it though.

Bunny44 · 02/09/2026 09:01

dancinfeet · 02/09/2026 08:33

This is a short sighted approach to these activities. Throw in commercial premises- rent, buildings insurance, annual professional membership for teaching to the exam boards, public liability insurance, keeping 1st aid and safeguarding courses up to date, staff DBS’s, PRS music licensing and the cost of staffing (cleaner, more than one teacher if a bigger venue), kitting out and equipment as well as maintaining and replacing said equipment and you have to set your prices to cover all of these costs. Yes some but not all of these costs of these can be cut by operating out of a church hall or community centre, but let’s face it- when choosing a dance school for the first time people naturally gravitate to the studio with sprung floors, barres and mirrors and not the one running out of a church hall. The cost of running a dance studio, dedicated martial arts centre or gymnastics club has to be reflected in the prices, not to mention that it is a job not an expensive hobby for the teacher/ business owner who deserves to be paid a wage too.

Yes, I do understand in general the additional costs as my partner is a self employed instructor of sport, but honestly I still don't understand how you get to £30,000 - that seems excessive for a child to do drama, especially when you consider the number of children going to each average drama school. That's much higher than RADA or British film school undergraduate fees and I would assume this is something they're not doing full time!

XelaM · 02/09/2026 09:03

AllIneedAreMyFamilyandDogs · 02/09/2026 08:52

I've been told a horse costs about as much as running a second car, if you have it stabled elsewhere (by someone who owns horses).

A horse is more like a second mortgage 😬 (we had 3 on livery up until recently and I'm completely bankrupt 🥴) plus lessons, competitions etc etc. A simple stay-away weekend competition will set you back ca. £500 (stabling, bedding, transport, entry fees etc etc).

HorseAreBetterThanHumans · 02/09/2026 09:04

AllIneedAreMyFamilyandDogs · 02/09/2026 08:52

I've been told a horse costs about as much as running a second car, if you have it stabled elsewhere (by someone who owns horses).

Nooo, a second car is much much cheaper (had to get one of those too because of the horses).

My horse insurance is probably at least 5x my car insurance, possibly closer to 10x. It eats a lot more, costs a lot more to house -mortgage is cheaper than livery (though appreciate that may not be the case for everyone).

unimog · 02/09/2026 09:04

Horses. More specifically eventing. Once you get to the level of qualifying for stuff, you get to be driving 3+ hours away and pay for additional stabling too, and need a bigger lorry/trailer to sleep in, and and and .......

I've never added it up. It would make me cry. It will stop one day, expensive memories.

Stopthattractor · 02/09/2026 09:10

Yes. Ponies. Thousands upon thousands. It saved her.

MissMappsGardenProduce · 02/09/2026 09:11

throwa · 02/09/2026 08:10

This. Both kids are at one of the larger junior clubs in the SE - £150 between them for fees each month, plus monthly race fees into a pot so it's not too traumatic in the summer when they're racing every other weekend. At least we're near Dorney so can commute to that in the summer / when the rivers are flooded in the winter. Although the parking fees for each regatta at Dorney are 😱

Spent the same as you on a single for the oldest - and youngest won't ever be his weight as she's a lwt girl. She will need a single of her own next year. Training camps are £1500 each once a year abroad.

£5-6k a year on rowing for the both of them I reckon.

But the youngest also (!) swims. That's probably another £5k a year in itself. Plus £2-3k on a swim camp. £400 on a race suit you can only wear 5x and then they stick a nail through it and damage it and it can't be worn again.... Don't believe anyone when they say swimming is a cheap sport and easily accessible for everyone.....

Still - keeps them off the streets and all that so can't be all that bad 🤷‍♀️

I have to ask...

Why can you only wear a swim suit five times and why do they put a nail through it?

Yoonimum · 02/09/2026 09:13

bjorni9 · 02/09/2026 02:00

Yes ive spent 6k on hotels! Madness

Blimey! Do you live a long way from the trails? My young adult son got into MTB and he/we spend far less than that. Admittedly, we live near some of the best MTB trails and he is old enough to drive and camp out at the others. Maintaining the bike is expensive - I think only the frame is original now after a few years. But, yes, it's essential to his mental health as, like your son, he is ND (diagnosed ADHD and on meds). It allows him the risk taking/adrenaline rush he craves in a relatively controlled way.

Stopthattractor · 02/09/2026 09:13

There was a spell where we had our own land and arena and stables. Keeping a little Dartmoor in those circumstances (once we had laid what must have been liquid gold on the arena) was actually dirt cheap.

BootstrapTime · 02/09/2026 09:14

Horse riding!

Rabarbarasulta · 02/09/2026 09:15

My own kids have relatively cheap hobbies but a friend's child is an ice hockey goalie and she says it costs a fortune...not just the kit/fees but huge amounts of travelling for training and matches.

MrsMitford3 · 02/09/2026 09:15

Another rowing.

At GB level at school so boats, travel all over the UK and internationally for competition and camps.

Wouldn't change a thing!

IabsolutelyhateteachingEnglish · 02/09/2026 09:16

Music. DS9 does 2 instruments with 1.5 hour lessons and a 1 hour accompanist rehearsal each week, one instrument already cost thousands and it's only a half size, other instrument involves bus travel to and from practice venue every day, chamber music coaching and orchestras, national travel to masterclasses and workshops and competitions, international travel to lessons and competitions... the prospect of international student university fees in the UK makes me feel slightly ill... but he's another ND kid who has found a passion and a career worth light years more than endless speech therapist/OT buddy groups telling him how to take turns and pretend to be neurotypical.

Yetanotherone12 · 02/09/2026 09:16

Ruthietuthie · 02/09/2026 03:13

Another ice hockey mum here. We are on a travel team. It costs a FORTUNE.

What’s a “travel team” and how is it different to a non travel team?

surely if you’re on any team you need to travel to play away matches etc?

I am not clear on the distinction? My kids have played multiple sports over their youth, we’ve travelled nationally and internationally but they have never been on a “travel team”.

one did ice hockey for a while and it was 1st/2nd/3rd teams so they played by ability, competing home and away matches. No such thing as a “travel team” 🤷‍♀️

Swissmeringue · 02/09/2026 09:17

Rantypanties · 02/09/2026 00:28

Just about to embark on an ice skating journey with my one….!!! 😬

Thoughts and prayers. Mine does skating too. The worst thing is that I used to skate competitively, have done some coaching in the past so I thought I'd be able to coach her. It was a disaster, she ended up not speaking to me. 🤣

So now I'm paying someone else £60 an hour to teach her to do something I should be able to teach her to do myself.

See also, piano lessons. Same situation, I literally cannot teach my own kids anything.

She mentioned horse riding the other day, I've said it's one in, one out with skating and riding. She is going to do a trial then decide between the two but paying for both is too much so we shall see.

FalconHonour33 · 02/09/2026 09:18

MissMappsGardenProduce · 02/09/2026 09:11

I have to ask...

Why can you only wear a swim suit five times and why do they put a nail through it?

I don't swim myself, but I do have friends who do. Once you get into competition racing, they have to have a different suit for every race - they're not allowed to wear wet ones for races, it's considered an advantage, so one for a heat, a different one for the final... If you're in multiple races, that adds up...

And well, I guess, accidents happen, particularly if you're changing in a hurry!