AIBU to make a roast when my daughter asked me not to?

[TURTLE74]

Adult daughter 22 is not a fan of roast dinners. She asked me if I could not do a roast dinner today and make something else which I agreed to. However I had a chicken in freezer that needed using up today but I did make a pasta bake which is something she likes as an alternative. I like to make a family dinner on a Sunday for us all. Daughter was disappointed about the roast but I explained to her I had to use chicken up but I did make something she liked as alternative. She said to me you told me you wouldn’t make a roast and she looked upset. She didn’t go hungry though as she had Cottage Pie after saying there’s nothing to eat. AIBU to of made the roast even though there was pasta dish as alternative or was she being unreasonable here as I feel bad about it.

I am only here for the chicken date and the freezer thing mind you

Same!

And people querying what a pasta bake is…

I’ve only had a glass and half of wine but was seriously wondering if my tolerance had gone.

I’m glad there are other people who don’t understand what’s going on here as the random cottage pie made me think hard about finishing this second glass of wine 😆.

Understandable! There’s a lot going on here 😂

Oh dear God. I think I may have come to the end of my mumsnet tether.
Dear Turtle...please have yourself a head wobble

I have one too.
I'd honestly think they had lost their mind if they reacted like that.
They are lucky to be cooked for.

This
she’s 22 ffs
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how utterly pathetic

YABU to even raise this

I think, as a grown adult, cohabiting with other supposedly grown adults…if following a conversation about dinner where one person had specifically said can we not have x and it had been agreed to have y…then I’d have been pretty pissy if X had appeared on the table with no warning.

Unless the pasta bake was the alternative meal you had both agreed on it’s a bit odd to deliberately make something someone has asked you not to for family dinner?

especially when the star ingredient for the meal that you’d both initially agreed not to have was safe in the freezer and could happily remain there for another few days?

I've got a poussin* in the freezer that's probably two years old. In fact today I looked at it and thought "I really should use that this week". Just as I do every week.

And when I use it next year, it will also be fine.

*I'm not posh. It was a yellow label bargain.

Daughter did not ask for any other dish to be made she said can we not have roast but I made her pasta bake

i think everyone has agreed she is a brat so can we move onto the more important question of how you put a date on frozen chicken?

Exactly.

Your daughter needs to be less finicky and is fortunate that you cater to her tastes.

Great

Now to the important question about the chicken and the freezer!

Your DD's behaviour sounds like mine as I never liked roast dinners or traditional British food like that and was a vegetarian but I would've been about 14 when I behaved like that and my DM would've given me short shrift . Don't give it another thought and think about ways in which you can support her transition into adulthood and stop babying her.

I also need an update about the chicken and the freezer.

I would never have been this rude to my mother at 22. Fine to say she didn't fancy a roast, but you made her a pasta bake, and there was shepherd's pie on offer too. And she still made you feel bad.

I'm so confused.

Chicken was in freezer, so unless it had been in there oens, wouldn't have gone out of date. However you so had to have realised this early enough to get it fully defrosted before cooking and you make it sound like a last minute realisation

Daughter asked you to not make a roast, so you made pasta bake alongside it which she didn't eat so had leftovers from yesterday? And was then upset with you. Is there more to this than the food? What else happens oat Roast Dinners that doesn't happen at other meals?

Voted YABU but only because of the chicken has a sell by date if frozen thing!!?? Dd is still a brat for having 3 menu options

Your OP states

“Adult daughter 22 is not a fan of roast dinners. She asked me if I could not do a roast dinner today and make something else which I agreed to”

so which is it?

What has you agreed to make instead of a roast dinner when she originally asked?

You're both bat shit. Why would she care what everyone else eats. You don't understand the advantages of freezing food.

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She is 22, a whole adult woman! She needs to make her own dinner or move out! The audacity

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Why the fuck is a 22-year-old not capable of sorting her own dinner if she doesn’t fancy whatever you’re cooking? She’s a grown woman. Why is she behaving like a 13-year-old?