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Am I unreasonable to be upset by my neighbour's outside toilet noise?

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RockinRobyn98 · 22/08/2026 16:38

I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable about this because it’s starting to make me feel really uncomfortable in my own home it been a happening for years but last couple weeks got so much worse.

My neighbour has an outside toilet in his garden which is very close to our house as we both had passageway yards he also has a toilet upstairs in his house which I’ll mention again later.
He seems to use the outside toilet constantly throughout the day, sometimes literally every hour. The problem is that the toilet door is often left open while he’s using it, so we can hear everything.

He will be in there from as early as 6:30/7am making very loud noises, burping, farting, spitting/coughing etc anll throughout the day we once counted 27 times in a day of him making what I can only guess is belching noises? It’s like a very loud and deep “OI” we are guessing it’s a type of belch but who knows you hear him doing it all day and he seems to spend a lot of time out there with the door open to 💩 . It’s particularly bad first thing in the morning and has woke me up all this week I’ve had off work.

I’m finding the noise really unpleasant and sometimes they make me feel physically sick especially now I’m pregnant. I know he is obviously entitled to use his own toilet, but surely leaving the door open and making very loud bodily noises when it’s right next to neighbouring houses isn’t particularly considerate? I sat in the bath last night relaxing to his farts.. he does have a toilet upstairs and once in a conversation with him he mentioned how he sleeps in the living room as he can’t make it up the stairs (he’s late 60s) but I’ve often seen his upstairs lights come on so don’t believe this to be fully true.

It’s getting to the point where I dread hearing him go out there because I know what’s coming!
Would this bother you or am I being unreasonable? And is there anything I can actually do about it if it continues?

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RockinRobyn98 · 24/08/2026 09:00

bozzabollix · 24/08/2026 07:07

I have laughed my way through all this.

We all have the sense of humour of 12 yo boys in this family, so would be in the house wetting ourselves shouting ‘oooiiii’ when he went out there. Also record it so you could create some kind of amusing tune out of the various noises which could then be played back near the window.

Swap houses?

My daughter does 🤦🏼‍♀️ I have to tell her to stop 🤣🤣🤣 she shouts back oi ooooi. I have to explain it’s not his fault and she needs to not be rude. She is young.

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JulietteHasAGun · 24/08/2026 09:02

This is ours. I am thinking of getting a nicer seat for it.

Am I unreasonable to be upset by my neighbour's outside toilet noise?
RockinRobyn98 · 24/08/2026 09:10

Thanks for all your reply’s just to add as a lot of you are saying the toilet is handy when working in the garden. Or to install a water feature … we do not have gardens I will draw a diagram for reference. We share a garden wall and on my side I have a kitchen extension and his side he has his toilet and we both have a place for our bins that is it. His toilet door is opposite my kitchen door.
that’s it. That’s all the space we have. A small walkway and a place for our bins.

Am I unreasonable to be upset by my neighbour's outside toilet noise?
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JulietteHasAGun · 24/08/2026 09:37

How tall is the wall? Can you see him on the loo if he leaves the door open?

Secretseverywhere · 24/08/2026 10:50

I suggested the water feature not realising the outside space was so small. I still think that using other noise to drown him out is probably the way forward. Do you have a smart speaker atall? You can program Alexa (other speakers are available) to play something in response to a noise trigger for a certain period. Rather aptly you can get brown noise which is sound of waterfalls etc which drowns out most neighbour noise.

grumpygrape · 24/08/2026 10:57

Apologies if it's already been said but..

Normal for Norfolk

I'll get my coat. 🧥

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