AIBU to worry my son has too little to open?

[Iloveegyptt]

my DS is 6 on Monday and I have just had to fix my car which cost me a fortune. I feel like I haven’t bought him enough. I have bought him a full sized football net, football boots, trainers a new football and an iPad. I just think he won’t be happy as it isn’t much to open.

If your son isn't happy with all that then you've raised a spoilt brat

What on earth made you think an iPad was a good idea for a 6 year old. In my world 6 year olds like things like Lego, thongs to build, slime kits and books. You couldn’t have paid me to buy a 6 year old an iPad

Exactly this.

When my daughter got an iPad for her 11th birthday, that was all she got. And she was thrilled.

It was my youngest daughters 6th birthday yesterday.

She got some colouring books and a set of pens, two Barbie’s and a care bear and a squishy toy. Her grandparents bought her a scooter.

They don’t need loads (and you bought him an I pad!)

God @Iloveegyptt I’m a social worker and I had a mum this week beg for £10 to buy her son some crayons and pads for his birthday. This feels like a brag post

Deffo return the iPad - it conflicts with enjoyment of all the rest.
Happy birthday to your DS!

Don't worry about 'enough to open'. If he's football-mad, he'll have plenty. Plus family and friends will be giving him gifts too?

If you're really worried, wrap some books and make plans to read them with him. Or buy a small Lego set, ideally with a football theme. Or, as per all the PPs' suggestions - lots of little cars, etc.

Also, perhaps you have arranged a party? When my DC were that age (and even much, much older) that was my main gift to them. It sounds trite but at that age who can arrange a party with your friends better than your mum? Memories really are 'priceless' and they had so many great parties with friends. Some were at local swimming pools, some were at the local park. Be sure to have huge platters of veggie sticks and hummus for them to snack on whilst playing/riding bikes/football. I found kids turn up hungry and need snacks to play nicely.

Blimey. My DD got her first iPad for her 18th birthday! Call me old-fashioned, but at 6 my kids got books and a puzzle, maybe a football top, Lego, sketching stuff etc.

Return the iPad FFS. Then you can use the money to buy him a load of toys so he has plenty to open. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for years of spendonf ridiculous amounts on presents just to keep up with the bar you’ve set now. My two kids who have had their sixth birthdays both had a new football kit for their favourite team as their main present and were happy with that.

I would have loved to have done a party but all his favourite friends are on holiday so I also feel guilty about that now too. I did take my eldest with her friend and my son and his friend to the play centre a few days ago which cost quite a bit with food etc but it’s like they don’t realise, I think they are becoming spoiled to be honest. My daughter last year counted the presents she had and said she got more the year before! I was livid!

you’ve got him an iPad and you’re concerned he hasn’t got enough? This is a joke right

I despair.

I can’t say what I’m thinking because I’m being internally snobby and I know it.

Just stop.

Absolutely way too much to spend on a 6yo. He loves you, you dont need to buy his love with expensive gifts. Plus you'll be creating a problem for yourself as he will inevitably expect the same/more each subsequent birthday and Christmas.

£50-100 max is plenty.

Daft range of stuff to buy for a 6th birthday. You aren’t correct, he probably will want more to open, because kids like toys, where are the toys? Football and goal is good, 2 pairs of shoes and an iPad isn’t what I’d get my 6 year old, he’s not a teen. Return the iPad and buy your young child some age appropriate toys.

@Babygirlie thats heartbreaking.

@flippinnorastights Im pmsl at "thongs to build" (obviously we all know what you meant but that is funny!)

@Ethelrogers a perfect birthday for a 6yo! Can you be my mum lol.

Is it a real iPad or an Amazon Fire tablet?

Maybe take him out for a treat , and then see if his friends can play when back to School? I think he doesnt need an I pad really .Can swap for more presents?

Is this a stealth humble-brag?

A 6 year old does not need an iPad.

It’s not a wind-up. My six year old asked for a pile of gifts. Didn’t care what they were. Just loves the un-boxing! It’s definitely a thing!

Bloody hell.

I used to get paints and a couple of books.

If you have no money how did you get the iPad? Kinetic sand/ play dough a and a book and put the rest of the money away

Me too!

So you return the iPad and buy some smaller bits for him to open, but honestly you need to get a grip of their ingratitude, not feed it by buying even more.

Yep!

At that age, quantity over quality still reigns, and the amount you spent on an iPad could have bought more cheaper toys, games or activities that you could do with him, together, as a family ......

An iPad for a 6-year old? Absolutely nuts.

He’s 6. He absolutely does not need and shouldn’t be getting an iPad; it just isn’t appropriate.

Return it and spend it on suitable gifts for a child, like crafts, board games etc.