Was I wrong to buy the chairs without husband?

[grapejuices]

I have 3 lovely garden chairs which were originally a set of 4 but one broke a couple of years ago.
We also had 2 other chairs which we have out but aren’t as nice and don’t recline both ends.
We are a family of 5 and everyone likes to sit on the nice chairs so it’s first come first serve and the children are miffed if they get one of the other chairs.
I saw a set of two of the nice chairs we like in the sale and bought them with some cash I had for my birthday in a card from my parents.
I thought why not have all nice chairs which match as we now have 5 and there are 5 of us.

My husband is really cross that I bought these chairs, saying we didn’t need them, we had 5 chairs, it was a waste of money and I shouldn’t have got them.

Usually we do buy things as a couple but I particularly wanted these chairs as I don’t like being on the other chairs and felt it was my birthday money and I didn’t see I should run it past him.

AIBU to think I could buy garden chairs in the sale without it leading to an argument, it was his passive aggressive approach where he didn’t outright say anything but said to my daughter I don’t know why mum bought more chairs when we didn’t need them and it was stupid etc, knowing I could hear him.
It has taken the shine of the new chairs and I wish I hadn’t bought them but I thought it would be nice and while I don’t expect us to agree on everything, it feels like his opinion is always right and mine is always wrong.

Not fancy chairs at all just basic zero gravity recliners in the clearance for £40 the pair but the other two chairs we have are the rigid patio chairs from a table and chair set so are not really very comfortable.

Let him sit on the grass if it bothers him that much, what a tosser, telling you how to spend YOUR birthday money. I would have laughed when he said that and said "Yeah right, I know you're joking but it is my birthday money" Makes him look a bigger twat to say " But I wasn't"
You and the kids enjoy your chairs OP.

I'd just reply that I bought what I wanted with my money so he can just fuck off and mind his own business.

If your parents had gifted you the chairs directly, would he have complained? You can use your birthday money as you wish!

£40 the pair? Bargain, no wonder you snapped them up. He can sit on one of the old chairs then.

What a selfish arsehole he is, OP. He's also disrespectful to/about you in front of your children and has trained you so that you have to check with others whether he's being unreasonable or not...I think all of this is worthy of a bigger discussion than what you spend your £80 birthday money on. (It should go without saying but no, you were not wrong to buy the chairs without asking your husband's permission.) Nip that shit about bad mouthing you to the children in the bud. He's training them to have no respect for you and think it's acceptable for partners to call each other stupid and dismiss each other's needs.

Life is so short

Far too short to spend worrying about this OP

Pour yourself a glass of wine and go sit on your lovely chairs ☺️

Why does he feel he gets any say whatsoever over how you spend your own birthday money?

Twat.

I was going to suggest telling him not to sit on them, too!

He's got a fucking cheek telling you what you should and shouldn't do with your own money, OP.

Got to say, I agree with PP, your DH is a dick, OP.

Ha you were very reasonable as was OP. Prosecco is so blah and not very like proper champagne at all so there!

£40 the pair?? Where did you see them op? I need a new recliner. 2 would be even better.

Happy Birthday 🎈

Your birthday present from your mum. Nothing to do with him. Mean git.

Totally agree.

I'm shocked you had to ask @grapejuices .

This can't be the only controlling behaviour from him?

Bloody hell OP, he sounds awful.
Very controlling.
You are not allowed to spend your own birthday money?

That is financial abuse.
Awful for your children to be around.
I bet it's only the tip of the iceberg.

Financial controlling behaviour is domestic abuse.

He is also belittling you to your children.
That is emotional abuse of them.
Look into it.
You deserve better, your children definitely do.

😂😂😂

It’s most definitely his turn to sit on a shit chair in the full sun, selfish bastard.
What an absolute prick.

Wow how selfish is he and it’s not even his money

Hang on, they were 20 quid each and there is no financial issues,? That’s the sort of thing you buy from the household budget, I thought you’d spent hundreds.

Very reasonable, agreed! Cheapskate, bossy AND self important, he sounds loooovely.

Uuuggghhĥh strangle the fucker with the chair and patio him. Then you have an extra chair and you can think of him every time you have your morning coffee outside.

Or if that doesn't appeal to you just tell him to fuck off.

So he’s a selfish bastard who has the attitude of so long as he has a comfy chair no one else matters. Keep your chairs and dump your DH along with the crap chairs he’s a tight miserable arsehole.

His arse would never be on one of MY chairs.

Jeez, he sounds like a real catch! You can spend your birthday money on whatever you like.

Like PPs I would also be tempted to ban him from sitting in one of 'your' chairs - for life!

Tell him to piss off and mind his own business. He can sit on the grass from now on.

Does he usually behave like such a tosser?