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AIBU to stop cooking for my in-laws after their rude behaviour?

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ChefNoMore · Today 19:14

AIBU to say I am not cooking for my in-laws anymore?

Lots of back story with in-laws being rude to me, but this really pissed me off, was the straw that broke the camels back.

We seem to always end up hosting everyone at our house for Easter, Christmas etc. Although not always on the main day because PIL usually get a better offer from her SiL or her own sister and her DH.

Last Sunday we had a lunch at our house. I’m not sure what the latest thing is that I’ve done, as no one will ever tell me, but my PIL and SIL all refused to eat anything I’d prepared. They brought a few dishes themselves, asked what my DH had made and stuck to that. You may think I’m being paranoid but I’m not. This is the kind of games they play.

Usually when MIL and FIL come alone they are happy to eat whatever with my FIL actually telling me that I’m a great cook.

I just found this really utterly rude and I am done. I put so much effort into cleaning the house, shopping, planning and cooking dishes (I made fresh bread, side dishes and 2 desserts) and they ate none of it. They even asked who made what.

My DH fully admits that his family like to play politics but I’ve had enough of being one of the main villains.

It’s nearly that time when Christmas is discussed and who is doing what and when. I’m just not doing it. I’m not having any of them over at all. If DH wants to see them he can go and meet them in a restaurant.

I’ve been so stupid putting up with this crap but I’m done.

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MsColumbo · Today 21:52

You have my sympathy because this is very rude and frustrating.

But I would be having them over one more time and telling them my husband cooked what I cooked and he cooked what I cooked. Then watch how it all goes down.

But I love a gottcha moment.

Happyjoe · Today 21:52

pikkumyy77 · Today 20:59

Ah! Memories if the look of shock when I cooked for my MIL for the first time. Gorgeous meal of poached salmon, multiple salads, sides, roasted asparagus, appetizers, two desserts. She was not happy because I had not bought her some weird soda she drank instead of wine.

Last time too I hope....!

Floppyearedlab · Today 21:53

Disgusting behaviour

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