AIBU to wonder why people serve drinks too hot to drink?

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Just seen someone with horrible burns from a drink on Instagram. This has got me thinking along with seeing a baby at a baby group get a small burn from a hot drink and someone leaving a very hot drink in a non safe place near my small child recently. Why do people not just add some cold water to hot drinks. What is the point of making a drink that's too hot to drink? Why not add a bit of cold water (after it has brewed/steeped etc), rather that handing people drinks that need to cool for sometime to be drinkable. It would hopefully prevent quite a lot of injuries.
Of course leave a tea to stew safely on a kitchen bench or put in a thermos for later if going out.

When mine were young (and Sure start ran baby groups) it was no hot drinks, or hot drinks in the kitchen only.

I did a horrible incident once... a mum had her baby on her lap in a cafe, and the baby pulked a bowl of soup off the table. The scream was heart wrenching. (The cafe had them in the toilets getting first aid immediately while waiting for an ambulance)

So is red meat, and alcohol and lack of exercise and salted foods, and charred foods 🤷

All the fun stuff 😀

It's a wonder I'm not riddled with every Cancer going.

Much prefer a very hot drink - I don’t always want to drink all of it down right away. If I’m in a cafe, or relaxing at home, I’d rather sip away at my tea or coffee over 10-15 mins, rather than necking it down straight away. A hot drink can be sipped to start with, then as it cools you can drink more of it.

I only add cold water if I am in a huge hurry.

Because people would then complain their drink is too cold. Having worked in hospitality, I can assure you that a lot of people stipulate they like their hot drink, hot!

It isn't the server or the establishments fault if someone doesn't know how to drink or where to place a hot drink sensibly.

I like my hot drinks hot and my cold drinks cold.

I can't stand lukewarm tea or coffee.

My husband on the other hand will drink both stone cold.

The issue with scalding has as much to do with where you place the mug, not just the actual contents. I can't recall the last time I had a young child in the house, but if there was one, I wouldn't fill the mug right to the top and I would ensure it was placed in the middle of the table, out of reach of short arms.

When my DS was little I still had hot drinks, but he was consistently taught not to touch them, or it will hurt him.

The average house has many dangers if you think hard enough, but most of them can be mitigated with a bit of common sense.

I totally agree that luke warm tea is not nice, but that is very different from a splash of cold water to changing scalding hot to hot, which would leave a red mark but not serious burns and thus drastically reduced the risk.

I wasn't around when the person left the really hot tea near my child. When I arrived I picked it up by the handle to move it to a safe place and they reached for it but the cup was too hot for them to hold, so it was extremely hot.

The baby group was a cup with lid, and someone knocked one over, but it still splashed onto a baby ( the cups sat around for ages because they were too hot to drink).

The one on Instagram was on a plane and she got hot chocolate all over her stomach and has a nasty burn.

In my husband's case he just likes to drink his tea just after it's made and asks everyone to add a splash of cold water. He has never complained about the taste, but is extremely non-fussy!

God I dont know. Hot drinks and the fuss and faff and general obsession over them drives me mad.

My parents like scalding hot tea and coffee and then slowly take little gaspy sips. They have lovely manners in all other respects but this is acceptable for some reason.

I'm a grumpy, peri menopausal, misophonic nightmare though so I do accept my view might be a bit skewed.

Some coffee shops serve a cappuccino at just the right temp to drink right away whereas others totally scold your mouth if you don’t wait a few minutes (which I don’t have the patience for!). I don’t know how they regulate the temp, maybe more milk? Anyway, I really do appreciate it a bit cooler.

I hate being given a drink that's ready to drink, especially in a cafe. The point of sitting down with a drink is to sit dowb with a drink. If it's luke warm you have to drink it quickly (before it's too cold) and then you leave, as you no longer have a drink.

It can't really be too much to expect people to treat hot drinks as hot drinks and put them in a safe place. I've never been to a baby group that allowed hot drinks close to the babies though.

Because often you don't drink a whole drink immediately? Whether you are playing with your baby, chatting to your friend, doing some work/housework, typing on Mumsnet! If it stared drinkable, it would be cold by the time you finished it. Plus in coffee shops and that they often steam milk. I'm guessing they would need to heat it in a wholly different way if they were only making it luke warm?

Fast cars are pretty dangerous too yet everyone still drives them, horse and cart would be safer

Are you some alien life form? Or maybe Daenerys Targaryen?…

Because if you’re human and your pour scalding liquid down your throat, you get, well, scalded… badly…

Hot drinks cool down and you can choose when it's the right temperature for you. Luke-warm drinks never get hotter so only please a smaller percentage of people. Your issue is 'why aren't more people careful with hot drinks around children and babies'. How did a very hot drink get put down near your child, op? Who was on watch duty?

People serve drinks 'too hot to drink' because people ask for extra hot.
Once it's over the counter , it's the recipient's responsibility to keep it safe from babies etc.

I’m just a human who likes my hot drinks to be served to me very hot, who doesn’t have any scars or pain in my mouth from it 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Especially the stress when I get served a cup of tea that’s not hot enough to scald my mouth and throat with!

I’m exactly the same.

Are you ok?

if you poured scalding hot drink on your skin then you’d scald… so of course your mouth will too…. Unless you don’t actually drink it when scalding, but for some strange reason just like to boast that you do!

I haven’t boasted about anything. Not at all. I just said I like my drinks really hot.
You seem really worked up about the fact that some people prefer their drinks to be really hot.

I hate lukewarm drinks. Give it to me boiling and I’ll let it cool down for 2 minutes if necessary.

Do you not understand hyperbole?

Yeah, I’m wondering if she maybe doesn’t understand that in the English language, it’s very common for people to use words for effect, or to emphasise a meaning in an exaggerated fashion, and that not every single word is used entirely literally? Assuming she’s never said anything like ‘im
starving’, or ‘I’m freezing’, etc?
That would partially explain the level of anger at people using the word ‘scalding hot’ I guess.