to want to think up ingenious ways of torturing the (((insert word of choice))) that hit me and the kiddies last october........

[Psychomum5]

..........with his car, making me think (and I still cannot rid myself of the picture in my head), that my darling eldest daughter was dead in the seat next to me, and is now being an utter fucking wanking tosspot shity bastard of the highest order by................

saying that it was not him driving, he had sold the car, and they were inpersonating him!!!!

since the accident he has...

1, sent ballifs to our door demanding payment for the recovery and storage of his manky mazda written off car.

2, said that I was the one driving dangerously and erratically and weaving around parked cars

3, (the latest), has now denied causing the accident, saying that he had sold the caar 5 days before said accident (and yet he was still paying for the insurance

now, the police attended the scene, they spoke to the tosser man, and HE admitted liability AT THE SCENE.......the police CONFIRMED to us, while we were in A&E and I was being treated for chest injuries and the children were being treated for broken nose/head injuries/friction burns etc, that he was the cause going on the statements taken, and I know what happened.....and yet.....and yet......

I now need to provide a detailed statement of truth about what happened, what he looked like, as do maybe the children.

we may need to go to court.

I may need to also now start criminal proceedings against him (not sure on that, the solicitor mentioned it, I have to now speak to police officer in charge when he is on duty tomorrow).

I do not need this.........we had grandma's ashes service today, it has been hard enough!.

soooooooooooooooooooooo

AIBU to want to dream up ways of torturing this bastard into just fucking agreeing to all this and letting me put this behind us all???

PMSL....

or should I

well....you can at least give me some technics you would try surely....

sorry to hear of the utter crapness of driver, all you needed on top of your grandma's ashes service
they are sure dragging things out for you aren't they.
The guy who wrote our car off in january with me and the kids in it was not insured, i got a phonecall on wednesday to say they are taking him to court and i need to go too.
i have a pile of forms to fill in for personal injuries for me and the kids as we now have to pursue the personal injuries bit throu somewhere else.
i will keep a watch on this thread for any useful torture methods advice

OJ!!

noooo

not you too!!!

wankers.....

and all this on top of losing steve too. please except my , and yes, will keep you informed of torture technics advice.

What a load of crap people are having at the moment.

Hopefully, to encourage you, we were shunted (no serious injuries) by a car last April - we were following road, they decided that they wanted to turn right from the middle lane (new company car only 3 wks old ). They drove off after the incident but had damaged our car too much to be able to move it very far. They contested who was to blame and offered to share the responsibility ie they wouldn't pay our costs. We contested this, and eventually managed to convince their insurance company that it was their fault. Doesn't help if there is no insurance (OJ - so sorry that this has happened at this time), but hopefully might offer some help. Also got some personal injury damages as I got whiplash.

our accident happened 11th jan and luckily for us it was a mobilty car and only six months old bloody good car thou it saved our lives, they still haven't replaced the bus sheler that we were pushed throu

what really makes me mad is.....

the previous may (yes, two accidents 17mths apart), I was hit, side on, at another cross roads.

that time......no police, no ambulances......we had a witness tho....a vicar

all going thro nicely.....no contesting, no arguements....the other driver PAID for private physio and for councelling!!!

we have no compensation for me yet, as I am unusual, but DD2 has had hers...((she was also in the car)), and there is mothing to fret about.

this time tho......the complete contrast!!!

i remember you had had a few accidents as you kindly posted on my thread at the time.
how did your grandma's ashes service go today?

well....as well as it could (if that makes sense)!

I was the only family member to go, everyone else had work (which is more important apparently).....altho MIL's two closest friends came too.

just four of us!!

it makes me very sad, but MIL seemed at peace with it, so, in a way, I have to go with how she feels and be happy that she was happy, IYGWIM.

I just wish that the entire family (barring the children this time maybe) could have been there.

but then, I had a very crap childhood and I sometimes wonder if that has made me see things in a different vein than others.....I hope you understand that?.....so....

anyway...yes, today was lovely, grandma would be very pleased, and we went for lunch after which was really nice, so......makes me smilem even tho I feel sad.

sad that people have such different priorities
i am well placed to understand the crap childhood as i was dragged brought up in care, kids homes and foster homes were pretty dire, but i am sure that it helped me be the parent i never had,
i am glad that your MIL was happy with it good that you did lunch, can understand the happy plus sad bits.

OJ, you sound as tho you may have had similar (altho worse), than me childhood wise.......I was also 'raised' in foster homes and then with my aunt......my 'mum' is schizophrenic, 'dad' abandoned me, and stepdad did things no child should have had done), and I fight each time I speak to my aunt over whether my mother should know my address/tel'no'....so far I am safe (as are the children), but sho knows how it will be if I should 'offend' her!!!

mind you, tonight she has finally (and I have to admit, shockingly), to vet all letters sent, as the last one was telling me that she had never had sex with DH....now, I know my mother is ill, but still, I still feel sick and horrid when I have a letter from her (aunty forwards them all).....for aunty to agree to what she has is massive!!!

so......you have my complete sympathy and understanding with regards to hiding from family....I have a daily battle!

If he does get successfully prosecuted, then insurers should want to settle you/your kids' claims very shortly after.

oj - what month was the accident? just that you posted on here after the accident, and mentioned kids being anxious etc - if I can dig out your thread/those postings that may jog your mind for filling in the forms.

kiddies wil be pretty much simple as al but DD1 are fully recovered.

DD1 has been referred for councelling, as she cannot rid herself of seeing the man coming at us...and as she then cannot remember anything else, she is stuck there.

me.....I am still settling the previous claim, and then will start on this. the picture of megs (dd1) looking to me as tho she was dead is one I cannot get past, and the driving phobia is horrible.

still, worse out there than me, so I get on, and rant here instead

our accident was 11th january, it was a friday.
so sorry sounds like you had the same background as me psycho, i am in hiding from my birth family and don't feel very safe without steve here to protect me and the kids

OJ...I am so sorry. It is utterly horrid to have a childhood that you wish to erase......for it to have a knock on effet to adult life, (and your own children) is truly upsetting......and yet, I am (as are you) living proof that it can and does happen!!!

and now you have lost your rock, it must be even more scary (and I am so so sorry.......my simon is also my rock, I can truly empethise with what you are going thro). I am so empowered by you when I read your posts....your strengths shine thor.....for you to have also gone thro a childhood like I think you may have done......OJ......you are truly destined for sainthood! (and I mean that).....I am in awe of how you manage.

Tabasco catheter and chilli sauce enema. What a thorough Bad Person.

The coddling grinder from Blackadder. I agree that what goes around comes around though.

I just muddle throu at the moment debbie our lovely mac nurse says we all have a bank that we put love and nice stuff into friends can top it up too, she often says jo you have enough in bank to not worry about taking some out .
she also say housework doesnt make memories..

May I offer you all, for use as you see fit, Fiorinda's Curse; 'May you have all the harm that's good for you.'

That's certainly something I would wish on OJ's inlaws, from what I have read of OJ's threads. And everyone else who has had to put up with shit: say that to them (silently if need be), it is a wonderful ethical and secuar wish that you don't need to feel bad about.

Do you know his address?? Maybe you could sign him up for mountains of junk mail.
Not nasty but bloody annoying!!

If you do want to get nasty tho', I know some very baaaaad people!!

OJ - threads where you mentioned expenses etc around time of the accident:-

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=9&threadid=459520#9292660

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1373&threadid=461373#9327148

Thanks for those links I will be needing them.

I know how you feel pyschomum. I had some &% drive into the back of me when I was waiting at red traffic lights. but* apparently he had no car and wasn't in said town at the time and got rid of the phone that he gave me the number for. Police just couldn't pin him down although they did try.
I went through two years of imagining tracking him down and doing nasty things to him. usually involving his spine seeing as he knackered mine up.

Next time he does a washing, sneak round and swap his pants for identical but two sizes smaller. He will have an eternal wedgee.
(This will only work if he pins them outside)

Love it!!

I am very much enjoying these genious torture methods.....!!!

((and yes, I do know his address))

update today.....have spoken to the police that attended the accident.

he actually remembers the guy, without even having the ID-No. to hand, (he rang me back while I was at footy with the boys, and then again while at dance with the girls, and all the info was at home), and instantly recalled a lot of info......he rang back later with better information tho as he had then been able to recover the reports on the computer.

now, he is confused as to why the wanker git would DO this! as far as he is concerned the insurance deals with all this and not the driver, BUT, they (the police) had*, at the time, wanted to issue proceedings against him for dangerous driving, but were apparently unable to thro lack of evidence (or so I have been led to believe). The wanker driver gave all documentaion at the scene, and at no point did he state that he was not the registered owner of the vehical.......so why now decide this 8mths later?? PLUS, the description I have in my head (that he looks like a scruffy 'doc brown' from the 'back to the future' trilogy) pretty much matches what the police say.

basically, he is being a utter wankoid, and I am allowed to wish disease and destruction of biblical propertions on him (as I am not making any direct threats....)!!