AIBU to use the toilet while my husband is showering?

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Don't know what topic you'd put this under but picture this scenario - one bathroom in the house, husband is in the shower, you're suddenly desperate for the toilet - what do you do?

In 26 years, my DH has seen me sitting on the loo once. And, that was only because I was mid flow and spotted cockroaches running round my feet resulting in much squeeling😂.

(On holiday in Cyprus btw).

My DH has seen me give birth… really don’t think this is something I’d be worried about

Family of 6 with one bathroom. Yes I would. We have an over bath shower with a glass screen but installed a shower curtain on a rail as well for privacy so somebody can be in the bath whilst somebody nips in for a wee/brush teeth etc. We make it work.

Another for pee only
Anything else most definitely isn't a spectator sport.

Unless the chewin the fat sketch
Man desperate for toilet.
House holder obliges.

3 bathrooms in the house but in our en-suite I often take a wee when he is in the shower ! But I won’t let him use the loo if I am in the shower 😆

DH and I always shower together. Our shower is large enough and we had it retrofitted with a central "rainfall" shower head. I use the toilet before, or if necessary, after.

Lucky you. Mine had to be helped out because he felt faint.🙄😆

If it was just a wee I’d knock and explain, then go in and have a wee. He wouldn’t care.

I wouldn’t poo in front of him. I’d tell him “can you get out the shower pronto, please, I need to poop, right now!!”

I’m sure both have happened. We’re not bothered about things like that.

Total non issue for us. Neither of us would bat an eyelid.

but I guess if one or the other is bothered you have to ask them to come out if you are desperate beyond waiting. When you gotta go you gotta go

I can't remember the last time I managed a shower without my husband or one of my (small) kids coming in. I've just ordered a lock.

That is "Doing a Father Stone" if you have a dump (Father Ted )

Flushing the loo when they're mid-shower wpuld depend on hoe chintzy they're were being .

DH can wallow in the bath for hours so occasionally I can't wait for a wee, but I knock and ask and the bathroom layout means he can't see me on the toilet from the bath unless he craves his neck which he wouldn't. For a shower I'd wait, I also wouldn't want him coming in while I shower unless it was urgent, if I'm shaving my legs with a foot up on the edge it feels a bit much to be observed

I agree for a pee, I even will go in and wee if he’s in the bath and chats😂 but I draw the line at anyone having a turd while their partner is also in there 🤢

Never would i ever poo in front of someone but wee is fine, just pull the curtain right across.

My DH wouldn't cope.

Wee but not poo. We’re empty nesters so pretty much never close the bathroom door.

A wee fine, if it was a poo I’d wait for him to get out of the shower. Can’t imagine I’d be that desperate if I hadn’t needed it before he went in that couldn’t wait a few minutes.

I would cross my legs. I hate it when dh uses the toilet when I’m in the shower.

Everyone in my home knows to ask if anyone needs the loo before they get in the shower so this has never come up

In a one toilet house it would be sensible to check if anyone needed toilet before having a shower. Most people could hold for 10 mins while other person finished in shower.

Not flushing, that's unreasonable.

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and our baby loves to practice MMA on my bladder. My husband does not care. If I gotta go, I gotta go.

For opening my bowels, since I had my gallbladder removed it absolutely can be so urgent that I can't hold it till he's finished, and no I don't need to make a GP appointment. I can happily hold a wee and would never go from not needing it to being so desperate that quickly. Other people might however.

I would never just go in, I'd knock and tell him I was desperate and ask if he could either please hurry, or step out of the shower and bathroom for a minute so I could go.

Why not get some 'Dog Poop Bags' and use one those and then hang it on a tree in a public green space?

It seems that's what a number of people do where I live.🤮