WIBU to call out a man for using ladies loo?

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Yesterday in a motorway service station, a man used the ladies’ disabled/baby change loo. This was through the entryway to the ladies, but off to the right and separate to the main area of toilets on the left. I saw a lady with 2 young children try to challenge him as he went in, but he ignored her. When he came out, I asked why he had used the ladies - to which he (very red in the face) argued that it was separate and he didn’t go into the ladies. He definitely did! Another lady who witnessed this then went and checked and said to me that the toilet is separate, however this doesn’t excuse a man going past the ladies sign and into the designated ladies area. There was a separate, clearly signposted, male disabled/baby change behind the male toilets entryway. WIBU?

Not something I’d dwell on. Not sure how you could ‘call him out’ now or why you’d wish to.

He didn’t have to walk past any females. We don’t know if perhaps the mens were full and he was desperate or unwell. Sometimes when you gotta go, you gotta go.

Honestly, just forget about it!

Just because someone is walking doesn’t mean they’re not disabled and could wait if the male disabled toilets were occupied.

He was using the disabled toilet. I don't know where these toilets are, with such a set up as the OP describes. I have never seen it. Maybe the OP would enlighten us all! Otherwise I think it is just another thread to get people frothing, as usual.

Jeez, maybe he just saw the sign for the disabled loo and assumed it was positioned just past the Ladies sign but was actually for everyone’s use?

Given the total lack of voyeuristic behaviour, is that not more likely than a perverts first attempt at voyeurism??

Why so quick to judge someone who may well have a hidden disability and/or making a mistake when finding the disabled loo - it sounds like an odd set up to have a differentiated gender specific disabled and baby change so he could have just not appreciated there was another one on the Men’s side!

Why should he have to explain himself?

The reason for that, however, is the lack of equitable provision that could be assured through something similar to America's quarter of a century old "potty parity" laws. If you think this is a gotcha, it's a really bad one.

He should not have to. There are only disabled toilets in the UK. Not sex specific ones, unless, of course the OP is posting from another Country.

I think it’s disgusting, creepy and a boundary violation that any man would do this. Isn’t that illegal? Even if it is a single occupancy toilet, women can’t hold as long as men and there’s no excuse for taking a facility that was designated for female use. Men can also pee standing up so they are at an advantage when it comes to being able to relieve themselves. Not that women should need an excuse. No means no. Simple as

Toilets aren't just for urinating though so the stand up explanation is void.

What did the actual sign on the door say?

it sounds to me like it was a disabled cubicle at the end of the corridor past the ladies toilets rather than actually being part of the ladies toilets. Badly designed maybe but as anyone who needs to use disabled toilets knows that’s par for the course!

Have you people never been into a motorway service station?! This is a pretty standard arrangement in all the modern ones - both the men's and women's toilets have a disabled/baby changing cubicle

Good men stay out so bad men stand out.
Only predatory men enter women's spaces.

No male and have met a lot of sick fucks who appeared completely normal until they opened up.... needless to say a couple got a smack

It was a service station on the M4 eastbound, I don’t know which one 🤷‍♀️ I don’t know why it’s so hard to believe that there are sex-separated disabled/baby change facilities.

I know the set up you mean, we were in a services years ago where both ‘sides’ had disabled loos but only the ladies side had a baby change.

I emailed to say that it was unacceptable for men with babies to be expected to go on the ladies side to use the baby change and the response was that the baby change was not ‘in’ the ladies but adjacent. It was two corridors with colour coded lighting heading for each loo with the disabled/baby change about half way to the loos. To us, the whole yellow lit corridor was fairly obviously ‘the ladies’ with the blue lit corridor being ‘the mens’ but apparently not according to the company.