Help. My therapist won’t let me go.

[Lizzbear]

This is a bit tongue-in-cheek, but also a bit worrying. I’ve been seeing a psychodynamic therapist on the NHS therapies fir 5 weeks, once a week.
I’ve been suffering with intrusive thoughts and anxiety.
After a couple of sessions I decided we weren’t a good fit, Im not sure it’s forms.
I’ve told him on 3 occasions but he keeps saying I’m giving up on myself and that he’ll see me next week. I then feel bad and turn up the following week, and have the same conversation.
He’s quite hard to read, and it’s not his fault I’m looking for more direction.
The thing is it’s an unusual therapy which is based on the relationship between the therapist and the patient.
its called dynamic interpersonal therapy and Im finding it hard to navigate. I think I’ll stick with it now, but has anyone else had this therapy?
How did you find it?

I know. It feels odd that I’m there for insecure attachment and I keep trying to leave!!!!

I knew a woman who became a therapist who was deeply insecure and had a life strewn with damaging things she'd done to other people. It was absolutely crystal clear she wanted to get inside other pepple"'s heads . I knew her in a work situation and she went out of her way to push for a friendahip in a way that felt odd to me. As soon as she had started to get to know me she started telling me what was wrong with me.. zThere was no genuinevfriendshop there. She just wanted to.put me down. She had the same pattern of behaviour with other people. I was utterly horrified when she trained as a therapist. She just wanted to feel superior to others. I dread to think how many people she has screwed up since she started practising. And there must be plenty of others like her out there.

I’ve never heard this saying and I’m a therapist.
The therapist person is from the NHS. The OP is not paying anyone’s mortgage. He’ll have a year long waiting list to just replace her with 🤦🏻‍♀️

I stopped going to my therapist because they looked exactly like the person who traumatised me in the first place.
I couldn’t bear it and despite telling the therapist, they just ended my sessions.

Becoming an accredited counsellor is a rigorous process requiring a lot of self scrutiny, personal therapy and supervised placements. I do worry for the damage that can be done by counsellors who aren't professional but it would be extremely difficult to become accredited and have something seriously wrong.

Well, I only know what I experienced and,tbh, I think what you said is a bit naive. Her website doesn't even show good grammar.

It’s very important that you gel with a psychodynamic therapist as you will be talking about some very personal private things. That’s the whole point - looking back to the past to see what’s effecting your life now - that needs trust and relationship building. Ask to change to a woman maybe

The first psychologist (NHS) I seen traumatised me. As with all professionals & human beings they are not the same. Some are good some are awful. Asking to change therapist shouldn’t discriminate you from receiving the therapy. Just ask for a women x

I think the point of DIT is to explore and understand your relationship patterns through your relationship with the therapist?

Like how you relate to the therapist would be a clue about how you relate to others. There is supposed to be a pattern.

Oh gosh. If that’s the case.it doesn’t bode well for my other relationships 😂