To join a dating site just to chat?

[VeryBerryCute]

I’m a single mum and, because of my circumstances, I’m pretty much stuck at home in the evenings. I get quite bored and lonely, and I’ve been thinking about joining a dating site simply to have people to chat to in the evenings.
I wouldn’t be pretending I was looking for a relationship or planning to meet up. I’d be upfront from the beginning that I’m only interested in chatting and getting to know people, with no intention of taking it offline.
I know dating apps are obviously designed for people who are looking to date, so I’m wondering whether it would be unfair or misleading to use one purely for conversation, even if I’m completely honest about my intentions.
Would you think this was unreasonable, or is there nothing wrong with it as long as I’m upfront?

WTF is happening on this thread?!

Yes very strange not sure this site can be recommended!

I don’t see why not. Plenty of men will want the same connection. I’ve seen dating apps specifically for chatting. Crack on!

@VeryBerryCute I'm not sure if it's a bot, they're doing it on other threads too. I have reported them. Weirdos

Thanks yeah ive decided to sign up I can block any weirdos who start sexting, unlike mumsnet.

probably, but it just proves whatever sites you use you get weirdos

@VeryBerryCute good luck OP, hope you have a better experience than me and find what you're looking for! ❤️

Yeah I don’t particularly want to read this either, no different to a man on an app sending this at least i would have the power to block them!

Same username and multiple others doing it last night too. Doesn't look like they were banned.

And people suggested this as a space to avoid creepy men, hardly! what the hell am I seeing 🤦‍♀️ starting to think they'd be less creeps online dating

The men who are only interested in chatting are married. Is that who you want to talk to really? Will you feel comfortable, knowing that you are engaging in an online relationship with someone who is cheating on their partner?

It wouldn’t be an “online relationship” there would be nothing other than chatting to pass time in the evenings because I’m bored

It also won’t be my fault if he is married and has lied, plenty of women have actual relationships and sex with men only to find out they’re married 🤷‍♀️ so it could be worse! It’s not like married men only want to talk. And it’s no one’s fault other than the man.

Have you considered online gaming? There's plenty of games with voice chat you could play.

Oh that could be an idea! Im not very good at gaming but I could give it a go I guess you have to start somewhere thanks

I think if you’re upfront about it, that’s the main thing and then people can decide whether that’s what they want or not. Nothing worse than being mislead or messed around.

It’s a funny one, it feeds their ego that they have options or women on the hook. If you say first off you aren’t an option then it loses the attraction

The bigger question you should ask yourself @VeryBerryCute is “why am I bored”….?!

Going on a dating site and “passing the time” with others won’t cure that for you.

I have to agree with this. Dating app "chats" are about as boring as it gets. Endless "how's your day been" and "good morning, beautiful"... No, thanks.
There are dozen of things I can do with my evening which are infinitely more exciting.

I know facebook dating and bumble have friendship options, but personally, i would look at FB pages. Im on a few that are for singles but are not dating pages and have met some nice people on them (some I have also physically met up with as they have occasional group meets)

I've got friends from OLD and we just chat. We didn't have romantic inclinations after a few calls but did have things in common that we became friends over. I've never met them and we share memes as well as text throughout the week. And I've seen a few on OLD recently that are seeking chat only.
Try it,. What have you to lose. You can always delete the app.

I did this when my child was young and never had childcare to go out in the evenings, probably the same situation you're in now. I still speak to some of the guys 5+ years later

Because I am in every single evening alone with my children with zero social life? I do things at home but I miss having a social life