Would you want/need dinner after this?

[Eatinglettuceleaveswithchopsticks]

Made a late bbq lunch-3/3.30

Chicken, pepper & onion skewers, big salad, bbq potatoes, baguettes & cheeses and watermelon.

Dh has just asked me what’s for dinner

Aibu that I Cba making a proper dinner
too? Just make yourself a frigging butty!

'what's for dinner?' like a little toddler would ask. How unattractive.

Do you do all the cooking then? What’s the betting you do the laundry, cleaning and admin too. Why? 🙄

Why does he even ask you what's for dinner anyway?

Make your own then! Life’s too
short to be so rigid on mealtimes 😂

It happens sometimes. Not the end of the world. I am a believer in regular mealtimes but it isn't a hill to die on if it means having to eat twice in the space of two hours.

Well yes, I probably would. But if we had an agreement that it was DH's reponsibility to plan, prep and cook the meals for the day, whilst I took responsibility for other things, I'd presume that providing just one (pretty basic) meal, not at a sensible meal time was weaponised incompetence, and I'd not be impressed.

I have a small stomach and can't store up food like some people. So I'd definitely need something else, even if it was soup or a sandwich etc.

Also, I go to bed at midnight so there's no way I could go that long after a late lunch.

I wouldn’t but DH want something. He would happily make a toastie or a big bowl of cereal or something. He doesn’t expect me to cook for him, and never when I’m not eating myself (I mean I do not sometimes to be kind but not when it’s hot and we’ve already had a bbq.

I probably would want a late dinner.

But why is he not making a proper dinner for you both, as you did at lunch? Why is the assumption that dinner is anything to do with you?

Jesus can't even see the exploitation that most men enact on the women they are supposed to value as human beings like them. It's just the air that we breathe. We, and you, deserve so much more.

it doesn't matter if people would want diner or not.

He can go and cook his own if he's hungry. It's not outrageous to have diner after a late lunch and not to want snacks, or sandwich. I strongly encourage my kids to have decent meals, in whatever quantity they need, rather than "snacks" and eating crap for the sake of it.

A fair number of people seem to be this way-as in eat quite a lot compared to some other people, yet stay within the weight. I know when I was really slim, I ate a lot, and felt ill if I missed a meal. Just shows how it's hormones/blood sugar/I don't know what, but not amount of food-because I ate lots at those 3 regular meals, but was so slim!
So I'd say it is unreasonable to think it's wrong if someone wants another meal, OP.

Ditto! I don’t know how many times I’ve heard my 78 year old mother say ‘we won’t be needing dinner tonight’ or ‘I’ll just have a sandwich later’ after a very average sized lunch! Fair enough if that’s what you want but stop imposing it on all your kids like it is a given.

Whether "what's for dinner" is a reasonable question surely depends on how the household usually operates. Even if the answer is I don't fancy anything sort yourself out, it would be all wrong for him to go ahead and make himself something if OP usually organises the food and had a family meal planned.

Me, no. Kids and DH yes.

MIl does this random timing. Invites us for Sunday lunch then serves at 4pm.

by then kids have eaten each other.

I tried asking her to push it back to 5, she served at 8. 🤪😂

Couldn’t you just put together a quick roast dinner for him, OP? It really doesn’t take that long once you get started. Or at a push, burger and chips might do him? @Eatinglettuceleaveswithchopsticks

I'd have asked him what on earth he thought the barbecue and salads were?

If we'd done what you did (the barbecue) then we would have expected to sort ourselves out for food later if we actually wanted any.