AIBU to feel unable to cope after my partner left?

[TheOpalFox]

A week ago tomorrow my soulmate upped and left
I can’t cope :(
it’s the most worse pain in the world 💔💔💔

It is still really early days. Have you told people so they can support you? Also ask for support or people will think you are coping.

Given all your posts over the past week you sound as if you are in a mental health crisis over this. Can you make a gp appointment for medication to help you through this?

You need mental help see your gp and hope your child had someone who is there for them seeing you can't

You really need to stop posting the same thing over and over. on here. You've had some good advice already. Go back and read it.

Yet another thread? 🤨

Stop wallowing and read the replies on the other ones.

Been there. This website was a massive help to me at the time. https://www.runawayhusbands.com/

Read her stages, they definitely turned out to be accurate for me!

There is also a private Facebook group with thousands of women in the same place you are in now, it helps. Vikki Stark experienced this (she is a marriage counsellor) and initially wrote a book, which is also excellent.

I know you feel life will always feel the way it does now, but it won't. I promise. For now, you have to just go with the feelings. I eventually took up sewing, it sounds crazy but it helped absorb and distract my thoughts and was amazing therapy.

@TheOpalFox if they left then they clearly weren't your soul mate.

Yes it sucks but life goes on.

Get up and go out.

Come off it, OpalFox. This daily wailing isn’t doing you any good at all.
And not wishing to be unkind, but you are massively increasing your sense of loss by insisting to yourself that this bloke is your soulmate.
How can you square that with the way he treated you? Don’t wallow in this standard teenage fantasy about love and romance; you’ve far too much experience to believe it.
If you can figuratively shake your head to return to Earth, minus all such dreamy notions (including the significance you put on decorating his new place), you might see that this insuperable loss and devastating heartbreak is not as life- threatening as you have been telling yourself.
It’s grim, painful, of course but from all you’ve told about the relationship, there are surely better options out there if you want a man in your life.
For now, you’ve to work on your defences and make sure your little family is thriving, and very bluntly, moping is not the way to get through your understandable sadness.
Give it time. But don’t just hang there, suspended. Life goes on.

Oh for goodness sake OP, you're starting these threads on a daily basis now.

Why not just stick to the threads you already have and everyone an repeat what they've said on them?

You need professional help now, not Mumsnet.

In the nicest way, stop being a drama llama.

The endless posts & OP never returns

He’s not your soulmate or he wouldn’t have left! These daily wailing posts are maybe indicative of why he left? Non of us should need a man to be happy! You need to be a strong independent woman!
You need to start helping yourself to get out of this quagmire of despair. Get up get dressed have a meal and a drink, do some tidying up and watch a comforting film or read a book!!
The worst pain in the world would be if your child died!!

Dear God. How many more posts are you going to do??

I’m sorry you are in so much pain. It’s a grieving process, the man who you loved is gone, it’s easier to think of him as dead to move on, otherwise it’ll be messy for years.

I’m intrigued as to what the other posts are.

anyway, it’s hard, you’ll cry, you’ll be angry, but you will survive.

Is he with someone else? What was the fall out about? He’s either meeting up with someone else or there was a big fall out?
Was it because you need a hysterectomy and he didn’t want to support you.

@TheOpalFox I've tried to be understanding on another thread, but why are you starting daily(sometimes more than that) identical threads, especially when you are already getting replies and support?

You honestly need to seek help from your doctor at this point.

Here are just a few of them from the last few days. There are at least 4 more

FFS not ANOTHER daily wail 😡

It was because he could no longer cope with her mental health issues.

Which is fair enough because not everyone is cut out for that.

Stop posting, start living
Focus on getting back into the swing of your life before they were a part of it.
He wasn't your soul mate
You will be ok

Why are you asking for our advice? You never reply so you obviously think it’s really shit advice, but why post again and again and again x100 if we give such shit advice?

Can’t possibly begin to imagine why he left…

I'm going to make one attempt to get through. @TheOpalFox there have been people in your sort of situation who have have support threads running for months, sometimes years, with 1000s of posts. Just posting the same thing over and over again achieves nothing, they can't be followed, there were people replying on your last but one thread (that you did reply to yourself a bit) but then you start another 2, for no reason, within a few hours.

Also, AIBU is not the place to ask for relationship support. Relationships is. Also, get some real life support and help.