Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

[Hydranga]

Currently on holiday with my sister, her husband, their 8 year old DS Amanda 14 year old daughter

i had originally booked it for just me, DH and Ds (8) but I invited them last minute at no cost to them as sister was stressed about money and not being able to take the kids out.

They have complained non stop about the food. First evening we got a takeaway but first morning they asked what was for breakfast so I said I had porridge or Greek yogurt and fruit and nuts. BIL burst out laughing saying “so it’s either prison food or bird food?”. Sister said “don’t you have anything in for the kids?” So I said I’d got the porridge for the kids and I have honey, jam or Nutella to stir into it. Teen rolled her eyes and sister said “I’ll go to shop later and get something in”. Was it really so bad???

that evening I made spaghetti bolognese. 75g dry pasta each and a 600g pack of mince shared between us all with mushrooms, bacon and various veggies. When I served it BIL pulled a face and said where’s the rest of it? They all started laughing - teen dramatically pulled a bit up from her plate and let it fall back down slowly whilst pulling a face. Sister said “what’s up with you?” And teen said “it tastes funny”. They all laughed.

I was getting pissed off at this point and told them they’re welcome to buy and cook their own food if they’d prefer. BIL said “oh here we go, here’s the catch” so I said no I’m more than happy to carry on buying and cooking but not to be insulted and laughed at. DH then decided to tell everyone I’m always on weird diets which isn’t true, I have ibs so I do try and restrict certain things but he made it out to be about weight loss which it isn’t. DS said he likes the food and DN said “yeah but you’re used to eating crap”

So yesterday I refused to cook. They’d bought their own cereals but when it came to evening meal I told them I was cooking a curry for us 3 so they might want to pop to shop and get something in which they did and came back with dohnuts and loads of sweet food. Fair enough.

tonight sister had told me she can’t afford to go back to shop as they hadn’t budgeted for repeated shopping trips. I’ve told her I’m cooking paella and they’re welcome to join us without insults. She said she’d talk to them.

as of 10 minutes ago teen was still asking what was for dinner so she clearly daren’t tell her.

Am I really cooking shit or being stingy?? I’m starting to wonder if it’s me

It doesn't matter if it's free. It also wouldn't matter if the portion was the size of a toddler meal. She's given them a free holiday and she's even feeding them. All they need to do is say thank you and offer to wash up.

If they are still hungry then they are free to feed themselves.

Why the hell is the portion size the focus here and not the rude and ungrateful guests?

I havent derailed the thread - ive offered valuable advice on what would be expected when you organise something like this

Its unfortunate, thumbelina, that you seem to lack the taste required for good food catered to your guests

Watery bolognese with a tiny bit of meat isnt what i'd offer. I'd offer a good helping of bolognese, cooked properly, in its fat yes, with enough pasta available to force a coma!

Thats what you do when cooking for people you like, we dont all like to exist on porridge and mushrooms thanks very much.

Oh FFS they're lucky to have been offered anything at all. Please move along with your watery Bolognese BS.

'Lucky to have been offered anything at all'

So they were supposed to cook for themselves, is that what youre saying?

I cant imagine renting out a holiday home with a fabulous kitchen, inviting people, and not expect to cater at least a good few meals. Especially the first days of the holiday!

I'd have planned breakfast and dinner and then discussed how dining would work. I have repeatedly said that, they as guests, should've offered to pay for food.

I also said I wonder if there's more here, as the comment from the bil suggests underlying issues rather than just this, which is maybe why they didnt offer to pay for food, I dont know.

Some posters on this thread seem to be confused by the word "Guest" when you are all guests in Self-Catering holiday accommodation.

If BIL and Niece wanted a bigger meal - 👉🏻 there's the kitchen, crack on, shut up or fuck off home and stop spoiling OPs holiday.

If my sister had offered me a free holiday I’d be in that kitchen cooking and I’d also be doing the food shop!

Tell them to either buy their own food and cook or go home. Enjoy the paella and the rest of your holiday.

I'd be telling them all to fuck off home! I certainly wouldn't be cooking for them or sharing my food with them ever again. Why are you cooking for everyone? They're a bunch of cheeky fuckers 😡

Yes obviously to adults are responsible for feeding their own family.

Obviously to CFs like you and SIL/BIL, that's outrageous.

I am not a cheeky fucker, i dont know where you got that. I love hosting.

God the sheer aggression on here, over something like this.

@Hydranga What you all doing when you aren’t eating or baking? Are you doing trips out or staying in the accommodation together?

my rule is if anyone cooks for me, is always say thank you and remember manners

I would cook one more group meal.

The first person to complain or pull a face would have their plate taken away from in front if them & put in the fridge. When they moan, Id point out if they dont want it they dont have to have it. The next one to side against you gets same treatment. Any moaning about hunger or finances...? They can eat what they were served or go buy their own.
Ideally lock any non-fridge items in the boot of your car first. And tell dh in advance.

Adult behaviour would be to discuss catering with your sister, but I just couldnt tolerate the neices or bil behaviour so woukd probably not manage to behave like an adult!

75 grams of cooked pasta is a small amount, yes.

What your AI generated nonsense has failed to comprehend is that 75g of uncooked pasta is a normal portion. It almost doubles in weight when cooked.

Stop using google AI before using your fucking brain.

@Hydranga you know yourself they are being ‘entitled rude twats’, just quietly seethe knowing this is the last holiday with you.

It’s always the freeloaders that are ungrateful and intolerable.

The guests were paying for ‘fuck-all’, so should be grateful that OP and her family shared their food.

It’s 75g per person btw.

They were invited only because OP felt sorry for her DSis not because she wanted them there. So she’s shared her holiday, then shared her food and the freeloaders couldn’t even show a bit of gratitude with thanking OP for the food she bought and cooked for them, instead they chose to moan and insult. If I was the DSis I would be having stern words with my H and children letting them know exactly how we came to be there and the generosity being given to us, so watch their mouths!

Gosh, you're as rude as the OP's sister.

I think youre rude. Someone is allowed to disagree you know, without being insulted 🙄

And i have said repeatedly how the sister should've behaved. In my original comment i said that their response was rude.

But i also said i would've served something else and that the op is being unreasonable in that respect

OP states: "75g dry pasta each".

I hope this is a wind up, if it's true I'd tell them to fuck off. They are unbelievably rude.. Your husband can wind his neck in too. They should all be embarrassed.

You were name calling. That is rude.

I think we’re agreeing the same point 😂

75g pp is fine.

I’m on holiday myself!! I’m not here to be a private chef! I have no ambitions to be the best “host” ever! I’m on holiday! I asked sister if she wanted to join us on holiday. She said she had no money to contribute so I said that’s fine, we’ll have plenty to go around. This didn’t mean I was expecting to be a “host” - just that we’ll all share the accommodation and food.
again, I’m not “hosting” I’m sharing